Whoever coded tinder and bumble, fuck you for preying on desperation to try to make a quick buck.

Dating apps are just a tool for attractive folks to get quick self validation and for desperate folks to lose even more self esteem.

@RocketSurgeon they've got a lot of tools to prey on desperation, mostly for males since they make up a bigger portion of the desperate demographic:

- withholding profiles you would match with and showing them as "3+ likes" to try to convince you to pay for premium
- not showing your profile to people you might match with to try to get you to buy boost (which reverses this and gets you matches as such)
- telling you that you have a new like (fake & a lie) to try to bait you into opening the app
- automatically decreasing the match rate after your first day of having an account (you've been "retained")

Etc etc, you can find a lot of shit by inspecting the network tab in chrome devtools

@RocketSurgeon Definitely a user problem.

I'm ugly as shit & got only 1 match after swiping yes to everyone lol. But it's not Tinder and Bumble's fault I'm unattractive. Blaming them is pointless and illogical lol

A good way to get the opposite effect (even when you're in the desperate category) is to just reject everyone no matter what. It'll make you feel like you're turning down a bunch of people that are more attractive than you.

@Stuxnet you are attractive don’t ever think ur not my man

I've actually met my girlfriend on a Dating Platform and we are together since. I agree that it's a user problem

😂

@Stuxnet getting matches is definitely on the user but I'm talking about withholding matches/hiding function behind a paywall.

@woodworks Well how the hell are they supposed to get funding to keep this shit going?

@Stuxnet they've got features people would pay for anyways (seeing who already liked you, boosting your profile, sending direct messages, changing your age/location, etc)

Paying for extra features is fine but hiding the main function of a free app that already has tons of ads behind a paywall is just going too far (and tinder and bumble actually do this less than other dating apps which are just a scam to begin with). Plus they could raise a high valuation off of just having lots of users (TanTan strategy).

@woodworks Ok.

Well at the end if the day, nobody makes you use it.

Just delete it and get on with your life. 🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️

btw do a quick search for ex-Okcupid admin/moderator confessions

they provided quite interesting insight into how these sites works and how Okcupid pretty much fallen apart when Tinder owners got their hands on

Never had such experience, found my future wife on tinder 😅

@irene At the end of this month we'll get married u.u

@irene do you want to be my wife? 😏

@irene nice 😌

^^ top 20 anime tragedies

Then don’t use it.

Dating apps often get a bad rap, but in my experience, they can be a mixed bag. While some use them for quick self-validation or to feed their ego, others, like me, have found hidden gems. Take https://myeden.me/ for example. It's a platform where meaningful connections are made. You can find like-minded individuals, form genuine friendships, and even land unforgettable dates. It's more than just swiping left or right; it's about finding real connections in a digital world.