How do you ask for a raise from your boss/manager?

I ask for a short meeting, ask for feedback in the meeting and use this feedback as an argument for a raise

Hi. It's been a while since the last review of my salary. When could I expect the next one?

<we agree on a meeting date>

[if he replies IDK]
I see. Could I have my salary reviewed by the end of this week? Headhunters are waiting for my response, I can only stall them for this long.

Obviously at gun point.

@sarcasm-fairy this feels like I can only get it verbally for a few hours but will never get to hold the actual cash because I'll be then fired and sent to prison. I was hoping to at least get to the point of not just getting the raise but also spend the money 😁

@iamai so you actually thought about doing it? Noice 👍

@sarcasm-fairy yes, all points are considered and vividly simulated in my thoughts.

I had a feeling it was a woman that asked this. Something very interesting I have noticed. Women find it more difficult to ask for more money even if they deserve it but men usually just go for it and it works out. I work in a team of men and I notice so many key behavioural differences. 3 months after working with the code I have been working on for a year without ever asking for more money(not that I did not desperately need it or deserve it as I coded the entire server side app) this guy comes and goes straight to the ceo and got himself a sweet deal. What I do now is think about what the men would do and then just do it. That's how last week I wanted to ask for raise and equity and ended up writing a shitty email. Boyfriend saw it and edited it with testosterone and big balls and guess what, I am signing a contract on Thursday. I say ask for it straight up especially if you know the work you do/have done warrants it. Women need to stop being so "nice" and "polite".

I've never asked for a raise. I often don't feel deserving of my salary as it is -- totally a problem I can't seem to get over.

Instead, I find a new job with better pay; if my current company wants me to stay, they'll make a sincere counter-offer. (That has happened exactly once, and it was two months late.) I generally hate everywhere I work, so moving on works out well for me. It's also nice being able to start fresh.

I've done this since I was making $11/hr @ 30 hours/week ($17k/year). I'm now making $120k/year.