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gomsim23126dwhen things go well you lose your contacts and when things go poorly you wish you still had them.
iiii306326dI've never had contacts so I have nothing to lose
luxe01132126dAt first I tried to keep my contacts but eventually I realized it was too much work and it's just not worth it.
I'm graduating from my bachelors this summer.
It pains me to see people around me desperately trying to latch onto hopes of having a "contact" over the coming years.
I've seen all of this play out exactly the same way. Starting with promises, stronger than ever, to "hang out at every chance we get". Descending into "we'll still keep in touch on text" to Facebook and finally to only lesser visited platforms.
I know for a fact that this facade does not last more than a year. And the random spike in people rushing to connect with *literally* everybody near them on Insta will breed dishonesty in the network.
It's hopeless and somewhat depressing to see people rushing to prime themselves for nostalgia in these final days. But hey at least you get some memorable days amirite.
RememberMe1479526dI graduated college in 2018 and am still in touch with a decent number of people in various groups that I was involved in back in college because said groups continued being relevant (gaming, D&D, regular hangout group, etc). Also included are 4-5 good friends from school who I've stayed in touch with. It starts decaying pretty naturally and that's fairly normal, folks do move on. I don't expect regular contact for the others, even a call every few months is still contact.
Plus you keep meeting new people. I came to a different country for masters/PhD, met new housemates and friends and co-workers. Social networks are dynamic things.
mundo03479326d7-8k that is crazy.
I am assuming the story is incomplete because I see zero effort from your side to keep in touch with people.
The only think I will say with this information is'?: Relationships take effort
gibus47725dI don't know what to make of this.
You haven't lost all touch with your contacts: You could easily send a message asking to catch up for drinks, and you have a social circle.
The size of your social circle is proportional to the amount of effort you're willing to invest in it.
Some you're willing to invest more time in than others, you decide that.