>contributes to an open-source repository
>ready to make a PR to solve a Github issue
>talks about the code changes with some domain experts
>was told that the issue is already fixed now
>realizes that the person who filed the Github issue is my ex-boyfriend whom I don't want to speak to ever again
>feel very angry over again
>I rage delete my branch of changes

Oh ffs

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    If you were totally over about your past relationship, you would've pushed the branch and moved on with your life, like it was business as usual.

    You wasted your time, and still didn't deliver value to the project.

    You took it personally.

    All this without your ex-boyfriend even knowing.

    Unfortunately, this kinds of emotional stuff happens in projects more often than not, and spaghetti code is normally behind some ego based decisions.
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    @bartmr well the issue is fixed anyway so I think I did the right thing trying to stay off of my ex's radar.

    I think I am allowed to grieve for my past relationship that way, am I?
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    @jennytengsonM Yeah, but it's not good to allow it to spread to another areas in your life. Grieving should not make our mood take the lead. Same thing with OCD, and other stuff that keeps our mind racing to the past or the future. It's ok to think about something from the past or the future, but not ok to act on it.
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    That code was not needed in the first place... I dont see how deleting that would be bad.
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    @bartmr it's okay to act on it, can help you to not act in similar situations in the future
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