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jAsE
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Dear dating app users, especially you females,
If you say "I am sexually open minded" in your bio, this leads me to believe 1 or two things about you:

1. You are perverse, and/or;
2. I can't trust you commit.

If you say that in your bio, I instantly block you.

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    So you know you could always refer the females to a friend before you blocked them entirely... I might know someone that finds those characteristics somewhat, um, intriguing... Just a thought 🤔
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    Well, to be fair, the main reason why they post that is exactly so that you know not to look for them.

    It is not meant to appeal to *you* in particular, but to make sure you know what you are getting into.

    So it is indeed working :P
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    @M1sf3t all they have to do is use the app dude. Most of them use the same api now anyway
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    @M1sf3t "dreadfully distinct" . and yah that's a cool thing to do. I share some profiles to my pal before I discard them
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    @jAsE Haha, yeah those overly promiscuous "whamen" get swiped left.
    I don't have interest in a woman who fucked more dudes than she has fingers on one hand.
    It tells you a lot about their ability to commit to a long term relationship...

    I think quality women won't prefer dudes who fucked around a lot either.
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    @AleCx04 life itself ain't working dude when 90% of whamen are like this now lol it's disgusting
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    @jAsE May I ask if you know about MGTOW?
    (I'm not, but saw a lot interesting discussions about this and feminism on YT) 😄
  • 4
    @jAsE dude for real! Its like the thotpocalypse!
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    Do they? I'll be honest, between being in the south and aged over 30 I haven't found a dating app with a list of users in my area that didn't damn near make me feel like a pedophile for just swiping through the profiles 😅
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    @M1sf3t I think a lot of it has to do with over-photoshopping themselves, which is something that I absolutely detest. And don't even get me started on the 40% of young women who use filters to give them selves cat eyes and cat noses and car ears and use it as their profile pic ...AND those who ALWAYS POKE THEIR TONGUES OUT IN PHOTOS AND MAKE STUPID LOOKS. WHAT THR HECK??? Why is everyone so fucking weird these days? Why can't people just be normal?
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    @PonySlaystation think I would be a hypocrite to judge based on that criteria. I wouldn't say its always the result of commitment issues, sometimes it can be from shitty choices in partners other times you might just get stuck bouncing around from place to place and can't commit to anything long term whether you want to or not.

    You also have to consider younger people can still have commitment issues as well, they just haven't always come to light yet. Then by the same token, older people might have had them at one time but managed to work out whatever it is that was causing them problems and thus have come to be a very mature and settled person as a result.
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    Have you ever thought that maybe it's just a way to tell that the girl might be open to things like BSDM or [insert here the sexual thing that doesn't please everybody]?

    I'm not trying to defend anybody though xD
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    @jAsE I don't know dude, that's why I gave up on dating apps, between the generation gap and the snapchat filters I figured I'd be better off staying in my lane. Not trying to play daddy to a 22yr old... again 🤦🏻‍♂️

    Is it really weird to do what everyone else is doing though? I typically go for weird, or exotic as I generally like to think of it as... Generally I find that people that feel the need to add shit to their photos to make them stand out don't usually pick up on the ole Thompson radar.
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    @smb26 Hehe no worries 😄
    I think that if she's open to stuff like that, it would seem a bit too thirsty to just openly mention her openness. In my opinion such things are rather discussed at the appropriate time together. But nevertheless you have a point.
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    @PonySlaystation unfortunately in the land of online dating looks like most people of both genders think "the fast you know, the fast you decide, the merrier... next!"
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    @M1sf3t hah yeah I dunno man. It's hard. Not many people worth dating and everybody lives so far away it's almost not worth it. I dunno.
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    @jAsE "far away" might indicate your looking in the wrong places. I'm sure online dating works for some people in areas where its common for everyone to keep up with various social applications but around here you might have 10% of the population that uses anything beyond facebook. Then your tasked with setting up generic interest filters and swiping through pictures, the odds are definitely not in your favor. Especially locally and with distance, that's just one more thing to tack onto the the already complicated nature of maintaining a relationship.

    But when that fails, there's always the fallback of just physically getting out and being social. Not that all social events are ideal, but stick to those within your interest and you'll meet someone thats more than just physically attractive. At that point all you have to do is make sure you don't physically make an ass of yourself.
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    @M1sf3t yeah that's true. The area I live it's not "remote" but it's remote enough for someone who is sick and can't travel to not be able to do much. Kinda stuck. I almost went on a date with this girl the other week. She seemed really cool. Seemed to know just what she wants. The other day I said hi and she replied with "don't talk to me." LOL. Not sure what happened but ok. I'll move on.
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    "Dating app" and "committing" doesn't compute. Except if it's about the app's devs and Git, of course.
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    @PonySlaystation thanks for the link. I don't agree with it. That is I believe prideful and nothing good ever comes from pride. Even though things might make you want to do something like that, there's still plenty of food people out there. As hard to find as they are.
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    You are failing at the date app game
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    @mundo03 wrong. I'm actually winning.
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    @jAsE based on what you said, you don't know what winning is :p
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    @mundo03 I'm winning in the sense that I know what I want and I know I am avoiding the bad. The problem is what I want is hard to come by. I also have limitations which forget limits my options unfortunately. Do u have any tips on talking to girls? With most people I can barely make it past "hi how are you oh good" etc etc. Only very few people I can interact with properly
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    There is no tip on talking to anyone, just don't pretend to be anyone you are not, and don't pretend to change for anyone.

    So basically, stay true to yourself, like yourself, if you don't like yourself you will not know when someone else likes you.

    Pretty generic huh?
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    @mundo03 guess I'm gonna be alone forever then
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    @jAsE you do you, you will find someone along the way
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    @jAsE
    1- read the profile, it always have a hint what you can talk about
    2- listen a lot, if one topic is running dry, time to ask something else instead of insisting
    3- girls usually like to tell about what they like/their goals/achievements
    4- be positive, don’t be afraid of bad jokes
    5- keep your feet on earth, before going all romantic on a girl ask her if she’s into this type of thing or what she’s looking for.
    6- don’t send virtual hugs for God’s sake. It’s creepy to have a guy you never saw trying to virtually touch you
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    And think about the important things for yourself, if for you it’s important shared tastes/having a job/ambition you can go on those topics for example :)
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    And sorry for the unsolicited advice xD
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    @smb26 thanks :D
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    @smb26 good advice. that will come handy for my current dating apps attempt :)
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    @smb26 good advice but that's entirely too much work. To me dating apps feel like trying to pick someone up at a bar. Granted that opinion is somewhat from the outside looking in but bear with me. You pick the place your trying to meet someone based on your interest and what the place has to attract patrons. You get dressed up trying to look your best then when you get there you make, at least subconsciously, a general assessment of who you might find attractive based on looks. At some point you catch someones gaze and you work up the nerve to talk to them. You approach, spark up conversation and the in the back of your head your processing this whole checklist of do's and don'ts over and over again.

    This all works in theory but in practice not so much. I worked quite a few clubs and bars in college and can honestly say I've met more women in a bar tshirt reeking of old beer and vomit than I've ever even thought I had a chance at going out and "picking up".
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    @jAsE you would think, but they generally picked me to go home with over the dude reeking of Ralph Lauren and bank rolling her bar tab. 99% of the time it was just because I seemed the safer option to get home as opposed to mr try-hard, but when it came down to it, she only took the time to scribble a number down on one of our hands at the end of the night, at least the correct one, and I'd say at least half of the occasions I would be so exhausted by that point I wouldn't even think to ask for it.
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    None of thats to say that some people aren't good at being socially outgoing but generally if your to the point of asking advice you probably have a ways to go to get there and are better off like @mundo03 said, be you, be respectful and someone will come your way. To add to it, opposites attract and actions are louder than words so if your busy being yourself and doing what you do then odds are someone thats already socially adept will take an interest and at that point you can 86 your checklist and give your full attention to the conversation that they're happily guiding along.
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    @M1sf3t well, I gotta agree that if you try to follow the hints as a to do list it will surely fall. As a girl who used online dating I just listed what worked with me, if you look attentively it says nowhere “follow all of this and get the girl of your dreams!”

    Honestly im your analogy there’s only two things that really apply for online dating:
    - it’s not for everybody
    - if a person gets too much attention (both genders) ofc it might get picky with a boring line. It’s up to you to decide if you gonna go somewhere else or come up with something. But nowadays with the two steps of liking, I don’t think anybody get thaaaat attention on online dating.
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    @smb26 the same could the same about the bar circuit, those that get the most attention have heard all the lines. What I was trying to get at was that if your not very socially outgoing then generally when you attempt to be it's obvious your out of your comfort zone and you risk everything you say coming off as a line. Not that one can't learn but more often than not its better to just be your usual self and wait for someone to come along and take an interest that does the talking for you. In some cases, they've already come along and that isn't even your problem, your not picking up on the subtle hints they're trying to send you.

    That's not to rule out dating apps entirely, or the bar even, just that sometimes rather than putting so much thought on "trying", it might be better to just create a profile then let someone initiate the conversation w/ you. I guess you would still have to do some swiping, but then this is dating, no advice is going to be 100% 😂
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    You see sexually open minded and think "perverse"?

    I feel sorry for you bro, I know why you need the app to find a lady
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    @seraphimsystems relax :) I have very specific thing in mind when I say that. What are u thinking I mean?
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    @jAsE I'm thinking of all the things you can stick in all the different places, not necessarily one at a time....
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    @SukMikeHok dude, I am sorry for you
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