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osq-ppp
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People around me be like "Why you never take a break?? I see you work all the time. Doesn't your company offer you a paid holiday??"

Yeah they do offer a paid holiday, but even on holiday I still have to work because I'm the IT manager, full stack developer, database admin, helpdesk and everything that is related to IT.
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    Welcome.
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    @C0D4 Thanks!!! 😊 😊
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    Are there any funds in delegating (at least) one of those responsibilities to a new employee?

    Oh and welcome!
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    @Berkmann18 As far as I know there's none. They're not gonna hire more people to work for the IT stuff because they only concern about operation. They keep adding new requests for the app almost every month though πŸ˜…
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    @osq-ppp like a restaurant that doesn't care about kitchen staff
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    @osq-ppp That sounds like a company I worked for; it's probably time to look elsewhere before you end up burning out.
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    @craig939393 exactly!
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    @Berkmann18 oh I'm already burned out a long time ago lol!
    I'm trying to find a new job but not confident enough to apply because I never had a chance to work with other developers. I've been working on my own since the beginning so I'm kinda scared that I might not be able to work and catch up with others.
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    The one word you have to learn is "NO".
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    or you could ignore everything because it's your vacation
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    @osq-ppp imposter syndrome is the worst but trust me, if you can do all of this alone another company and team will be lucky to have you.
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    @Fast-Nop @iiii wish I could do that πŸ˜”
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    @Sunsette thank youu. That boosted my confidence a little.
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    @osq-ppp You can. It's not like your company would break down. I mean, when (when, not if!) you collapse with a heart stroke, they'll have to do without you anyway.
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    @osq-ppp but you can
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    @Fast-Nop @iiii well that's true. I could do that actually, but it might hurt my relationship with a friend who is the owner of the company. That's the only reason why I never say No
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    @osq-ppp oof. if you are sacrificing yourself for his gain... not a good choice, dude
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    @osq-ppp Don't mix friendship and business because the end result is always loss of both. Also, he isn't your friend because friends don't exploit each other.
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    @iiii @Fast-Nop what you guys said are all true... I really should separate these things and stop scarifying myself too much because at the end he's the one who gain most of the profit and I only get my fixed salary :(
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    While on a multi-week work bender, an executive type buddy of mine said: Take a vacation. Trust me, if you die of a heart attack, your company will post your job opening before your obituary is published.
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    Take a break buddy and ignore everything. It appears you need to start delegating stuff and bring people working with you up to speed.

    I'm presently on a month long holiday and I'm not attending to jack shit until I get back.
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    that's the problem dude, IT guys barely get any holidays
    all the vacation dreams just remain dreams😒
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    @eideon I kind of had that problem when i was working for different startups but not anymore after moving to a multinational company.
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    I know a different company, where also two "friends" work, at least they used to say they have a friendship-level relationship.

    One drives the fancy car, has the house and sells a bunch of customers a bunch of stuff that doesn't exist, as many companies do.

    The other one is the one who puts in all the work. Easily ten hours a day, always on call, always with a laptop to fix broken systems, once worked while being in a hospital, after 10 years of being with the company the achievement was to be allowed to use a company owned cheap SUV (not one of the fancy ones).

    He's there because the codebase is his baby and because he's got completely worthless shares. All the while he earns peanuts compared to what he could earn at a real company and is being called a "stupid idiot" on a regular basis by his "friend" whenever stuff breaks.

    You're a fool if you think this has anything to do with friendship. Don't pity yourself, instead decide what you need to do and take action.
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    @Maer Many people get trapped because they don't want to leave their "babies". They are emotionally attached to every line of code they have written for their employer. I used to be that kind of person many years ago but not anymore.
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    It's normal to feel that way, especially for a project you are responsible for.

    At the end of the day this code belongs to the company, not to you. This is a kind of mental trap one can fall into and I did before as well.

    The most important part though is not to sit and feel sad. The longer you do that the more it spills into other aspects of your life, speaking from experience.

    So actively take steps to change the situation which for most such cases involves switching jobs.
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