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Depends on how you're expressing kindness. If you're giving at your own expense, those who view life as transactional will keep taking. They'll suck your time, money and emotional state until there's nothing left.
Demolishun755430dUmmm, no, it can cost you your life. It depends upon who observes you being kind and to who/whom.
Fast-Nop2804530dYou can have anything you want, but you better not take it from me.
Costs nothing to behave like trash too plus acting like trash is funny
Bybit260113230dI learned from experience. If you're kind, and noble people will start taking advantage of you.
Root6562330dIt certainly has a cost.
Every time I go out of my way to be nice, I get taken advantage of. It costs me my time and my energy, and sometimes money too, and I just feel used afterward.
Many people are parasites, and more often than not, the remainder don’t need helping. You’re far more likely to run into a selfish leech than someone who actually deserves your kindness.
See @rutee07’s rant — the human subject helps someone who’s stranded due to a broken bike; when he drives her to the bike shop, she doesn’t have any money and gets angry at him when he asks why she didn’t think to bring any if she knows she’s going to be buying parts.
I filled someone’s gas can (like 2 gallons) while on vacation — he said he was broke and needed to get somewhere with his son. A few minutes later, someone starts screaming at him for being there the entire day begging strangers for money or various items.
Someone asked my girlfriend for a short ride, and ended up begging to be driven to several different places, often quite far apart, and got livid and insulting and started guilt tripping her after she said no to the fourth trip.
I’ve fixed peoples devices, sometimes taking several hours, and been harassed to fix countless more, free of charge, and insulted when I’ve said no.
I’ve given money and food to homeless people, and they get demanding and angry that it isn’t more.
I’ve put in countless hours of unpaid overtime for many of my bosses to make up for their blunders, and they never even say thank you. When I start refusing to do it again, they get angry and threatening.
No, being nice absolutely has a cost, and that cost is your dignity, getting walked upon, abused, stolen from, yelled at, and taken for granted.
rutee071200130dThat's what people say before they get abused. Even when it doesn't involve money, having a reputation of being kind can spread across the neighborhood like wildfire. Before you know it, random people are knocking at your door like you have healing abilities.
Reminds me of a cousin who got pregnant again because they didn't use birth control. I know, it's like they don't even try. She texted me asking if she can "borrow" money for birth-giving. Borrowing money means giving away money if it's family. This isn't a business loan, it's personal. If they couldn't afford it in the first place, they couldn't afford to pay it back in the future. I told her I don't have money. She spams me with texts begging as if money would just magically pop up in my wallet if she begs. I said I told her many times that I don't have money. She gets mad and tells me I have such a sharp tongue. Huh?
Irresponsible people rely on kind people to survive. Our species would be better off if we let them die.
@Root I once picked up a hitchhiker going down the i65 corridor, and told them I’d take them as far as Indianapolis.
Interestingly, their way of approaching me was basically them: “hey you got the time?” Me: “no” them: “which way you headed?” Me: “south” them: “I’m looking for a ride” me: “put out your cigarette and get in the car”
I was really taken aback by how weak of an attempt to start a natural conversation and move it toward the favor that was.
I only agreed because it was a 70 year old woman, I felt bad.
She said she would pay me for gas but I told her not to, mostly because I knew that was bullshit.
About half way to Indianapolis she asks if I have any food she can eat. I say no, thinking to myself you’re getting a free ride, not a free buffet. She finds my snacks a few miles later, and starts yelling at me that I was holding out on her. I explain that I don’t have a lot of money either and I need that to make it to DC. She huffs but drops it.
We get to Indianapolis, and she asks where I’m going. I was continuing on i70 or i74, tbh I can’t remember. But I lied and said I was going to stay the night with a friend in the city and that she wasn’t invited. She asked me to drop her off at a hotel. I asked if she had a room. She said no she just slept in the lobbies so she didn’t have to pay. Huh. I wouldn’t let that shit fly if it was my hotel but whatever. Dropped her off and that was that. Didn’t get thanked.
Never again. What a jackass.
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