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I suffer with anxiety.
I took pills (pristiq), but side effects almost ended with my marriage.
And now I'm having more problems. Even a message from my boss trigger me and I can't think properly.
I have a good job and small mini projects and I enjoy playing games

How do you deal with anxiety?

I try and keep in mind that I experience emotions, particularly negative ones, a hell of a lot more intensely than they really are.

I've come to the conclusion that mental health issues are for life, I try and come to terms with them and deal with them on their own terms rather than looking for a magical fix (ie, pills) that will make my problems go away.

I usually let it build up until the right part of my upper body just freezes because of pain like right now 😵

I learned over the decades to not sweat the small stuff. It is not worth it.
Also, you have the power to improve your situation. If it is a job or boss you can make a change. Good luck!

I coped with my anxiety by surrounding myself with people that make me happy and constantly doing something. For me it was spare time when I did nothing that affected me in a bad way - memory flashbacks, paranoia about people I can trust (dunno if correct), fear of never feeling calm, although I have no problems atm (in context; still having issues).
I guess it's better to always be working on something so that you have no time to be worried about stuff. You'll be doing good.

Try to be more present. Often thoughts of the future or what ifs are a major cause. There'll be a thought process somewhere behind it. Sometimes it still gets me but take a deep breath and come back to the present moment.
I hope you make some solid progress because it sucks. Try not to identify yourself as being anxious. Just acknowledge the "feeling" without owning it and thinking that it's "you"..
🙏🏼

+1 for 'being here now.'
Though not a replacement for medication/therapy, a little deliberate mindfulness goes a long way. Try to get grounded before the whirlwind is upon you.