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FuckJava
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My current company. It's locker room talk 24/7

I am a man. I don't mind sex, but my colleagues, and my boss, are talking like Trump was talking to Billy Bush in that bus. I am contemplating complaining to HR, who happens to join them in mentally undressing women and other lewd conversations, or handing in my resignation

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  • 7
    I can’t stand talk like that as well. Not only because it’s disrespectful to women, but it just shows how low minded they are, unable and unwilling to appreciate things beyond their sex drive.
  • 3
    That's a tricky one to handle. How big is the company? It's there more than one person in HR?
  • 2
    I know the feeling. I share the desk with someone who routinely jokes about rape.
  • 0
    @CoffeeNcode Small. HR is 1 person
  • 2
    @Pickman Problem is, these people believe in that shit. One of them believes The Lord created women to serve men. He keeps saying he wants as many concubines as Solomon had.
  • 3
    @FuckJava well that sucks. Try to talk to them anyways. If it doesn't end up helping, you'll know you tried
  • 3
    @FuckJava holy crap that Solomon thing. I'd try to get out of there.
  • 0
    @CoffeeNcode I can't, till November. I have a loan to repay. I just hope I can remain sane.
  • 4
    @FuckJava then by all means, rant about it here! At least you can vent then
  • 1
    @CoffeeNcode That's the general idea

    I wish I was living in US of A. I could go to a shooting range, put their pictures on the wall and shoot them. Here in Australia we are supposed to be happy and mates with each other
  • 1
    @FuckJava no worries mate ;) I've been to Australia quite a while back, it's beautiful
  • 0
    @CoffeeNcode If you visit for a week or two, yes. Any longer and you feel their stupidity is affecting you.
  • 2
    @FuckJava I've been there for a couple of months, but I was mainly in the backpacker scene. But yeah, I can imagine
  • 1
    Honestly... just ignore it... loose lips sink ships... do your work, and do start shit. It isn’t going to change their mind and how they view the world, if it bothers you that much, leave the company.... don’t try to force people to change for you... honestly that kind of talk is very prominent in a majority male industry... is it wrong.. yeah.. but does it really matter no.. it only truly matters if they actually commit some type of physical harassment... if it’s just guys being guys.. who the fuck cares.. move on.. ignore it... and keep going. Don’t let that shit get to you... remember.. nobody likes a squeaky wheel. And I’m no way encouraging the behavior.... but I’m not going to waste corporate resources and time and effort with no gain... especially if the employees have not committed any crimes.. AND are loyal to the company AND are skilled and experienced in their field. If their work ethic of getting shit done is hindered by the distractions of such talk then yeah, disciplinary actions should take place. Other than that ... if they arnt saying it directly to the person they are talking about then fuck it.. get your work done.
  • 9
    @QuanticoCEO Have you ever tried writing in full sentences? Really helps when trying to construct an argument since you have to think about what you are saying. In this case what you are saying sounds like the typical half-arsed apology/explanation given by people who enable bad behaviour. How can you say that you don't condone it while also saying that you won't do anything unless they commit a "crime" whatever that means in your country. That IS condoning it. Condone: approve or sanction (something), especially with reluctance.
  • 5
    @Jacquobite
    Very well said sir
  • 1
    @FuckJava My situation is not as bad but I still feel annoyed by it. In your place I would probably just quit.
  • 1
    Fucking hell, besides the misogyny, I can't wrap my head around how guys can be comfortable with this. I mean going over details of your sex life with the relative strangers that are colleagues. I also bet it's cringe as fuck and that they don't even try getting the ladies off, pathetic…
  • 3
    @kenogo
    That part is easy to handle. When you are at a company function, and your colleagues ask you out of the blue "Would you do that?" while pointing to a girl behind the bar l, who I am damn sure is there only to pay for her student fees, I feel sick to the stomach.
  • 1
    Try to find a better job then shove the resignation letter in their faces. Do tell them why u left :)
  • 2
    @valium123 I have already bought one of those condolence "Sorry for your loss" cards
  • 1
    @FuckJava that is an amazing idea. I need to remember that one
  • 0
    I have colleagues who break all hr rules for breakfast. I initially tried to leave them when conversations peaks to that height, but these bullies started picking on me. Well now i integrated well with the team but dont add to their those kind of conversation. Personally started playing my own game of ranking these bullies in my mind.

    My suggestion, don't raise any hr issues- it's gonna look bad on you. Just swallow chill pills like me.
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