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It's not right to not have kids because your pa is a bad man. You now have an example of what mistakes not to make. Use it. Grow your kids using that example. Grow them to be decent, respectful people. Grow them to not be like your pa and don't be like him yourself. You do know what not to do already :)
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@netikras however the only schema i'd have to go on would be his shitty behavior, meaning that's how my mind would perceive fatherhood to work. Actually, this is exactly why he is like this. And why his (real) father is like this.
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@Parzi I see your concerns :)
be mindful. Meditate. Learn to think before you act. This will change the whole course :)
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Why not have kids? Your dad's behavior is your dad's actions not yours. If you hurt others, you could apologize. If you want to get happiness, you could try to give happiness first. There's always a choice and you make that choice in the end. Maybe just don't think of yourself that you will be a bad father even before the time comes.
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@netikras , it is simple said than done. The pain people have in their subconscious minds are more powerful than making conscious decisions. Not everyone can do what you are saying.
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@AngryDev9981 everyone can if they have enough will to.
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@netikras , yes it is doable.
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@netikras exactly! My mum's mum was horrible and abusive. My mum used it as an example of how not to be and she is a great mum
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@LavaTheif, which regions are you from? Some of the thing depend upon culture too.
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@AngryDev9981 I'm from UK, basically on the edge of London
Hahahahaha... my father threatened twice to beat me to death on Monday, then wondered today why his daughter (who thankfully lives with my mom) won't come to see him anymore after watching him break shit because I asked a simple fucking question.
As long as there is breath in my body I will hate and resent this man, and I hope that for all of humanity's sake neither I or my sister have kids. My family name breeds such shitty people.
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