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F1973
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Misanthropes of devRant, I call for your help.

I have this sadist motherfucker who is a bit senior to me but always reaches me out to know my corporate status.

I have a done a project which is little known now in my field and community.

Now this retard always calls me up with his absolutely stupid ideas and indirectly asking me to give him a piece of share from that project. It has a good brand value that I created.

So he asks for that by convincing me to join his stupid project ideas and integrate with my project.

Moreover he keeps bugging me about my job search and forces me to switch fields because he did that and he believes it to be the right thing to do.

Until now I have been polite because I don't usually be rude to anyone even if I don't like them.

What kills it for me is, motherfucker sweet talks me into everything extracting every detail and then acts like he wishes best for me.

I recently got a good offer and he evidently was upset about it but did all nice talks.

Then when that offer was hanging he kept bugging me repeatedly asking about the status when I told him not to.

I said that if he really feels bad for me then why doesn't he refer me somewhere to which he has tons of excuses and goes back to the idea that I should become a dev and join him on his shitty project ideas.

And not to forget, he only talks making more money at the cost of others.

How do I cut him out? I owe him nothing and met online via a community.

There's nothing to learn with him except for the fact that how he manipulates people. It's just I don't want to just block him or be rude but want to cut off ties with him.

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  • 7
    Not responding works for me. If in person, I just sit there and stare at their face while they talk and talk and talk to try to ease their discomfort. If via chat, I just mute them.
  • 2
    @rutee07 will do. Need to be emotionally stable now.

    I cannot go without not responding to people.

    Having got soo little attention as a child, whenever someone calls or texts, I feel myself valued and obliged enough to respond.

    Going forward need to start ignoring noise to save time and energy.

    Any tips?
  • 6
    @F1973 I also feel bad when I feel like I'm ignoring someone but only if I consider them friends or good-natured people. This guy doesn't sound like a friend and sounds like a leech. He takes your energy, stresses you out, and you get nothing out of it. All the time you should have been productive or resting, no matter how much time that is, is wasted on him.

    Maybe keeping that in mind would help or tell him straight out that you're busy so please only reach out to you if he has a concrete offer as you don't have time for smalltalk.
  • 4
    @F1973 have that problem too, though.

    What you can try to do, is reading the stuff, but resisting the urge of answering. That way he'll think, that you are busy doing stuff. You keep that going, until he stops responding or changes his behaviour.

    It's normal that people don't answer, if they're busy.

    @rutee07 definitely agree with that.
  • 3
    @rutee07 that sounds like a solid reasoning to ignore cunts.

    Yes, on the other hand I have this friend of mine who has achieved equal or more in her corporate career like this guy.

    Met the same way in the same community.

    Now she is super busy person. Barely gets time to eat and sleep.

    Yet I can call her anytime and she'll gladly spend time talking to me as long as I want and always mock me to pay her consulting fees but ones of pure hearted person who legit wished well for me.

    Funnily I want to gift her that successful project of mine and she wouldn't accept.

    I feel like a leech who only takes and has nothing to offer her.

    So two drastic experiences.
  • 1
    @thebiochemic I did that once and bugger asks me whether I am angry or anything.

    I replied I am busy and he messages the next day.

    He is not extreme bad but his intentions don't make me feel good either.
  • 5
    @F1973 The difference is she is your friend and you actually offered her something, she just didn't accept it. The other guy sounds like one of those snakes who pretend to be your friend but in reality, keeps track of your progress so they can compare. I wouldn't be surprised if he stands too close beside you in urinals to see whose dick is bigger.
  • 2
    @F1973 yes stuff like that happens, you even don't need to tell him you are busy. He will find that out himself.

    Probably just say half a week later, that you're busy or something, and then keep going.

    If this guy thinks, he is your priority, you need to set that straight yourself. And it's not even with bad intention, because you just want to take care of your own sanity
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    @rutee07 yes yes yes. Exactly this and lol I am sure he'd compare dicks too.

    I mean everyone we spoke all he has done is comparison and validated his ideas via me.

    @thebiochemic this point is also very good as it helps me realise that putting my own oxygen mask before helping others is important. Need to start doing that.

    So a chic at work I Inspired to start looking for a job. I helped her a bit and she got a new gig and I am still struggling because I keep stopping on the way to help people.
  • 1
    Call him and be rude outright. Block him or ignore him as you wish

    He must not think of bothering you again
  • 2
    Just stop replying and give the same excuse. You are busy.
  • 0
    Am I the only one who doesn’t understand this? You are making assumptions about someone who is communicating with you online, who you are communicating back with, and you expect them to know that you don’t want to talk to them, when you haven’t been very clear about that??

    What is wrong with you?

    If your project is so good, go work on it and don’t worry about this person.

    Perhaps he looks up to you? And values your opinion? And sees your value so wants to work with you.That is a compliment.

    Perhaps he is lonely, why do people automatically assume the worst?

    You are so quick to assume the worst and assume bad intentions only from limited interaction online?

    You are the problem here. What ever happened to being honest? No one is forcing you to respond to him. You have all the power to block and ignore, yet you continue to subject your self to something you don’t like and let it consume your thoughts and even infect other places you socialise.

    Just stop!
  • 2
    @asgs I find it very difficult to be rude man.

    @iamai yeah that's what I am going to do now onward.

    @dontknowshit while I like the perspective that he might be valuing my opinion your username does checks out.
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