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halfflat206326dPeople are shit. Self included. We can only work to make ourselves better, and avoid the worst of the garbage.
Unfortunately, most of us also need to work for someone else so as to have someplace to sleep, and something to eat. Which is pretty fucked up, when you think about it.
netikras2337026dSomeone once said: if you knew what that person knew, if you were in that person's environment [in his shoes], you would have said and done the same thing he said and did.
There's plenty you don't know that manager does. There's plenty of things steering him to make decisions he does and say things he does.
AlmondSauce877626d"I don't understand why you make your lives harder and why you find it so hard to tell the truth."
Sadly, because for some people it's simply ingrained. Lying is seen as "just part of the job", and the increasing blur between business and personal time forces an unhealthy expectation that your colleagues are always your friends & family - they're not, of course, as they'll often stab you in the back the first time it puts you down a leg and them up a leg.
My approach is to simply stay polite, but also distanced & neutral. Mentally reject these supposed offers of friendship in a work setting. Maintain that personal / professional boundary until someone's loyalty & friendship *really* comes to the test - and only *actually* trust them after the point they've proved they'll tell the truth & take the hit even when they had the opportunity to pass the buck & avoid the reprimand.