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I get rather uncomfortable when touched as well, I'm just not used to it I guess. I don't quite understand why some people like to touch people's shoulder or neck while talking to them
Although I do enjoy hugs :3
I don't share the feelings in that last paragraph though, perhaps talk to someone about it? 🤔 -
@alexbrooklyn nah, talked to friends before and they accept it. It’s fine for them so it’s fine for me. Don’t need someone to tell me that I have problems where I didn’t have any before.
I know I’m weird but that’s not necessarily a bad thing just because it’s not “normal” IMO. -
@endor thought about it but we’ve been working together for a while now so it feels weird.
That’s why I tried telling them in body language.
But yeah you got a point. Should just tell them and hope they don’t get offended. -
@just8littleBit hence the "gentle but firm" approach. Sometimes people just don't get the subtle hints, and you gotta explicitly ask them to stop because they genuinely don't think they're doing anything wrong.
Typically, as long as you keep the conversation light and calm, they just shrug it off and move on with their day.
"Sorry, I'm just not that touchy-feely of a person :)"
But hey, you know what's best -
@irene I'll tell my boyfriend that I can't hug him anymore
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Well madude, you have to speak up.
I am not trying to turn you into one of those annoying snowflakes, and your boss and coworkers might think you are one, but, if you have a genuine issue with it you have ti speak up.
What they do to you is the social norm, most people will say it is appropriate, since you are not confirming to the norm, you have to speak up.
In other words, you are the outlier, you have to do something about it. -
@irene Same with the kiss-but-not-kiss ritual that women have.
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@just8littleBit you can frame it like recently its gotten a bit too much. Something like "i was trying to be tolerant at first, but recently i've been feeling like the frequency has increased. I would appreciate it if you stopped", you know?
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@irene still not sure if you’re actually a girl.. you confused me with your comments around Christmas time last year..
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@arcsector yeah no, that doesn’t work since it’s always been the same..
I’ll figure something out, thinking about electro shocks or so.. like with dogs.
Or water spray. -
@Elyz the need probably derives by some deep frustration or lack of physical contact in their lives.. generally I'd reccomend that people to try some full contact martial art lmao
See how they like getting "touched" :> -
@TheItalianGuy yeah but like.. Find a partner, don't touch your coworkers 🙄😂
When you are about to leave the office but someone starts having small talk with you
My boss and one of my coworkers “touch me”...
I’m usually one of the first ones in the office. When my coworker comes in and walks by, he touches my shoulder from the back in a “hello friend” kinda way.
Especially when I’m trying to ignore him he pokes my shoulder. He could you’d waved his hand in front of my head.
My boss is trying to be the “buddy” I guess. When having lunch and someone says something funny, he literally rests his hand on my shoulder or kinda rams my shoulder with his shoulder..
They think that’s nice and “bonding” but I hate it and it makes me very very uncomfortable. The ONLY ones who are allowed to touch me are my GF (I don’t have one) and other girls i know in a night out after a few drinks.
Not even my best friends touch me cause they know I don’t like that.
Im giving obvious signs that they should stop but they don’t get it..
On the other hand I probably have some serious problems that It makes me that uncomfortable in the first place, but not sure how to fix that.. i don’t even go to the barber shop because they have to touch me to cut my hair. So I cut them myself or my dad does it once in a year.
rant
no touching
leave me alone
uncomfortable