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Is it weird that I avoid forced socializing in my office? On mondays in the mornings we have a breakfast where essentially people gather (its a small gathering with 3 founders 1 cto and 3 employees), they have some pastries and juice.

And then they are talking about some bullshit for one hour.

For me personally monday mornings are for coffee and contemplation. I dont want to listen how boring their weekend was and try to impress them with my boring weekend. All that interaction feels so fake shallow and politically correct.

Dont get me wrong I care about my colleagues and what goes on in their life, but this forced monday morning and forced friday afternoon 1 hour gatherings are sooo draining and useless for me. I feel that only couple people are actually open during them and others are never sharing about their life, so esentially that gathering becomes an interrogation of 2-3ppl and topic revolves about them.

Gosh its draining. Gonna “be late” tomorrow again bcs I dont care. I would rather come in and go straight to work.

Having a beer after working means 100 times for me than that shallow and pretentious forced socializing that these guys are pushing so hard. Almost feels like micromanagement on personal level.

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    For some people its not forced, some people get their energy from meetings like that.

    Ofc I dont know the situation, if its forced for all of them there is ofc no reason for that meeting/break.

    But maybe some of them do get energized from it. You should do an a/b test and monitor the efficiency of the company 😁
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    @MisterArie Im sadly an introvert so what gets me energized is doing what I came to the office for. Or doing what I like and selectively connecting with people on levels which I prefer.
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    @zemaitis yeah then these meetings are definitely not your thing. But some extroverts might not get that.
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    You find awkward with your own colleagues, you find Monday morning meeting as bullshit, which might be related to the course of work in week...and later in life you would complain that you didn't get anything you deserved. Go do lone wolf freelancing, but even that needs some social skills. Sorry buddy but truth.
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    @ajit555 I never complained and will never complain that I didn't get anything that I deserved. From 16 years old I've been supporting myself financially and never asked money from my parents (now I'm 25 years old). My mindset was always that if you want something then you need to work hard for it and I have a high failure threshold which allows me to push through in difficult times. I have enough social skills to work in a fulltime position, but these useless pretentious meetings are just killing me.

    Probably there is some truth in your words, maybe it's because of my attitude (I came to this country just to gain experience and make money, not listen to bullshit from 30 years old founders who never left their own city/country).

    Or maybe it's simply not a good cultural fit.

    For me this feels as a temporary stop so I'm trying to learn/do as much as I can in a shortest amount of time possible.
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