iiii313751dJoin the church of "not give a fuckers"
The smaller your dreams, the easier they are to achieve, and the less disappointment you suffer if you do not. It’s playing life on easy.
The unspoken downside:
If you only try for the little things, you will only ever have the little things.
Instead of expending less effort overall, spend your effort on things that matter to you and that you are more able (and likely) to accomplish. Don’t try changing the world in ways you cannot, for the effort is almost always wasted.
@iiii Depends on the person. I’m not happy with small, easy to achieve goals.
> Woo, got my paycheck!
> Hey hey, two packs of gummys for 99c? Best day ever!
> Aw, yeah, an open seat on the bus. Awesome day.
If those are your highlights, you’re bloody lame.
I’ll be happy when I can manage my investments instead of working for a living, and when my biggest worry is planning my children’s education.
I mean in general programming makes me pretty happy, and it's also what I'm most "successful" at.
I think it's because even tiny bits of progress feel quite rewarding, and obstacles tend to lead to research binges rather than throwing my keyboard through the room.
If I try laying brick, success feels like "so what, it's a fucking brick wall" and droopy cement or a crooked facade will lead to very angry sledgehammering without much reflecting on how to improve.
@Root Yeah definitely. But I think there's sort of a personal obligation to find "your thing".
Some people don't ever really take note of what makes them happy and drives them forward.
Homer is pretty complacent, easily made happy with small successes, but also easily frustrated with small failures. His character is randomly fluttering, driven by events which he has very little agency over, because he chooses to follow a rather shallow pattern of emotional reactions.
Then there are also plenty of people who keep aggressively pushing themselves forward, often because of perceived external pressures, without ever feeling the joy of a (small) victory — because it wasn't really their victory, it was someone else's.
@bittersweet Yeah. I think I’m more of your second example. My only joys are from completing big things, but I find even the little things to be stressors. I also often feel like I am the only one actually working towards accomplishing anything. Thankfully much less so since our move.
It’s no wonder I’m stressed and angry all of the time.