I’m so sorry to hear this. My condolences for your loss. I feel these words are kind but never enough to express the sadness can empathy in these situations.

I had a lover die by suicide also. We were not together at the time but it hurt immensely. I still cared for her and wanted her to succeed.

We are the friends they are survived by. We get to tell our own story. The meaning is ours to attribute. I decided I did not want to end my plot at that time.

Gotta be realistic on the workplace. And there’s marginally decreasing returns at play too.

Shit code, shit pay = grind for experience job jump ship asap

Great code, shit pay = charity work, stick it out a bit longer and get good skills

Great code, great pay = recognize it when you got it. Great code is not perfect.

Shit code, great pay = you’ve gotten golden handcuffed, you aren’t really growing but they’re paying you to give up and maintain their monster

@Demolishun setting aside the intentional misunderstanding of how floating currency, profit motive, and the motive for a social credit system existing, there is zero evidence that social programs cause this dependency at scale.

@kobenz you did not just tell the gunshot victim to poke holes. Mans got enough problems with holes, he don’t need anymore.

I couldn’t have said it better. I’m experiencing something very similar as I reckon with my own substance management.

We must accept that the past is out of our control. We must access what of the present is in our control. We must examine what actions we can take to self actualize the defeated visions of the past with the controllable elements of the present and future.

Lisan al gaib

@pandasama why do you think that would happen? Management is a different skill set entirely.
You learn management skills on top of engineering skills.
Your engineering skills allow you to have intelligent conversations with the engineers. You do need them.
Your management skills decide what those conversations will be about.
These are totally different, and there’s a good chance you demonstrate the management requirements now. Don’t be afraid to apply.

I really think driving tests shouldn’t be forever. You need a refresher once or twice a decade

On the one hand good on you for not going to an echo chamber, on the other, why is this on dev rant lol

A therapist once told me a great piece of wisdom: you can’t change anyone’s “want to”
And here want is like “I want to live my life expressed as I truly feel.”
It your daughter is just exploring her sexuality or is finding she is fully gay, you must ask yourself:
What kind of relationship do I want with my daughter? This is your child, you have the increasingly rare blessing of being a parent, do you want to cherish that with the one thing we know is real: this life, or do you want to destroy it for someone’s ancient vision mistranslated and put into an agenda?
I can’t change what you want to do, but consider the outcome of which want you should answer…

Ps also jumping right to sexually charged idea is a stretch. These girls might just be touch starved, modern western culture is so weird about touch and closeness when really it super natural and way more common in older societies.

Read some books about parenting teens. You can read things you disagree with and still learn.

Your toilet posted this

Sucks you got fired but lol at not completing the anger management class for your work which definitely already has all your info?!

What did you think was going to happen?

@kanyewest I think you should try having this discussion with black people irl…

Also, go meet some LGBTQ people.
Nothing cuts through hate like company. There is a black guy who has made it his mission to befriend and de radicalize KKK members. If he can do that which is actually dangerous you can meet some people who mean you no harm.

Yes I have one.

They are bad ideas with worse execution. Interchangeable components make sense. Smart TVs are the anthesis of that. Sure you can loop on a Roku or something to an older one but its still an annoying concept and so much wasted effort reinventing the wheel for each tv os

Also if population control were an objective, it would be way easier with free birth control and real sex ed.

LGBTQ people often want and have kids.

Just know that LQBTQ people generally accept you. And then vote and support policies and politicians that do not criminalize their existence.

It’s fine if it is not your thing. Just don’t wield the law to make what you don’t like illegal.

Also, don’t treat being not straight as the biggest aspect of someone’s personality. Sure, some people make it this massive point. But rarely is it really more than straight people do in general.

That’s actually a good bar. If you see something gay imagine the same act but straight. Does it bother you? Usually no.

Why were you going through her phone?

@kobenz they only felt imposter syndrome when the truth social stock crashed

I’m just much more on the cbd oil, multivitamin, and a 2 day fast side of wellness.

@Hazarth I would think this runs text processing in the client’s machine. Not like it’s some big miner or ai model to do OCR. There might be CO2 impacts on a coal grid but not much more than just running the laptop for any other purpose.

I thought you were a god?

@fullstackcircus what blows my mind is it all charges to to my Apple Card in USD at the end of the day?! Literally what the hell.

@lungdart this is known as taking the piss mi amigo

You know how to get ahead in business: make friends and influence people 🙃

@jestdotty also I’m calling it that the fear of falsification is projection. I can take my stances on issues to the mat in a debate.
I’ve changed my mind in my life and I’m open to new info. Are you?

@jestdotty ??? It’s demonstrable lived experience.
If you enjoy living a consistent, live somewhere where nothing ever happens, then ok, you probably don’t feel this way. I lived 20 some odd years in such a setting.
But if you get out and engage, it’s hard to miss.
And sure it’s bitching thread. I’m not unhappy but these are in fact problems.
And that the thing with first world problems, the feel so solvable of only we were as free as we claim to be.
Not that we’re oppressed, by comparison, just not quite as free as we wish to be perceived.

Obviously this is all better than being in an actual war zone but if it’s built on so much exploitation and inequality it feels like a powder keg just waiting to detonate.
Weirdly, at the current moment, the people who have benefited the most from the inequality and oppression are largely the ones causing the most disturbance, but that can shift in a minute.

A problem is that it is crushingly lonely & difficult to build community and friendships.
Everything is capital driven so you can be forced to move or your friends can be flung across the country or world for money.
Simultaneously, everyone is aware of the fact we are precariously not in a conflict zone, but violence pervades the world. So they are reluctant to connect w/ strangers.
No one seems to care about the absolute slaughter that is car travel and pedestrian deaths. The death toll is like 9/11 happens every month in the US nobody bats an eye.
In fact when we propose developments that deprioritize cars or some limits to make them safer, there is immense pushback.
To solve this many of us desperately want to live in a walkable city block,
But recalcitrant nimbys block every walkable development leading to those of us who want to live somewhere fun and social crammed into the existing developments leading to a choice between a disconnected existence or skyrocketing rent.
people delude themselves about the monetary cost of driving alone so even if you do get cheaper rent it’s almost always eaten up by car maintenance.
You can go in to 6 figures of debt for a degree that won’t land you making 40k per year (this is not enough to pay back the loan maybe unless you live with parents, the take home on 40k is usually closer to 30k and then that assumes your health care isn’t crazy)
But if you have a great business idea, no one is going to loan you 100k unless you have experience running the type of business you are asking for a loan to run?! The business might make money, the degree definitely won’t!
In general there’s a feeling that it’s harder to get started and move up, and the people at the top view your success as a threat and will attack you to stop it. The market is not free, it’s oppressed.
And it kind of makes sense, silence and security is cheaper than innovation and care.
Also, you could get sued anytime.

Antisocial media. This is so apt. Socials are to the internet what car dependency is to cities