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You are aware enough to wonder about this. I would venture to think that you will be more than allright. I have worked with autistic people before(aspergers) and would rather work with them again than with the densw motherfuckers that I've had in other places.
You'll do just fine my dude.
I'm not sure if this is a bad statement to make but from my perspective there seem to be a sweet spot for humans that sits somewhere on the autism spectrum between high functioning logical reasoning and absolute social panic. I'd be happy if the bulk of humanity was a bit more autistic. I think it would make for a better world in general.
I am fine with autists. I even had a friend who was an autist. He became an autist when he was born. When he was outside of his mum's vagina (ffs that sounds so wrong dude... ewww), his body was full with water inside which is normal, but he still had it after a lot of clapping on the back.
It bothered me that he wanted my attention almost all the time, but thanks to him I learned to have a lot of patience.
@-ANGRY-CLIENT- you've completely confused me lol. I will consider what you said about attention though. I have been know to be clingy
Watch the netflix documentary "dark net" it has one episode where they talk about a programme in USA dedicated to gain autistic people into programming
@dufferz 26 huh? I was diagnosed at age 15 (in the middle of high school)
I know people who were diagnosed at the age of 2. If I was diagnosed sooner I would have understood my problem earlier, but I probably wouldn't have grown independent.
As far as advice and coping mechanisms:
1. Learn the rules of your work/college quickly. You're not in childrens' school anymore you have to be competent. (ask important questions)
2. Whenever I remember something embarrassing I usually have to distract myself to snap out of it. Usually I can do this rather simply by asking a question.
3. Eye contact. If you're not used to it already; practice being able to look at someone's face. If they have something really important to say you should look them in the eye.
4. Learn about situational awareness. i.e: If someone is walking away, it's a bad time to start conversation.
If someone asks, "how are you?", lie. "I'm good/I'm okay/I'm great."
If someone asks you multiple choice question and you have no solid answer. Say, "I don't know." Do not spend 20 minutes trying to decide in front of them.
I can't think of anything more at the moment.
While not really relevant to your question, I have a 7 year old who is on the spectrum. He is also high functioning. He is very bright, considered savant, but doesn’t show it often because he usually just says random silly things.
I like to read/learn about high function adults on the spectrum. I often worry about him and what life will be like for him.
I know that he understands much more than he lets on. Mostly I worry about how other people might treat him, or him having difficulty making & keeping relationships. He is a very sweet boy.
I wish the best for you. I know we understand much more about autism now than ever before. I hope you can get the resources and support you need.
@KimberlyTheGeek thankyou so much for your input, and i wish you and your son the best in life.
If I can give you any advice the only thing I can say is to keep him feeling worthwhile and like he is not an issue for you.
I say this because I haven't talked to any members of my family for 4+ years because I genuinely can't face it. They always insulted me and made me feel worthless, now I'm alone and in a different country.
All of my relationships with women have ended badly due to my lack of communication and incredibly hard to read body language. Combined with the fact of instead of 'lashing out or having an episode' it's internal, one too many bad days have ended in me locking myself in my room many times and punishing myself. I shan't say how.
droidy1266yActually, I don't think that I have autism. But I had a lot of heartches especially with my relationships more closer because when I reach the point, I treat them using my logic thinking and not considering my emotions with them, unconsciously.
After I found that with my SO, I started to go at psychologist and after three months I progressed a lot, first building my own happiness and then sharing with the rest.
Since childhood, I always been a introverted person. Also, kinda rejected on the highschool so my lack of expressiveness was very deep earlier on my life.
From my side, I encourage you to try express yourself to the team, even if you think do that is irrelevant, the only way to be more person and less robot is communication. Also do nature gestures when the situation is appropriate, keep eye contact, handshakes, smirks, any gesture.
Also one thing that helped me a lot, was to put social objectives (like go hang out with someone that normally I dont but I always thought about it) and complete them like tasks. A simple check for people like us is very satisfying.
Work in your emotions and not in your brain, cheers!