Is there something like tinder that doesn't require a photo?
I just don't like my own face right now. That's all.

How am I gonna judge you?

Use tinder with a black photo.

Bumble or somthing?
Idk, i found out i hate Tinder, and others like it.

Do you not have a photo you like from about 10 years ago? Isn't that what everyone on tinder does?

You could wear a mask. Could also signal some preferences with the material and design of that mask...

Don't use Tinder until you resume liking your Face

I don't like my own face after using Tinder :)

I switched to another application, Tinder was a terrible experience for me. That said, you could just blurr out your face if you feel like it, and say it's for privacy reasons.

Eh. Idk. I need to find new friends, cuz I don't have anyone anymore who talks to me. Everyone seems to not be available, so in short, I don't have friends. I need friends. Plus I am naturally flirtatious, so need to not overthink their status and stuff.

Both tinder and bumble require a photo showing my face. (or last I checked, they did) and I don't know of any other app that does not need some pretty personal information.

@Cyanide I have many other flaws to be judged on. I've been told I have a pretty face, but I guess that's what people generally say, right?

Dating apps don't work because women get drowned in copy-paste spam while men get ignored because women are too busy sorting out the spam, which is why men don't invest time and resort to copy-paste spam.

Anything based on common interests tends to work better.

yeah there’s devrant, you just don’t find friends here cause everyone is depressed and hates people,

if you want to find people I propose to go outside somewhere where people gather to do stuff together and talk to them, that’s how communities work

@Fast-Nop what if the application lets you filter based on common interests?

I head about some new app called thursday , but not sure of its effectivity since its still having limited signups.

Also,both of us don't like our own *pretty* faces and are using devrant on a weekend :) .

I know this is not the right place ( or is it ? ) , but If you were not miles away i would prolly be asking you out for a coffee ( and get turned down. maybe not ? idk ) .

@shubham11111 you probably would, but that's because an isolated extrovert is a highly depressed and socially anxious one. (That's me)

Otherwise I'd love to break the dry spell that's been on for the last few years. 😜

:')

Bold of you to assume that I am not socially anxious xDD

(what happens if 2 socially anxious people go out?

interesting case study, would you like to partake ? :) )

@shubham11111 not really. Getting together makes socially anxious people freak out. So if they meet, they just say bye and go back to their respective houses. 😛

Got discord? Gimme your tag.

Also, tried Thursday. It doesn't work in my area.

Tried Bumble again. They required two photos. I gave Tiabeanie's. They said it's fake and showed me no matches. I even put it on bff mode, so yeah. Apparently you have to show some skin. Which, I'd claim for a whole lot of religious and anxious people, this policy is discriminatory. 😛

@Fast-Nop I've spend some "research time" on dating apps lately, and I didn't get that many messages. I didn't even get responses for interactions I started.

I think the attention avalanche applies for women with certain looks that present themselves in a very sensual way. But as a regular woman, who posts modest picture with her robot, you don't really get attention from guys.

And the type of guys I swipe right on are Michael Ceras and not Chris Hemsworths, but I guess average looking nerds are aiming for a Megan Fox, and not someone like me.

@NickyBones shush. I've seen you before (can't remember where, but I think it was a photo and had a drone in it too) and you're cute. If anything, you're terrifying. Cute and smart ... What's she gonna see in me? (Said the average nerd) she's just gonna get bored or find someone better and leave and I'll never find someone as good as her. (Continued the average nerd)

As i said the outcome can vary from person to person @NoMad :')

Discord - HEHEHE#3080

Hit me up to continue this study,who knows what we might conclude :)

@NoMad Considering the amount of successful people that came from the average looking nerd population, I really doubt it's the "loser mindset" that holds them back from interacting with me :)

From what I hear from girls that are less conventionally attractive, they don't seem to have success with Micheal Ceras either...

@NickyBones That's weird. If I saw someone with a robot I would want to talk to her out of sheer curiosity about what she's building. I'm talking with someone that is building a game on her own, just because it's a topic I like. Are you sure they were nerds? Or maybe it's like NoMad said. I don't even attempt to engage girls that have hundreds of likes in the application, because I assume there are plenty of good looking fellas they're talking to already.

@NickyBones success doesn't make up for confidence tho.
It's not that you should lower yourself tho. You just gotta look hard enough for one who puts in the effort.

Alternatively, you could start dating @shubham11111 here, who is already up to the task 😜

@ars1 I guess the definition for nerd is not really strict. Usually the guys I like are into some of the following: science/tech, alternative music, anime/manga, sci-fi and fantasy books, artistic tendencies (writing, drawing, 3D modeling...), skating, animals/pets, learning new languages, etc.

I swipe left on gym bros with a main photo that is a closeup on their biceps/abs, or guys who take "rich people" photos on yachts/sport cars/fancy hotels.

@NoMad Success doesn't come to people who don't believe in themselves and don't see their own worth though.

I met my last 2 wives the analogue way. The saying goes you will meet someone when you least expect it. But you have to get out a bit more in order to generate the chances. Digital dating is all about looks.

@NickyBones I disagree. But don't have a case in mind right now.

@NickyBones Fair enough. Hit me up if you ever move to Tokyo or surrounding areas ⛩️

@shubham11111 sent a request. The name is the same.

@NoMad Umm.. maybe.. maybe not. Will have to see your face for that 😌

@ars1 Tokyo <3

@Frederick I would hope to have a normal conversation with you, it's just not in my capabilities right now. So, it really depends on how good you are at dealing with someone already anxious and awkward. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

There's always a "sometime in future" though.

@Frederick I also prefer to meet people in real life, but I don't really have a life in the last ~3 years. Covid combined with being an expat is pretty hard on my social life :)

@NickyBones, @NoMad
So uh I thought about what you said some days ago. Ended up talking with someone that I would normally not bother talking with because she is too pretty for my nerdy self, but we had something big in common (only reason I wanted to talk, really). And it worked. Turns out that when everyone is just trying to get into your pants, being able to talk with someone is appreciated.