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horus1632253dMaybe it would help to see youself, your physical und psychological as your main project to hyperfocus on. Everything else are side projects.
Please don't get married or a child if you don't feel *absolutely* ready. I felt I was but it's still exhausting beyond imagination.
And what the fuck she expect you to propose? If she wanna marry you, she could propose herself. Or you could decide this in an adult talk without one person setting the other under pressure. I mean what the fuck we live in the 21st century for gods sake. Ok I have to admit I have no idea where you live, maybe in India or such and things are different. But still, if you wanna be parents you *must* be able to talk and decide something together, mustn't you?
About the job-socializing - i can understsbd that it's sometime necessary to attend, maybe you can overthink the amount? Maybe one well chosen event the week would be enough?
AnxiousADHDGuy513252dI hope nobody will get mad but I created a reddit post https://reddit.com/r/... so feel free to comment in there because I dont want to copypaste all of my answers in here. Also feel free to advice where else could i post to get more feedback.
I feel very down and I dont have anyone else to talk to. Any opinion is appreciated.
lankku353252dWhoa, I've been working for 6 years now and I've not attended a single "social event" at work.
People don't need to have sex every day, like even once every two months is enough. There are more important things in life than being bunnies. Like hugs and cuddles and SLEEP and me-time.
And based on my experience, the raises are a myth (also for those colleagues of mine who've been through the social ladder). Only ~certain way to get a 'raise' is to switch jobs.
Just chill, do your regular hours, turn off work phone & computer. World doesn't crash if you're off work. And if it does, there's something very badly wrong in your workplace. No one person should be irreplaceable.