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I was hired by a company where a senior / dev lead recommended and interviewed me. He said to me that he was tired of broken processes, false promises to customers, micromanagement, pressure, etc. and told me that together we would improve these things. Few weeks later things didn't get any better and I told him that from what I had witnessed, he wasn't making things any better by saying in meetings that this and that would be easy to implement and would only take few minutes - that he was raising unrealistic expectations on the business side, which was clearly one of the reason the business had these high unrealistic expectations and caused all this pressure and micromanagement. He took this the wrong way, quit and hasn't spoken to me or his colleagues since. I didn't at all mean this in a bad way, because I highly respect and look up to him where he's one of the nicest guys and one of the best programmers I've ever met. Was I in the wrong here? What should have I done differently?

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  • 6
    Welcome to devRant! That's a tough one.
  • 6
    maybe talk to him
  • 13
    Not really wrong, it's too bad for him that he couldn't take it and shouldn't really be your problem. Maybe he just got tired of it and decided a job change was in order.
  • 4
    Admitting that you're responsible of your problems is not easy, and not everyone is prepared to face it. Of course, we all have to, eventually, one way or another.
  • 3
    Well he is part of the problem and has a hard time coming to terms with that. Good from you to hammer that down on him.
  • 0
    Well, that's your side of story. Maybe you're right, but you've got to hear his side too. Take him out for a beer and hear him out.
  • 1
    @Nanos I agree with you. But the OP clearly mentions that the guy is respectable and he looks up to him. To me, it seems like both of them are reasonable folks and may be able to talk things out. Not in a bar probably 😆
  • 0
    I think it speaks for him that he is taking this seriously. You have to talk to him. In my opinion his behavior is proof, that he really wants to change something and that is rare.
  • 0
    You weren't in the wrong, you did analyse the stakes and found that the issue isn't only all that other stuff, but also himself for making the situation miserable.

    He isn't that much of a senior (as good as a person he may he) if he doesn't realise that your point has good reason to be true. (Imo)
  • 0
    You did the right thing, the dude could not take feedback.
  • 3
    The answer is in the start. He was tired of a lot of things in his current job.
    He probably just wanted out. Also changing yourself to be able to change your environment. Is an incredible tough thing to do.
    Sometimes it is better to just go some place else, start over, instead of being caught in the same dynamic over and over again.
  • 0
    @Lizzebed welcome to devRant!
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