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stop524415dthat will lead to burnout.
devbf15615dDo you have any other hobbies beside programming? Can you imaging doing sports (but team sports, not the usual gym session by yourself)? To create lasting friendships, you have to have something in common with the people you want to have as friends. For example if you like chess (which is in my opinion a great hobby for a programmer because of logical thinking), go to a local chess club. Of course the first time you go there will be really awkward and the famous jump in the cold water, but it will be really rewarding. You will have similar interests (at least the thing you do at this certain e.g. sport club) and you will see those guys on a frequent basis. If you just meet up with people you know from job or somewhere else and you do not share similiar interests (beside the things you do at work), it will be really hard to create a solid friendship. And once you have a group of friends or likeminded people, the partner for life is not that far away :) and always keep positive, as hard
devbf15615das it may seem
I feel you
alcatraz627819014dAs someone who found himself in a similar situation (and ended up screwing both the startup and got an academic extension), I'd advise you to look for if the startup is really performing as expected in the short term. Long term goals are good, but they are made up of short term increments, and if the startup has not performed what it had promised to, say, in the last couple of months or so, there's a good chance that it's headed nowhere. So much work without equally great progress is more often than not a red flag.
For me, the breaking point came when we postponed our third launch and I called it quits. Once I left, a few more left as well.
Of course the high intensity work provides a lot of learning, but if the effort demanded is not matches by the successes provided, then maybe it's time to reconsider continuing.