Do you catch yourself unintentionally flirting with a co-worker or interviewer?

No sleazy shit this time. No intention of dating, fucking, touching, or whatever. Subtle things like sweet jokes, playfulness, and laughing in a flirty manner (I cannot explain this one further, I'm sorry) then you catch the other person blushing and reciprocating.

We had a senior engineer join us several months ago. He's very smart and one of the best developers I've ever worked with. He has good presence in the tech world. The first time he joined us, I looked at his projects, contributions, and interactions. I thought "Wow, I can't believe I'm working with this guy." He's the opposite of the typical clumsy fucked up developers I work with. He's very sharp and his attention to detail is.. wow.

I have never seen this guy smile and he always looks stressed out or annoyed with our project members. I just mind my own business and learn the new tools he's given us. He's proficient with those while we're all just learning it. I turned the pain into my own little game. This guy has amazing technical skills and attention to details, let's see if I can get him to approve consecutive pull requests from me without a single review point.

After several tries, two straight months of around 2-3 pull requests a week and he gave me a more difficult task that he hasn't done yet himself. I completed it. We talked today and he told me that I'm the only developer he can rely on and that most of them are disappointing. Yes, he's blunt, I like that.

I always felt that he's a lot nicer to me but him telling me so and going on and on with some compliments, dude, I just started joking around and giggling like a school girl. Senpai noticed me and he noticed me hard. I've never seen him smile and laugh like that. He was blushing. After that, our interactions became friendlier.

I'm not saying that he's flirting back or interested. I'm also not pursuing this because I'm with somebody. It's just a thing that I noticed myself doing after the whole interaction. Reminds me a bit of that scene from Black Swan and the confusion of why I find Thomas so damn attractive. "I want to get him." Fills me with inspiration.

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    You know my answer πŸ˜…
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    I don't do that because as a man, you'll run the risk of being reported to HR behind your back because the woman changes her mind, and then the interaction has suddenly been "threatening" or something.

    As a man, better avoid anything that goes beyond professional interaction. Stay polite, but distanced. That makes you safe from loose cannons.
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    @Jilano The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, son.
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    @Fast-Nop I know you're serious but that comment had a different effect on me. ;)
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    @rutee07 We're not at work here, honey. <3
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    Flirt is a fun game 🀷‍♂️
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    Funnily enough, I know someone matching close to that exact description who left my current place a few months ago πŸ˜‚

    Never had that situation though. Pretty sure I'm not his type, and vice versa.
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    I at some point got a date...

    without me even realizing at first...

    with my senior...
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    @FinlayDaG33k Dangerous ground mate πŸ˜‚
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    If you are not really trying to flirt, it's just a playful relationship, where both of you enjoy the interactions and that's it.
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    @AlmondSauce she invited me to go watch some movies together and hang out at the pub.

    She invited me for that, I went home later that day and realized: "hang on... did she invite me to go on a date?"

    Luckily, it didn't affect our professional relationship at all even after it just didn't work out between the two of us.
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    Luckily most of my co workers are retarded.
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    Thank god I got old & useless.
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    @bhairavar That comment made me laugh. I didn't think I need it this morning. Thank you.
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