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oreru4718dyou made me laugh so hard!
it does ring close to home .. esp. the becoming dad part
oreru4718din my case we kinda planned it, but it doesn’t change the fact nothing prepares you to what really comes.
not to going from full rabbit fucking mode to old people fucking mode in a pee-test time
nor to going from enjoying life to having no time to even sleep, and everything revolving around the pink minime .. your existence fading out completely
iAmNaN69128dTry being the dad if a heroine addict. 😞 and beating yourself up, thinking, what did I do wrong?
VaderNT3028dI've been pondering for many years if I want kids. I'm kinda on the "no" side. Friends, coworkers, family all claim it's worth it, but... there's this nagging suspicion that they're wrong.
Your rant brought me further to the "no" side tbh.
Jilano181988dQuite a read, eh. *sips tea*
(That was a good one in the morning, thanks Jay-Jay)
@VaderNT @mochiknees I'm not going to tell you if it's either good or bad, worth it or not.
I will say though that this is a rant, and in such thing I will highlight the worst parts.
These worst parts, though, are a lot of parts, at least for a parent of 2 toddlers like me, which they say get a lot easier when they grow up.
To put in perspective I have 2 toddlers, 1 almost four, another pre 1.
I would say it's definitely a thing where you forget abour yourself and that there's gonna be a lot of frustration, loss of energy, sleep, sex, time for own projects, money, hell, there can be depression. It's basically painful.
So I guess to enter parenthood it helps to get into this mindset, like you're some tibetan monk about to start a spiritual journey of self negation.
From this hard process people come out differently, more confident, more patient.
It can also cause depression though...
Since this process is so demanding, a lot people nowadays decide to have them once their life is stablished, they have decent careers (and money), they have explored life, and they feel having kids is the missing piece.
I didn't quite do that and had my first at 24 (because I kinda wanted that package)
One thing that helped me (and I guess most other parents too) is the fact that I love these fucking things to death.
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