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I feel like a fucking abomination at the moment.

I have been working on an app that is almost like Wireshark. More so for practice than anything else.

I decided that today I would try it out on the network here at my house, so I started the packet sniffer and wanted to see what was going on. I was checking for unencypted text (like telnet and whatnot) and came across this odd address that I hadn't seen before.

I did something that I shouldn't have done, and I fucking clicked and did the equivalent of "follow TCP stream" on wireshark. I fucking went and looked what the text being sent over this fucking network was.

It was my girlfriend, using fuck knows what messenger, but it was unencrypted. I just found out that she is cheating on me. I don't want to go into what the texts exactly say, because it fucking hurts me deep down.

Why didn't she just use whatsapp or something, fuck man. I really don't need this in life at the moment. I am genuinely trying to get my shit in order, I have been coding my ass off at night for extra money to make it, I have been working overtime where I can - fuck I have even tried sucking up to management (I would never do this under normal circumstances) - and to top this off, the motherfucking tax man is giving me hell.

Fuck sakes.

If you want to cheat, fucking do it properly. Because I am in a state of pure sadness and hatred and the moment - and I don't know what the fuck to do.

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  • 24
    I'm sorry to hear that man! Time will heal all wounds, but you can't be with a person like that. Best of luck! DevRant is here for you.
  • 7
    Really unfortunate... Sorry man. This shit happens, dust yourself and move on. You'll be fine.
  • 48
    Someday you'll be able to look back and realize what a badass you were for how you caught her. It hurts now and surely will for a while, but she ain't worth it man, you proved that yourself.

    Now you get to decide how you confront her about this. I say make it good… and post updates. 😉
  • 17
    You're skills inadvertently helped you sniff (pun intended) out the true nature of your gf (hopefully ex)... but seriously take it as a good thing. You can address it with her and ultimately decide if you want to risk dating a cheater... or not. You emotions are on the line and the risk is staying in that relationship. Keep immersing yourself in projects and try to socialize and vent how you feel to actual people (friends and family) in person. I feel like posting it on here is a good start, but it doesn't do you true justice. I wish you the best on whatever you decide and I hope your sucking up days become a distant memory and that new days were your skillset dictates your pay scale are given birth.
  • 14
    Your time is too valuable to spend it with her.
  • 2
    Shit bro, not good to hear. Wish you all the best..
  • 9
    I really feel you man... I have been there. I don't know you, nor your personality or anything about you. But I do know who is the most important person in your life: you. Whatever you choose to do with your relationship with that bitch, do it for yourself. Also, I can tell you are quite awesome from what I read here, so keep your head up and look up to the future. Time will pass and you will get better.
  • 5
    Ah man, take this with a grain of salt since this is from an asexual, but love is extremely unnecessary. Especially if you're living on the edge, paycheck to paycheck it's the last thing you need.
    You're an amazing person for being able to communicate with computers (albeit it doesn't work all the time) and accomplishing something like this really is a good thing for you because on your hunt for your next gf (I know you won't listen to my advice of leaving love so listen to Cupid's instead) you have more experience in what to look for ;)

    Happy coding from Sweden❤️
  • 9
    @Jop-
    It's not. Being in an intimate relationship with more than one person is considered bad.
  • 6
    Aside from the sadness, I think it's badass that you caught your gf cheating on you with your self-made tools you just made to extend your knowledge.
  • 10
    @Jop-

    I've noticed that now that I'm a bit older, jealousy is less of a thing. However, TRUST seems to become more and more important.

    Cheating, for me, is not about breaking a monogamous relation, but about honesty. It would hurt incredibly if my girl lied to me or tried to hide someone from me — because we have built a deep bond, and I want to know what she thinks and feels.

    Lots of people communicate poorly, and relationships die unnecessary early deaths. If you're bored of our angry with your romantic interest, have a talk, maybe you can work on it. If it's about some sexual kink, talk about it, see what you're both comfortable with.

    Long relationships which survived bumpy roads, with lots of invested effort, and where both take care to nurture trust instead of damaging it, are next level stuff. Just having been through so many things together means you eventually sync up on a cerebral level.

    It's really sad and insulting in my opinion when someone decides their significant other is not even worth the truth.
  • 13
    Great news man, just means that:

    1. You got much wiser in your choice of GF

    2. No damage done because she is JUST a GF, and not a wife and mother of your kids.

    3. You can now get brand new model

    And based on my own experience, she WILL regret loosing a guy that is hard working and faithful. The older she will get, harder will be her reality.

    So no worries man. You just got one less problem in your life. Just focus on your shit now, clean it up.
  • 3
    @clovisIrex yay I'm not the only one (but I'm 23)
  • 2
    You should just pretend you don't know, be a horrible boyfriend. Just be the worst person ever to her for as long as you can
  • 1
    Any updates?
  • 2
    Cut clean all the contact with her cheating ass, focus on matters at hand. When you come through it is you who will be the king of the forest ;)
  • 7
    Fuck it! This could almost go on a CV😂! Out of all cheating stories you take the cake of awsomeness!

    It's allways sad to read these stories but those who take revenge never end any good. Just simply talk about the texts and break up with her. She's going to do it again so just break up!

    The pleasure will be if you get the chance to explain why you broke up to her friends || family.
  • 3
    First and foremost I am so sorry to hear about your situation. Sounds like you are short on money, time and are having a hard time with the relationship. From another perspective it sounds like you got your shit under control and are more than capable of handling this situation you've found yourself in. As I read your rant it came to my mind what an epic opportunity you could have right now. If you set up your software to scan for exactly that packet extraction you had, you could distribute a tiny piece of easy-to-use and out-of-the-box software to assists in uncovering cheaters in relationships. That way you would also process your own situation at the same time and I think you could brand this "simple anti-cheater" real well with your story and easily gain some PR. The price could be like a couple of bucks and that way most people in the same situation would probably pay the small amount of money for a simple well branded tool.
  • 8
    Uninstall her
  • 1
    @ragnarr023 how are you feeling?
  • 12
    At least your app works perfectly.
  • 3
    Things like these don't happen without a reason. I trust you'll maks it past these hard times and become successful. Stay strong mate!
  • 0
    I get your point dude, I was once in a slightly similar position. It will hurt, but carry on, because you're doing great for yourself, all you can achieve you will and the sweet taste of victory and fullness will be all yours to hold, because you earned it, by yourself, for yourself.
  • 0
    Our man hasn't pronounced himself in a while has he...
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