Xpost from /r/sysadmin:
I occasionally see posts from people who seem like they want to spend every waking hour of every waking minute working on home lab stuff and studying for certs.

If you do this, you're missing out on life which you will regret later, but even if you don't care about missing out on life, it actually is hurting your career.

Being well rounded helps you interact with others at work in a number of ways. It makes you less one dimensional as "the computers guy" and it also gives you topics to discuss with people. If you know how to cook, or brew beer, or bake bread you end up using a lot of your technical and troubleshooting skills. Biking long distancing and learning how to fix your bike helps with your troubleshooting skills too. You learn to look at things from other angles.

Reading novels or writing poetry or making art work also helps because it exercises your brain. Woodworking or metal working involve a lot of skills that'd help your IT career including project planning and measuring and budgeting for each project. Working on cars or motorcycles would be similar. You just have to do SOMETHING.

I have a member of my team who literally has nothing going on in his life other than studying for certs. No friends, no hobbies, and he basically eats nothing but McDonalds and frozen dinners because even making a meal takes time away from his studying. He thinks means he's dedicated and will experience great career success.

But instead he has nothing to talk to anyone about, and when I say nothing, I mean literally nothing. It's borderline terrifying. Even if he was into comic books and video games it might help, which might help him relate to SOME of the IT staff even if the rest of the people at the company know nothing about it. But he doesn't even have that.

This isn't a solitary field anymore. Even if you truly are "the best" you still have to interact with other people and stay mentally stable enough to not burn out. Even if you know more than everyone else (or think you do) you have to try to broaden your horizons.

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    I like that!
    That is why I spend alot of time being a dad.

    Also, gardening is something that I love!
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    I learnt that the hard way, but now I'm making progress as a human. Thanks for x-sharing
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    @Pointer @IllSlapU Could you share your story of the solving this problem ? I am sure that there are a lot of people in here struggle with this problem and one of them is definetely me.
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    @nsrediron I think that you'll agree that situations and whatsoever will never likely be a "step-by-step" guide on how to do it, but it surely will help you to figure out by applying it into your life.

    First of all, as the original post says, you need to find out something (besides studying) that really makes you feel good by doing it, be it taking a stroll, skating, playing a guitar, heck, even going to a bar by yourself and getting you a drink.

    I've been through some shit days since the last year, a lot of stuff was going on, but it was time to take the lead and put my feet on the ground. So I began to search for things that interested me before but I never gave them a try, so I bought some skates, began "learning" about beer, wines and food, even did an exchange to another country and spent my time hanging out (thing I never used to do before) with people.

    But that's the case for me, because my level of introversion's not that high (1/2)
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    So just focus on doing things that you enjoy, not that you feel forced to do them.

    Maybe try things that you never thought about of, like jogging, going to the movies alone, read up about random things on the internet, just get lost outside your "application area" for once in a while, and slowly but steady you'll find yourself more comfortable and open to the people that surrounds you.
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    @IllSlapU It's almost 2018 and for some reason we're back to "Hot Topic"... Wait, what? xD
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    @IllSlapU I was talking about the "Hot Topic" business, but...yeah, slightly hot topics are good with girls if they trust you 🤣
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    What if I have no friends and coding is the only thing I have at the moment?
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    @HRT-713 Then go get you some friends!

    But don't take this out of context, what this post means it's that you shouldn't be a "workaholic" or something like that, and instead "do" what you enjoy the most and "create" relationships, because those last are the ones that will help you have a better career, soft skills.
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    @sslPoodle That's where you're wrong kiddo *insert meme*

    Seriously speaking, that's up to you. Being unqualified doesn't mean you'll burn yourself up studying and with social-deprivation, it all depends on your time management skills. Maybe you can say "Hey, I use to finish my daily chores at 3P.M., I can go skate for like ~1h or watch a movie (~2h), finish, take a bath and begin to study other stuff at 5P.M"

    Really, it's all up to you, but trust me, don't give up any chances that you have to enjoy yourself, yeah, you'll acquire a lot of knowledge and maybe know a lot of stuff, but, is it worth it? Knowing a lot of stuff and having NOBODY to share or talk with?

    Being alone is what kills us slowly, and I learnt that the hard way, so I'm just giving my advice to avoid it at all. Enjoy yourself and let things be. But after all, it's just my advice, it's not like you have to agree nor take it ;)
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