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NoMad
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So, I have been doing observations on Tinder more than participation, and let me tell ya, it's an interesting tool! Although there are exceptions to the rule, but there are some patterns clearly observable to a typical outcast (by choice) such as myself. Feel free to add.

1. Women of tinder are absolutely uninteresting. And mostly unable to write words. And those who do, like yoga and sushi. I mean, if you wanna stand out, maybe don't do what everyone else does.
Some who are more interesting, seem to have an art gallery of/for profile pictures.

2. Men also have an emoji fever. I mean, my age range is 25+ yet I see thes drawings that a 12 yrs old could do better to describe themself. All of whom are "very sporty" as well, which subtly tells me that they've got a lot of free time on their hands. (I work out, but I don't consider it an achievement to work out 2 hours a week. It's a task one does to stay healthy.) which usually means that they don't have ambitions and goals. Is this really the message they wanna send?

3. Bad beards throw me off more than beer belly and baldness. Bad artsy photos throw me off more than bad makeup. Toilet selfies tell me they are self-centered, and vacation photos tell me they are somewhat a show off. Liking to travel is not bad per se, but accompanied by cliché tourist photos, it tells me that they generally follow the herd.

Am I being too judgemental? Do you think social apps make it easier to judge others? Do you think the patterns of behavior in social apps mean something? Do you think these behaviors define us and our goals and dreams or not? Do you think...

Oh, whatever. Maybe I'm just thinking too much into it.
It's fun tho. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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    @Alice 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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    Quite true TBH.
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    @NoMad spot on! Now, shall we go on a date? I'm in belgium
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    @NeatNerdPrime
    Sure!* 😃

    *When I'm in Belgium
  • 1
    @NoMad what's your tld? If mine is .be ...
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    @NeatNerdPrime

    Lol. I don't have a domain myself, but ".de" would serve the purpose here 😜 I recently moved to Germany which is why I'm conducting social experiments left and right.
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    @NoMad then we're practically neighbours! In all seriousness though, as i told to @Alice as well, if you happen to be in antwerp, belgium, i'll treat for dinner, and a free tour!

    I'll shout when i'm in berlin
  • 9
    @NoMad we should visit together sometime, lol
  • 2
    @NoMad and @Alice is this a triple date? I do not mind at all! I'd be happy to be your host!
  • 3
    Ok, quick intro as to know what you are getting.

    35/male/antwerp/sysadmin-devops for a living/freelancer ftw/all music can be good, preference to metal/smokes weed/ has great network hardware/has guest room/has desk for guest/healthy food maker, without being hipster about it/has a belly but also a decent beard/snoring in bed is unfortunately a thing/lives by the principles of truth, virtue and laughter/ no emoji flooding/has a cat/...

    Devrant/Tinder intro typed in 2-3 minutes. Non exhaustive list.
  • 5
    I think that when you apply certain filters or have a certain image of people based on what photos they post, you might see them wrong.

    As in, maybe one person has a picture of them traveling but 'doesnt follow the herd' at all or in my case I've had a sporting picture on a dating site a while ago but I hardly have free time 😅
  • 7
    What's left if you remove all that you mentioned? Prison mugshot as profile pic?
  • 0
    @linuxxx that is unfortunately the risk you take by filtering... However we as humans do that all the time! Suppose given scenario where you are tindering ans swiping left and right like an orchestra conductor and you encounter such cliché pictures. It is highly possible that person is totally not like the picture wants to show, but that person chose to show that picture because he/she wanted to give that impression. So it was a deliberate message to gove across. That message hits you and then you either keep it or discard it. All this in a matter of seconds.

    Pictures and very short intro's can be deceiving, but consider that it's exactly that impression the person wanted to give to you.
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    @linuxxx

    I think it boils down to the combination of stuff used to describe one's self.

    For example saying that you like to travel and your photos are of Bali and Thailand, as a combination, says that you don't actually like to travel, but you like to go on tours.
    Another example is that if the most interesting thing about you is that you are very sporty without it being your profession, it means that you're deliberately missing out on other things in life. (the gym-goer is more than a myth!)
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    @1989

    I'm still searching for one dude whose smile doesn't creep me out 😜

    There is actually much more photos. There are festival photos (usually hippies), friends photos (to show they've got friends), the sea-side bikini/mankini photos ("I'm too sexy for your party"), the winter sport photos ("I'm rich and I know it"), the coffe-shop photos ("I'm trynna be cute!"), the bedroom mirror photos in a tux or something ("I'm sexy, and I've got a bed!") and more. Choose carefully 😜
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    @NeatNerdPrime

    If only you weren't so far away... 🤔
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    @NoMad i have pictures of myself with: my hardware, inside my colocation rack in the datacenter, cooking, anime conventions, just random shit.

    Well, i could come towards you, it's not a big issue for me.
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    @NoMad lots of if conditions. Algorithm is messed up.
  • 0
    Actually, wht not a meeting/dating functionality in devrant? @dfox @trogus
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    @NeatNerdPrime

    Geeeeeeez! No! 😨
    No to dating functionality in devRant! 🙅
  • 0
    @NoMad then we just keep on mass filtering people and potential soulmates for life.
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    @NeatNerdPrime

    Those mass filters are based on our standards tho. If we remove those, we might as well get rid of our standards.
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    So neatnerd is a potential soulmate trying something here I guess 😂 Neat stuff 😂
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    @NoMad that's perfectly fine! We as humans do filtering the whole time! We do want to keep standards to our self since we want people being compatible with our self. It's foolish to just 'take anything' since there will be too many compatibility issues.

    Anyways, forget the dating/meeting funcionality. Wanna meet? Together with @Alice so you don't have to be nervous and alone, plus have good laughs too! Antwerp is great and not expensive at all to travel to.
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    @NeatNerdPrime

    I won't be able to do it any time soon. Haven't settled down yet, and I have a list of people to visit around Europe as soon as I settled in.
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    @1989 well doesn't hurt to try. Chances are more likely to find someone herebthat's compatible or at the very least understands why i can sit hours and hours deep into the night at my workstation doing 'hackerstuff' until it is dawn again . my ex girlfriend did not understand any of it, what i do, why i'm so passionate about it... That was a major letdown when i started to go out with my ex.

    Therefore i believe my chances are higher here then on tinder.
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    @NeatNerdPrime Atleast you are being honest 👏
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    @NoMad my offer stands for at least a year.. Same for @Alice too. Or anyone actually in devrant community.

    That last line might be more then i bargained for...

    Honesty is key to a good life @1989 !
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    @NeatNerdPrime

    Major thumbs up for that. I would like some dude to understand that sitting in front of a computer for hours to fix something does stress me out and I don't "chill" by going out and getting drunk, but instead by staring at a TV show for a few hours.

    Seriously, my solitude seems to become more and more tempting as I get older. Which concerns me because I want to have kid(s) but being a single parent is really not ideal [for the kid(s)]. 🙁
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    @NeatNerdPrime I would like to do the hail mary but I know no one likes me 😂 As of today, I have started throwing bottles to sea using Bottled app 😂😂
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    @NoMad i like what you are saying... And you might like what I have in store for you, concerning tv series and such. I like what you say about kids. You seem to me like a thoughtful person.

    I'd like to meet you, videochat? Send an email to neatnerdprime@neatnerds.be and we'll see what happens.
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    @NeatNerdPrime

    😂😂😂 give it some time dude. My schedule is too full these days. (I'm not saying no tho)
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    @NoMad take all the time you need but don't complain you missed out when i'm gone in a year or so... Meanwhile i'll make it extra temptative with... Pictures!
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    *Third wheel sneaks away slowly**
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    "All of whom are "very sporty" as well, which subtly tells me that they've got a lot of free time on their hands ... which usually means that they don't have ambitions and goals"

    what the hell! I spend about 1.5 hours in the gym every single day, usually following a diet just because I enjoy looking 'sporty' and being overall healthy.

    How does that make someone look like he doesn't have ambitions and goals?
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    @ObiSwagKenobi

    I meant goals and ambitions besides looking good 😛

    But you might as well be one of those exceptions.
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    Speaking of Tinder, people near my area think Tinder is another Instagram, hence shows me men in women section.
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    @nothappy
    😂😂😂 I guess that's why you're "not happy" 😂😂😂
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    @NoMad there's a fresh rant about that
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    @NoMad
    I am in the process of drawing a comic about my experiences with online dating as a judgemental programmer. We should combine our powers to make a true literary masterpiece 🙏
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    @mordax

    Your rant on it was interesting 😂😂 I'd like to read other people's stories as well. Like a compilation or something. And not the stupid or annoying stories like how people come across a creep; but like, coming across people who are jerks on- and offline, or meeting the hot-bod dude and within minutes realizing the depth of boringness and then the guilt of ditching him (post or pre-sex), or the really unattractive dude who thinks he's a hot shot.
    The pool of single people available online is really massive, most of whom at least say that they're searching for love when in reality they're searching for a convenient relationship imho. It's just funny tbh!
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    The thing with dating platforms is that it's like a market, and everyone wants to advertise him/herself as well as possible as to get the best available option. Or just to get attention, that's another goal there.

    If @Alice and @NoMad there were a meeting in say Bremen, I'd be inclined to chime in, provided that I wouldn't have to participate in dating stuff.
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    @NoMad
    Oh yeah, the stuff I posted on here was relatively tame. I've got some really ridiculous stories. A favourite of mine was when a dude told me we could only date if I fit his extremely particular physical preferences and proceeded to send me a photo reference (a girl with impossible proportions and wearing yoga pants). Usually you go on a date and kindly let the person down, not give exact body measurements it takes to turn a hang out into a romantic date.
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    Not sure what do you expect. As far as I see you are assuming too much, and it sounded really weird that things like hitting the gym or making photos while traveling are considered too mainstream for you. You my friend sound like person who watches imdb movies with rating of 5 stars and listens to music from the 80s just to stay out of mainstream. See its easy to assume.
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    @zemaitis

    Those assumptions about me are true, just not the reason. I listen to 80s music because it's different from what we have now.
    Pink Floyd forever ♥
    Also, some 5 star movies are actually better (and heavier, and make you think more) than the 100 stars rom-com with zero value.
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    @zemaitis

    Also, I never said hitting the gym is the issue; I said describing yourself as very sporty, is not something that speaks highly of you. I consider working out a chore, something that should be done one way or another. But if you're not an athlete and yet very sporty, that talks volumes.
    I also didn't mention, but I dislike those who cannot write five words about themselves. If you've lived for 25+ years, you should know a few of your own likes and dislikes.
    Do I assume? Yes. But if the road is wet, the first assumption is rain, and second is flood, and not one average person would say "a massive kangaroo has pissed". You get what I'm saying?
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    @NoMad And then there are the profiles with a loooong list of dislikes about how the other one is expected NOT to be. When you see that, you know it's a frustrated and grumpy person.
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    @Fast-Nop

    Depends on the list. Sometimes he/she is just an anxious being. But yeah, I too like the likes lists better. It's more positive.
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