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I am terribly triggered.

Somebody please lift my mood.

Music helps me everytime but it won't help today.

I can't even cry it out as I am at work.

Please help.

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  • 6
    Hmm, kicking a trash bin is what usually helps me
  • 3
    Good night :D
  • 1
    @DefiniteGoose nope.

    @Codex404 not funny now but thanks for trying
  • 8
    @rutee07 nope. I don't care anymore about that fucker. Just saw my crush.

    Emotions left for a roller coaster ride.
  • 4
    Remember when it was hard for you and everyone told you many things? One of those things helped. Remember what helped last time, and apply again
  • 8
    I’m on a 1.5 hour train ride with 2% battery... I want to listen to ma music!!!!!!
  • 3
    Try to drop a table somewhere, It helps.
  • 2
    @hubiruchi thanks. Trying my best while I shiver to death.

    @mokoshalb not funny but thanks for trying
  • 10
    I love you
  • 5
    Listen to some really dynamic music, helps consume the agitation and leaves you focused and calm
  • 10
    1%.... fuck I’m not gonna make it, if I survive this journ...
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    @C0D4 not found!
  • 2
    @Floydian remember the flowers I sent?
  • 4
    @gitlog not funny but thanks for trying
  • 3
    @Floydian OK guess this is serious then..
    Try listening to "May it be" by Enya on repeat while concentrating your mind on all the good past.. Works much for me.
  • 1
    @gitlog no sev yet but no thanks for trying
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    @gitlog are you @floydian?
  • 3
    I'm sorry that you're feeling shitty, I can relate. :( One of the best things I know to distract yourself is to find entertaining subreddits to browse. I don't know many off the top of my head, but I just searched around for a bit and I found this one: https://reddit.com/r/CrappyDesign/

    I hope it helps at least a little bit. :)
  • 3
    Cheer the fuck up
  • 1
    .... Floydian downvotes me for that :(

    Enough seen.
  • 9
    @Floydian man I'm going to say it again, you need a pet or a hobby (or maybe both). An alternate source of happiness and satisfaction. Music doesn't count here, you need something that you're -doing-. Work doesn't count either because you don't derive that kind of happiness from work (I mean sure you may like your job but you're not doing it just for the sake of doing it).

    You have tied your happiness to the event of you being able to be with your crush - never a good thing, especially if it's not likely/possible. No matter what you do, this is going to keep hurting unless you fix that fundamental issue.

    Sorry to be so blunt, but if it's not going to happen then you need to start working to get over it, you can't let it steamroll willy-nilly over your emotions like this all the time.
  • 2
    @Cyanide XD

    Bhai sev khane ke liye doctor ne abhi mana kar diya h :'(

    Funny... Thanks for trying
  • 4
    Just say what you feel to devDuck. Those ducks are good for many things.
  • 2
    @Cyanide I love you too bro.

    @ameware wouldn't help a bit.

    @hubiruchi no bro. Which one?

    @mokoshalb sure. I might try but no mood for music.

    @Navigatr thanks man. Reddit might work but this would require some time to process.
  • 3
    @Cyanide @sifun @xkill Ladki ka chhakkar babu bhaiya
  • 1
    @Floydian dont say its the end of the road
  • 4
    @sharktits trying my best man

    @RememberMe you are right. I am trying to get over it but it's just not working.

    I cannot get a pet, but hobby would be a good idea. I don't know what to rn. I am just lost af.

    @Haxk20 I am so alone and lonely that I don't even have a devDuck.
  • 8
    Weird idea, but you could fire up a VM and rm -rf / it (or delete system32).
    Or, to get your mind off it, you could open (MS|Open|Libre) Office and write "FUCK" and other curse words (or anything that's on your mind, actually), then try to add color and styles to it, maybe even use the good olds wordarts. As you focus on this, your mind will drift off it, and if you encounter any bug or anything that makes you ask yourself a question, you will then go to Google it and little by little, start thinking if other things. Music can then soothe your mind a bit further if it needs it.
  • 2
    @hubiruchi it's not the end but fucking kills me everyday. I live in fear.

    Time to go back into darkness. Time to be alone for sometime before I recover. Funny thing is these are the times when we need humans and I plan to go alone.

    Tables have turned in every aspect of my life.

    Just made a huge loss in my stock market investments.

    Everything I am trying is just backfiring. Definitely not my day. Definitely not my time.
  • 2
    @gitlog ye chakkar kai logo ko ke dooba
  • 0
    @Brosyl anonymous venting is a good thing that's not the solution to this.
  • 1
    @Brosyl love that <3
  • 3
    @Floydian. Well fuck thats sad. Then talk to your RAVEN.
  • 2
    @Floydian here's a thing that helped me and that anyone can do - writing.

    In the morning, every day, before doing anything else, just write down your stream of consciousness thoughs. Aim to fill up at least two sides of the page with any damn thing that comes into your head. And then throw it away. This is important. Don't keep it. Don't even read it. Just throw it away. It forces you to confront your mind and get all the negativity out.

    And hey if you write something you like, post it somewhere!

    Another thing you could do is visit old age homes or orphanages - I think you're the kind of person who likes cheering others up. Volunteer at children's schools. That sort of stuff.

    Origami and other crafts are also good things to take up, as is photography and videography - heck even collecting equipment can be great fun, look at @oudalally's collection of film cameras and lenses.

    You could make maps. Translate old documents. Just force yourself to find something and get lost in it.
  • 2
    @Floydian Ah, yeah, ignoring it completely is not a good idea, but distracting yourself until you can get time to yourself (like until you get home or so) can be a good idea.

    When you have the time to do so, it might help to let yourself dig into those feelings just to let them out. Cry if you need to, or punch something if that's what you need (or both).

    For a wound to heal you first need to clean out the infection, and that usually hurts quite a bit depending on how deep the wound is. But afterwards it feels a little bit better and you can start to heal and recover.

    It can also be good to confide in a friend who will listen to you and let you vent as much as you need. Point is, the infection won't kill you as long as you take care of yourself.
  • 6
    go to your boss, tell him you feel miserable and you'd like to take the rest of the day of.
    Put your favourite music on and board the train to Chhatrapati.

    Then you walk through whole Mumbai. From Chhatrapati to Juhu Beach. Yes that's a 4 hour walk. Enough time walking for forgetting every sorrow. After you watch the sunset at Juhu Beach you'll get an ola cab to the Phoenix Marketcity. Go to the beer restaurant on the top floor. Try every beer on their menue. After that you'll be fit and drunk and will sleep well.

    good luck

    + that's a cool story to tell your friends, "once i've walked throughout whole Mumbai" "whaat?"
  • 3
    Maybe you'll like seeing this in satellite view:

    https://google.com/maps/place/...
  • 4
    Have you tried turning it off and on again?
  • 1
    Dude.. You are just great sad to see you like this.. We all. Love you..!
  • 4
    Totally agreeing with @RememberMe

    Get that brain busy! Bring attention to yourself rather than spreading yours to others
  • 4
    I was shocked. Thought my testicalman joke was too far. phewwww.

    Why cannot you cry at work? Cry. Go to toilet. Weep yourself out. Can also pee if you feel like it. Crying helps. If we can laugh at workspace, why cannot we cry at workspace?
  • 6
    @Floydian
    Being emotionally unstable.
    I know that feeling very well.
    I've suffered from it many times in my life, and I'm still just a kiddo, but...

    From what I've gathered, the only thing you can do is dig yourself in your little comfort zone. This may be anything, from looking at art, to hearing music, to reading books or comics/manga, to watching movies/anime, YouTube videos, playing videogames, playing instruments...
    Anything that you'd find nice to do.
    Do it. It will help, I can personally assure you that.

    Remember that, even in the darkest times, there are still people who contact you, people who you may like, people who like you back; mutual friends. Talk to them if you'd like, true friends ALWAYS help the best they can.

    Life is a rollercoaster, that's why your emotions change too. You may feel down, but it does get better eventually.

    https://youtube.com/watch/...

    I hope I helped a bit.
    Virtual hug from me 💙
  • 4
    @cursee @Floydian

    Well, don't know if it'll cheer you up:

    this monday i met a crush, she randomly kissed a guy, i was drunk and got so much in despair i ranted about it (whining and such :D) and told to other friends "I'm useless, worthless etc etc etc" some needyful shit you say in such situations when you are BORED in life

    Then the next day I was surprised to see +50 notifications, and after re-discovering my drunk rant, I deleted it xD

    My mood now? Idgaf, I'm happy in my life, and booze just undigged a previous situation

    Do your things, move around, get busy, talk to people, if it works, great, if it doesn't, who cares, next!
  • 2
    @Phlisg lol it was you. I remember that rant. I even left a 2 cent sandwich comment I think :P
  • 2
    @cursee hence why I mentionned you :) rant was ridiculous and well, drunk-written xD
  • 2
    Get busy is a good advise. Specially with retarded but addictive funny sites or things that you love to do.

    I'd try that. :)

    And get better, man. This kind of thing sucks
  • 1
    Big kahuna always cheers me up! https://youtu.be/xkgbWGBmgN8 enjoy it!
  • 3
    @Floydian bro aise time pe arijit Singh hi Saath deta hai, same scene Mera bhi hai
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  • 2
    Automatic mood-lifter
  • 1
    Whenever i'm like that i go back to an old dilemma i had :

    If two people cal each other vegetables and a serial killer cuts them in pieces should it be called a salad or kebab?

    I have a few more but that's one of the greatest dilemmas I've had and it keeps me calm to focus on the question.
  • 2
    I sincerely hope you'll be fine in the future.

    Dark times are necessary.

    Think like yin-yang.

    It helps me a lot to go through really hard times.
  • 3
    @heyheni this also does a great job of humbling you and reminding you that your crush is not the only person out there! I’m sure you will see many types of people on this walk and many will be beautiful.
  • 4
    My favourite German meme. Sending manly jokes which completely fail to address the serious of the situation but it's all I got.
  • 5
    @RememberMe great ideas. Yes, I just love helping others. I love cheering people up and supporting them even if they don't know that I am doing something for them.

    I am trying to find a hobby but just lack skills to do it. I am trying to start the sticker thing but shit doesn't work. But yeah! I'll try being a good human being as that's the least I can do. I just thought of this. Thanks bro.

    @Navigatr I agree. I need to distract myself and keep busy to recover. That's what I am doing. I am overloaded with work but I am doing it as I have learned (from past experience) that it helps. I talked a friend or two. I have nobody tbh. People pull themselves away as I lack social skills. But I am trying my best. I am sure, time will heal every wound. Thanks bro.

    @heyheni hahaha great idea. I have explored the city on foot a lot. And just wow that you know so much of my city and remember that I am from Mumbai. I love my city with every drop of blood. Mumbai is home.

    @gitlog I tried the map, but it takes me to some weird location. Can you throw some light?

    @fuck2code great idea. Do they need sunlight? Because I love gardening and tried few times but the saplings wither off.

    @theKarlisK doesn't work 😭

    @Deadmau5 thanks bro. I love you all as well

    @Phlisg being busy is the key. Fuck up is, I see her almost everyday and it triggers and then I am unable to get her off my mind. If I could not see her, then I can move on.

    @cursee I have lost the ability to cry. My tears have dried up long ago. I desperately want to weep and sob, but just cannot.

    @Gaetano96 I am sorry that you had to suffer the same. This sucks. Sadly I have nobody in my life whom I can reach out or talk to. But I will try my best. Thanks for the link. Will surely watch.

    @Phlisg fuck!!! You are emotionally brutal. Fucking brave. I wish I was so strong. I would have literally died if I saw my crush or ex do that.
  • 2
    @Bitwise be glad that you never had any crush. Nothing sucks more than this.

    @S-Homles-MD what?

    @brunofontes wasting more time on Reddit now. Hope this passes soon.

    @GabrieleR thanks. Will surely checkout.

    @drekhi12 bhai depression me chala jaunga.

    @dontPanic this is nice. Thanks.

    @Maartz not to be pessimistic or oppose you, but my dark times never pass. This is chronic darkness. Lol

    @polaroidkidd you tried and that's more than enough for me. I love German stuff and this manly meme make me feel good. Could you help me translate?
  • 1
    "This is a flamethrower. It throws flames."

    There's light at the end of the tunnel my friend!
  • 1
    Despite work and the general population being filled with slimy pieces of skin that possess less brain power than a cucumber, there are still good people in the world and any good you do will at least benefit them by improving their life.
  • 2
    @Floydian look up "Gabriel Iglesias" on YouTube he's also known by "Fluffy" ... trust me - he's surely to be able to lift your mood
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    @fuck2code let me buy one. Thanks for this idea.

    @polaroidkidd I hope that light isn't a train 😂😂 because I don't trust my luck, destiny and karma anymore.

    @DucksCanCode powerful comment and some true words there. Thanks.

    @theKarlisK yes have seen him. I love George Carlin though.
  • 2
    @Floydian ooh, so do I! His bit about the missing couch and the cat " where did the couch go? Surely it didn't get up and walk away..." kills me every time. xD
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    @S-Homles-MD @floydian
  • 1
    @jeeper yes, the slums along the way (bandra) are devastating and a great reminder how good you have it.
  • 4
    Hope I am not repeating something you already know, but:

    @Floydian Man, I had a crush at work, we were getting along well, and suddenly she shut down all communications.

    I was sticky, needy, insisted we did things together, hence why she stopped.

    After a month, now, I don't even gaze upon her, she smiles at me, talks to me, without me doing anything. Actually, no, what did I do? I started being indifferent to what I tell her.

    Now, if you're not doing what I described above, but rather come across each other, have a quick polite smile (are you shy?), and move on without saying a word, well, that's something else.

    Think about your self confidence, if I may, you seem to question yourself (according to what you wrote). If you're nervous, write down a few things you could talk and anticipate coming across her. Do not expect her to be there, just let things happen.
  • 3
    Something else: take the time to learn more about the person. Often one would feel happy when things seem to go well, most of the time the other person is just being kind. Talk more with her, watch her as she talks (fixing you in the eyes for long periods, touches her hair, is turned towards you, smiles...), find common interests, reflect on her words, just to keep learning about her. Eventually you will find there's nothing to say and naturally you'll become uninterested and staying yourself, which is not bad as it's experience you can take.

    If you have humor or spontaneous jokes, use them to make her smile/laugh.

    One huge clue: does she laugh for litteraly _anything_?
  • 3
    Biggest "rule" I can say: do not engage yourself emotionaly when you talk to her, meaning, do not expect anything from her when you say something. Say things "indifferently", like you do with friends and "taunting" them for fun. Do the exact same. She's a friend, not an alien. For me at least, it gives me a few "skills" like knowing if a girl is free, if she's seeing someone, or she's not interested at all but happy to develop a friendly relationship instead, and worst case, not interested at all. Plus, now I do not care whether a girl likes me or not. If I like one, I'll engage conversation for a short while, never too long, not to "make any mistakes".

    If you struggle coming up with something to say: 1. work, 2. something funny that happened to you, 3. something funny that happened to you both when together, 4. actually doing something she bet you wouldn't do, etc.
  • 4
    Lastly, if I may, _accept_ your situation. Accept being sad, being happy, being angry, but, do question yourself as to why you're suddenly bursting out of joy, why you're sad, etc. Work around them. Also, stop finding excuses :D

    I'll see myself out, but hope it could help or highlight stuff
  • 0
    @Phlisg first of all big thanks for helping me soooo much. I am shy as fuck. I can hardly talk to my parents whom I have lived with all my life.

    Now back to the topic, most here know that I think she has a bf already.

    Next, I just had a conversation with her once (when I was desperately trying to establish contact with her). Most of her body language towards me is that of rejection.

    Though many times, I have observed that she notices my presence and is conscious about it. I might be 100% wrong. I am wrong. It's my assumption.

    I have the power to woo anybody, literally any motherfucker with my charm, body language, humour, wit and what not in less than 10 minutes of conversation. I can make anybody smile no matter what.

    But boy, when I see her, I feel elephants and war rhinos in my stomach. My legs start shaking. I can barely think and lose everything.

    The problem is, we don't have a common ground to establish the contact and proceed with friendship.

    Also, I think she has a boyfriend already because lately her behaviour a d everything has changed drastically.

    Also, my luck is against me. I am a very impatient person irl. This was the only time I stayed patient and lost her to someone else.

    I don't even know what to do now with my life.
  • 1
    @Phlisg but bro, until today, I have been very conscious of her presence and observed like a creep.

    This week onwards, I made a strong decision to not even look at her (no matter how much it tempts me) and ignore her like fuck.
  • 1
    @Floydian oh, do not ignore her. At least, with me, it causes the opposite that I had planned.

    I just pretend she is a person like any other. After some time, it turns true.
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    @brunofontes but again, what's the point when she has someone else in her life?
  • 1
    @flo@Floydian to give yourself time to heal, to understand better and to have a reason and way to move on, she made a new choice see how him and you differ and determine what she really wanted, sometime in the future you will find that you weren't a great match and also why, as far as i know you're a great guy but she might have been your IE, i lack full details at the moment so i'll stop here with that idea, instead i want to tell you, from experience that walling her off will open up more questions and wounds within you than bearing the unpleasant feeling of not having a chance to get answers
  • 1
    Nic Cage will always lift your mood.
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    Reading usually helps, books are strong sources. They may answer some questions you have and keep your mind distracted .
  • 2
    @Floydian my pleasure :) I discovered a few things lately and I think they're shareable. Glad it helps! But, it's not over. Since I don't want to spam, i've put an answer as a screenshot xD hope it won't be too jpeg'd...
  • 2
    @Floydian if she has someone in her life... befriend her, or move on. Hard, but when you'll know not to invest too quickly it won't matter in the future :)
  • 1
    @Floydian yes.... A random place in Australia with a great art on the ground XD
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    @Phlisg hey!!! You stole my story bud!!

    You sure you are not @rEaL-gitlog if you didn't steal my story?

    Or maybe... @gitlog from parrallel universe? Youniverse?
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    Go for a walk and cry about it, you'll feel better
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    @gitlog how could I do that? :D which story?
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    @Phlisg that you had a crush on a girl and suddenly she stopped all the means of communication and all
  • 2
    @gitlog well... I think it's a common story everybody experiences, but it's an experience! it reinforces you :D
  • 2
    @gitlog @Phlisg everybody gets ghosted. Play the game long enough and you’ll ghost somebody too.
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    @jeeper we're always one's pale copy :D
  • 1
    Manly memes incoming. 1/?
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    Manly memes 2/?
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    Manly memes 3/?
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    Inspiration for when she texts or calls!
  • 4
    Manly memes 4/? (I'm sure I'll find more tomorrow!)

    "Manly way of interpreting feelings"
  • 1
    @Floydian so you can feel better when she is near you. :)

    Anyway, she have someone today, what doesn't mean that she will have him forever. I am not saying that you should try something. But instead, just remember that someday things may or may not change.
  • 2
    psychology helps a lot, read as much as you can and will be a good idea if you go to talk to someone, it will be like a friend but will know what to say and do. when we don't have something we wanted more badly, and you may discover in the end that you wasted so much energy to someone not that great like you think she was.
  • 1
    More brainwork for @Floydian

    https://curiosity.com/topics/...

    Do you see yourself in these points? I do for all of them :D
  • 2
    @Ratsuky wise words there. It will take some time for me to process. But yes, eventually life will be good. I live on that hope.

    @bigus-dickus lol I find him weird.

    @ackema yes, last time I started reading. Though I dislike it and find it boring, but I did it and worked a bit. This time, I gave away the book, I used to divert myself, to a friend in need of it. I'll try that. Thanks.

    @Phlisg dude, if you have typed that then could you share a high res version? I am barely able to read anything. Befriending is not an option. I am obsessive and bit possessive by nature (you can judge me all you want but I speak truth), so that'll be hurt me more.

    @gitlog didn't find any art there.

    @pete456 as I mentioned, I have lost the ability to cry. Physically, mentally and emotionally.

    @rutee07 lucky girl. And thanks.

    @polaroidkidd hahaha manly memes. Makes me feel good. Loved the keep calm one.

    @brunofontes things have gone from bad to worse for me. ALWAYS. So I have very little hope of anything good ever happening in my life.

    @crissupissu I used to love psychology. Self taught. Practiced and now a little bit. Guess what? That psychology is driving me nuts by making me think every possible negative scenario based on what body language and expression I read. Things are just back firing at me, no matter what I do.

    @Phlisg I can relate to point 1, 5 and 6. Though I am (maybe was) a perfectionist.
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    @Floydian yeah, it was the kind of thing that used to happen to me. I had about 3 or 4 girlfriends all my life. And one of them had cheated on me. These relationship were almost all short, just a few months long.

    But one day I met a improbable woman. She was older (9 years older than me) and was different. She had not of the things I looked on a women, but she was a nice person. Before I noticed what was happening we were married and now we have a great daughter that is at my side and do not let me finish this post. Hahahahah

    What I mean is: we never know what is going to happen. Yes, usually it is a bad thing. For default, things get worse. But sometimes, when we really do not expect, some different happens. :)
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    @Floydian I don't have the file on this computer, but sure, as soon as I can :)
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    @brunofontes I like your optimism, but have left that back now.

    I used to be one of the most optimistic person people around me ever knew.
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    @Phlisg Wait then, don't retype it.

    I'll manage. Thanks.
  • 1
    @Phlisg dude.... I read the text. I want to talk to you. Discord?
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    @Phlisg Added.

    I am in +530 GMT
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    @Floydian uhhh, I think I'll be available around 20 or 21, which makes it very late for you haha

    Saturday is good for you?
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    @Phlisg 20/21 IST is perfectly fine for me.

    Not UTC though :P

    Saturday looks good but I might have some commitments. Not sure though. Just ping me and we can talk based on each others convenience.
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    @Floydian great :) looks like I'll be quite busy with my stuff the whole day, but would be there this evening or something
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    @Floydian remember that somewhere in this world there's an idiot who thinks java is the same as javascript

    Edit: Fuck! Again I replied to a rant thinking it's new only to find out it's weeks old AFTER I post
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    @LrdShaper I shit you not, I am surrounded by such assholes.

    https://devrant.com/rants/1230421/...
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    @LrdShaper you can set it to date sorted instead of algo
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    @Floydian what an interesting turn of events hahahaha! And I literally facepalm'd after reading that rant
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