Something that I need to learn: not taking it personally when people answer something in which I was wrong by terminating their sentences with "..."

When people finish sentences with an ellipsis, I always assume they're judging me as being stupid or something, but indicating that they're refraining from saying it. Almost feels passive-aggressive. I hate it. But I guess I need to learn not to take it personally.

You should be able to get better at this, given that, you know.....

I think ... is like saying etc or yada yada yada. Things that don't need to be said. But I guess context would be important here. Do you have examples?

I don't know...

@Demolishun

Me: Should we do this thing this way, since it wasn't made clear when we last talked and I forgot to ask, what do you think

Senior dev: "You can feel free to do it this way, but if we followed the convention I suggested last time [which is exactly what wasn't clear for me and which I'm asking about], that wouldn't be necessary..."

Me: suggest to senior dev we might need to change the configuration of something, though I'm wrong and that won't really be needed

Senior dev: "I don't think we need to change the configuration..."

Latest couple of examples that made me rant here. There's nothing else to be said other than something which (to me it feels like) the other person is holding back. Though this isn't really holding back since you're making it clear that there's something you're not saying (that's the point of ellipses). Although the person might not really mean anything by it, which is why I need to get used to not taking it personally.

@nururururu I dunno, them not explaining when you are asking is kind of next level bullshit.

I use … at the end of a sentence to denote two different things:

The first one is what you've described. Like in
"That‘s the wrong file…" (you should have known that).

The second one just means "wait".
Like in "let me check that…" or "hmm, I need to try that out…"

@Lensflare the second one is totally fine, I also use that

The second one, I tend to refrain from using it, because it feels like a backhanded way of criticizing people while adding "plausible deniability" that you're not really doing it. If you must say something, say it, if not, then you don't need to add that you're "not saying something", it only sours the sentiment of a conversation. At least that's what I try to do...

(lol)

@nururururu well if you had remembered what was said before that you didn't understand the first time...

This is just dickish. I sometimes have goldfish memory and have to write things down. Sometimes I forget to write things down. It fucking sucks.