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@kescherRant i can't even drive, nor am i even in college, how am i supposed to get a job and a place and a car by literally tomorrow?
(and he's the worst fucking person in the world, yeh. He's very bad at writing spyware, though... a cursory glance at task manager revealed "spy.exe" as a process. Just hanging out, unprotected...) -
Grab a second disk, install *nix as a dual boot, set it as the primary boot device in the bios, use that for work. Boot into windows whenever you're not doing anything important. If he asks, you're hitting the books. If you're suuuuper paranoid, get a tb3 card and boot off an external usb-c. When he's done power tripping, just wipe the windows part and go back to normal.
Edit: As for what you can do about him, not much. Try and get job and use that for rent money. A little suffering and work just makes you stronger. -
@Parzi what do you want from people here?
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@aviophile Advice, since he's in a hopeless situation I guess
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Just give him your college passwords... your dad is trying to get involved in your life.
He's not the NSA but a concerned father. Apparently a father who understands tech also, that's cool.
He's probably full of flaws and bad but that's okay... you'll get it when you have children of your own.
Nurture the relationship, get closer to him and enjoy having a dad in your life. He'll back down when trust is built for both of you. -
@Cultist No. There are lines to draw.
Not sure where OP lives, but my university passwords can be used for:
- choosing university courses I don't want
- reading my college emails
- accessing WiFi, thus impersonating me
- change electronically submitted homework
All of those is nothing I want my dad to be able to do, although I trust him not to do. -
@netikras I'm expected to pay to live here in the next month along with college. At the moment all I take up that I don't help with is power and food bills
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@sbiewald my uni is fucking garbage. They have a single password for everything by force, which is sent over HTTP. If he were smart, he'd just sniff the router.
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@Parzi
Oh boi.
Nope the fuck out there.
I know such parents. By personal experience and from others.
@netikras & @Cultist
They're not caring at all.
They're destroying unwanted children minds and taking them into account for their inability to practice safe sex.
My dad for instance is sick of mind for roughly 20 years now.
At least 10 years into severe alcoholism and drunk speeding. At least two years into beating his wife, our mam of three, without whom he would have achieved literally nothing in this world.
And it doesn't stop there.
A class mate had to pay their parents for food and logis from the day she turned 16. Draconic control measures and still commandeering absolutely every step and breath all inclusive.
I have witnessed children to host families who had to do fucking child labour for food, even though mother Germany generously compensates such hosts.
Don't tell me such people only want the best for their kids. -
So, @Parzi needs our advice to GTFO there.
That's what it is. -
@Parzi
You've gotta have a help phone line for minors and people in need.
Shelter stations. Employers who care. A government program to occupy 'the lost'?
Call it what it is : abuse of power over a dependent person.
That's like taking a hostage, but within the family.
I don't fucking get it. Just like arranged marriage. The fuck! Any "People of the free" here at all?! -
@Parzi
Find an employer who won't abuse you. Tell em. And do not tolerate abuse! Neither yours, nor anyone's! Ever.
Be the change you had to witness being necessary and be a role model as whom you want to be.
People will recognise and successively grant you the earns that they owe you. -
@Cultist & @netikras
Have a look at 'Black Mirror' S4/E2.
That's how _caring_ parents power tripping fuck things up.
Humen need freedom. Especially in puberty.
That's a character development thing to have a space their parents are NOT invasive to. Otherwise it's just slavery,mind washing and Stockholm syndrome.
You want that?
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@scor Is that the one with the child monitoring implant?
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@scor well, that escalated quickly.
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@scor
Thats what ignoring and marginalising fundamental issues does.
It wages not just information assimetry but polarizes, too.
Letting things crash and then, people wonder how it could have come that far. Sure.
"I wasn't aware of it." I know such kin. They're everywhere. Up to every government.
It's a character thing.
And it's not ok.
Not. Ok.
i asked my dad for help with a GRUB issue (EFI file wasn't seen in my BIOS anymore, nor booted when pointed directly at, even after ALL THE CONFIGURATIONS POSSIBLE) and i walked away for a while, content he'd figure it out (there's still a few things he knows more than me about.) I come back 30 minutes later and he's zero-filled my main drive and is halfway through installing Win10. His reasoning? "I'm installing surveillance software since you won't give me your college passwords and I need access to your college's site and your account. I can't do that on Debian."
I didn't give him authorization for this, and I thought he had zeroed my backups drive too, but it turns out it was having I/O issues (my controller is finicky sometimes, a boot cycle with it removed fixed it, luckily I can't write to drives it doesn't like when it's being a shithead)
What do? I can't sue as he owns almost everything I use and the house I live in and would no doubt kick me out and take all "my" stuff, but I feel like this really can't go ignored. I can't just talk to him about it as he thinks anything he wants done has to be done as he sees himself as above all other people, so he just shouts me down...
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