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Arrg there are several flaws in my text but i cant edit it anymore. Shit lol
> How can i stop having nightmares
The nightmares don't stop..
On the plus side, you can act out many situations online, its quicker and less stressful !
> So i dont do them
Doing them would help.
> thinks of me as stupid weirdo.
Yeah, I get that, a lot !
Not sure I have many answers there, except, if you become rich, folk won't care so much.
Or if you can find a circle of friends.
Which can be difficult geographically as usually the next nearest compatible person is like in the next country !
> thats no reason for being stupid.
People are generally born like that, and you can't change it.
> Can you please ellaborate?
Sure, lets say you want to ask women out.
Joining dating sites and do that.
After asking out 250,000+ over several years, I can say the experience has been, educational.
Collected a lot of data, useful bits here and there.
Still a nightmare to do it though..
Want to know what its like walking down a street in a dodgy neighbourhood, play Battlefield 4 !
Ever wondered what it was like working for a company, or running your own ?
Play Eve-Online and work for a corporation, or run one yourself !
I tried several different management styles to see which was more economically productive.
Dictatorship wins !
> nobody takes me seriously
It is really hard to find folk who do, at least I find.
Many folk have no concept to what I'm talking about even most of the time, let alone understand me !
I've tried starting a few Facebook groups and they are very slowly filling up with folk who are smart and understanding, and not complete idiots !
But its taken a few years, just to find a couple of hundred like such folk who share a common interest.
Though facebook is hardly a good tool, its about the only one out there for large scale networking. (Just don't post more than 14 messages per 24 hours, or you risk a temp ban..)
Obviously, we need a better tool than Facebook. :-)
Here isn't too bad, but its very unstructured and in early development.
But at least you can type a fair bit without the system banning you for talking too much !
Though it does appear to have anti-flooding features..
> is that really working so well?
I assume you mean the dictatorship bit.
Hard to tell without threaded messaging !
In the non-dictatorship approach people spend a lot of time arguing about whose going to do what, and not much time actually working..
Then you get folk who have personal agendas that are at odds with the group aims.
Usually, they want wealth themselves, and want everyone else to work instead..
A dictatorship, if you get a good dictator, can mean anyone trying to avoid work is sacked. (After being given a suitable warning, but usually folk don't listen!)
But you have to listen to what everyone says, and wants.
You aren't really there to do what you want, but to do what the group wants, collectively.
You are the boss, but only in sense you order folk about, after everyone's told you what they should do !
Or task is to figure out whose right and whose wrong about solutions. :-)
Note: testing solutions works well !
Then just run with what works.
> to avoid addiction
Addiction is everywhere in life, food, gambling, money, sex.
It helps to try and develop a thick skin of resistance, to do what you want to do, rather than what your instincts tell you to do.
Hey look, another pizza !
Hey lo/dok, a hea4rdt attacwe'k !
Meditation can help there some.
As well as being incredibly stubborn. :-)
Do what you want, and to hell with what everyone else wants to do.
So to speak.
Minus the, don't do things that will complicate your life.
Like say, robbing a bank.
Working in a bank, starting your own bank, all good things. :-)
> im lazy and there are too many
> useless homework
Often getting ahead in life is getting the useless stuff out of the way.
Think of it like, putting the trash out, washing up dishes, or cleaning the bath.
No one likes doing it, but it makes life easier if you do.
Lazy just means you could end up homeless and penniless and wish you had done things differently.
Not easy mind you, I'm suffering lately from it myself.
A social network can help there, if you have folk to talk to. (Like here..)
It can help lift your mood, and motivate you a little.
It isn't an easy road, but it is one you can travel.
> "act on the internet bit"
Yes I find that incredibly useful.
I can test out a huge number of possible solutions involving real people to see what works best, and worst.
All without too much risk of physical injury. :-)
@linuxer4fun I somehow get the impression that you are located in Germany, and that you are not yet in the Abitur.
// What a wierd word. Especially after a few years not caring.
First of all, there are nerds everywhere, so the hole "find interesting friends" shouldn't be a problem anywhere.
A switch of school might be a solution too.
Here in Germany, we have "Berufsschulen" who also host a "gymnasium" in the specific domain of the school.
I can say that it was one of the best choices that I made, to switch to such a science centered BBS Gymnasium.
@linuxer4fun Well, it's worth a try.
And probably still a while untill you could switch.
Well, you can actually switch from the 9th grade to the 11th grade on a BBS Gym. At the end of the 11th, you'll automatically get your "Realschulabschluss"
You should have a look at possible schools and such, and I'm pretty sure that you can convince your parents about switching.
Statistics for those schools are quiet good.
Well, it's your choice.
In my experience, those who jumped from 9th to the bbs gyms 11th were off better then me and some others who did the normal conversion after the 10th grade.
To be frank.
The 9th and 10th grade are to if statements in your life.
Do you want to continue in school, or do you want to start working and training a job.
Staying in school is a lazy and easy way, unless you are sure that it is what you want to do.
Check your options thoroughly and choose wisely.
Try to master it, like say, gambling:
Buy just one lottery ticket a week, and limit yourself to only one, never buy two !
Allocate say 1 hour a week to social media, create only one facebook group.
Watch only X hours of TV a week.
I think with practice and self discipline, one can help develop more control.
I think there are some Eastern arts dedicated to that kind of thing.
@linuxer4fun In that case, I recommend a vasectomy. :-)
Else a future of child support payments awaits you..
Oh and life insurance, so when you die of overweightness before you retire, your SO doesn't die in poverty.
Discipline is a very useful skill to develop.
Though I'm not sure one can develop that last one. :-)
I suspect folk are either born with it, or not..
But I think the former can be trained.
@linuxer4fun With poor discipline, its pretty easy to accidentally help produce kids.
It only takes one time. :-)
And then you are paying for the next 18 years..