Sometimes i think i can only find peace again when i am getting divorced.

If you can't fix it, that might indeed be the best option. Have you tried turning her on again?

She turns on and off all by herself randomly! What should i do!

@horus Depends on whether there is still some love or not. Could try romancing again. Officially transitioning to explicit mutual friendzoning can also help if there is no affection left.

Maybe there are just some minor relationship problems that piled up over time - they could be easy to fix one by one if they would be known by both sides.

A divorce isn't actually a fix for anything but just the formal termination of the mutual exclusive usage right.

@oktoloko there is plenty of love but living together is awfully hard. We found someone to take our son and went to a bar tonight. Feels somewhat better now. Has been a nasty week.

Ah, then definitely is a stress thing.

You are too caught up in your stuff (kids count to your stuff, both of you), that you forgot to reserve both some plural "you" time, which is basic for any relationship, plus some singular "you" time, which is basic for any relationship to last.

Mind you, I'm not saying "neglect your children". I don't know the circumstances, but if the children are of suitable age, send them to a pajamas party, summer camp, hunt their own food or whatever. It's fine once in a while.

@horus It always comes down to this.

Have you properly plugged her in?
Have you tried rebooting her?

If it still doesn’t work open a ticket and after a month (hopefully) some Indian (not racist 😅) will surely call you when you least expected at 03:45 at night to inform you that he passed your request to the technical team, while switching the ticket to you to save his (drama) KPIs.

But deep down you know the ticket is not going to lead you to a solution before the deadline line, thus you decide to YOLO and test your solutions in PROD, that sounds like life.

I hope i made you laugh, because it’s always better and more productive to think it as a drama joke rather than an actual problem.

You just need to find *your* punch line. Hohoho (dont hit her though)

@KALALEX, @CoreFusionX and @Oktokolo - thank you for posts back than btw, it helped a lot. Things went pretty much better since then.

@horus

Glad things got better for you! 🤟