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devjesus2275311dYou know the day when i first went to college for registration, my parents were with me and they started talking to some other guy's parents and forced me to make " friends with him", like some 5 yr old . It was suoer embarrassing
But that guy turned out to be my most supporting and like minded loyal friend in last 4 years due to which my college life was a breeze.
And today when last 5 days are left for the college they are again taking the pain to clear the hurdles in my path because i am still their baby child who don't know how to make decisions.
And i am very sorry about that :""(
ilechuks73563311dthis is very unlike my parents though. my parents never show up or show any interest in my schooling or the struggles of my schooling. all they want is a good report card at the end of a term or semester. they have even stopped asking for results... I know it can be somehow distressing when they try to takeover everything but it's almost the same when they let you do everything yourself. I really cant tell where to draw a line. if there is one actually. I know mistakes I have made when trying to take care of many things on my own which adds more to the pressure on me because I don't know how to explain it to them without getting the "cant you do anything on your own?" lecture and me replying with "it's your fault. you have never shown any interest at all". just let them be parents
The Covid thing is hard. Without a doubt.
But your parents are over caring...
Which is a thing that I'm very unfamiliar with... I grew up with grandma and after grandma came family war, since my mum and I had... vast disagreements.
I want to spare you the cringe and me the necessity to hit myself with a wrench multiple times for several reasons...
But sometimes... Parents are at least half right. They are afraid because you're afraid.
It's hard to understand for most of us - but (even the bad) parents have a certain need to see their children succeed.
(Unless they're really fucked up, but I think that your rant would be _waaaayyy_ different then)
And reading your rant - if you called me in the same tone and I was your parent, I'd be really worried. 1h 40 m is a lot of time... And Covid. And traveling the distance.
University degree - depending on country - means a whole lot, since there ain't many options otherwise...
My advice (I stopped in the last rant intentionally) is to stop moping about the past.
Reflect on it. Make better decisions in the future. Learn from the failures. Don't let them define your personality or yourself.
If you don't want to drown - start swimming.
electrineer19024310dGo by bike. You still have time to make it.