How do you stay positive?

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I seem to always focus on the negative things and it's miserable not only for myself but also the people around me. I think about doing things more than doing them. I'm in my own head a lot. It's difficult to let go. I mask a lot (i.e. try to act normal, to not be [or rather feel] judged).

I'm trying to change - from today - by not complaining anymore about things out of my control, spending less time online / more outside and doing more sports. It would probably do me good to find an outdoors hobby, ideally a social/cooperative activity with some physical activity.

I just needed to let this out. To write it down and commit it to the void.

What I have learned about myself thru meditation is that there is no need to stay positive as it is merely an emotion. I am aware that emotions change very rapidly as our thoughts do, and it would be impossible to stay positive all the time, so I make no effort to control them. Instead, I try to focus on that fact that I am not my emotions, but emotions are like a state which occupy my awareness temporarily. Idk if that’s all bullshit but it helps me out a lot…

How do you stay positive?

- That's the neat part. You don't.

I just say Vroem! to @ostream from time to time. Cheers me up

With positive I didn't mean "always blissful", but rather "not be always negative about (almost) everything to a degree it makes the wife unhappy".

@Nanos

> This can be a good thing !

For something with high stakes, sure. But it can be a problem otherwise.. I believe for me it's maladaptive perfectionism (to cope with doing things too quickly in the past) and procrastination (thinking about doing something can be easier than actually doing it).

> I think for the most part, being negative is just spotting the world for what it really is.

But does it improve the world or my life? I'm very unhappy with the state of many things, but I feel there's almost never effective ways to change them (a lot requires political will). Those that ignore the issues (or aren't even questioning them) seem to be be happier..

> picnic

I would consider the physical activity of a picnic to be rather limited, but I guess that depends how much stuff you carry!

@Nanos I didn't picnic enough. Didn't know that sex was on the table. Dammit, i said so much times no. Especially to my dad

@Nanos ignorance is bliss indeed. I hate the guy who introduced me to all his right wing stuff. Now i polarize everything. Can't watch Netflix anymore because he teached me all agenda's. Everything is ruined

@Nanos many sides and almost every friend took one. So, tiptoe around everyone. All since covid, it made society a bit crazy

@Nanos ugh, climate change. I can write those Articles. *watch out, bees more agressive due heat caused by climate change*->Bee crisis. *Cats grumpier because of climate change*. Probably both true but what the f. They can write Articles about it endlessly

@Nanos I live quite far from friends now and almost only one not having a family. I once had the perfect partner but broke up randomly because I was focussing on job that made me happy. I had the money, the partner, the house. Fuck

@Nanos heh, could be. If the world is really this burning we would have said to China "No trade unless you quit fucking with environment". "Oh no, my iPhone" -> yh, yh.. But planet is burning right?

@Nanos no, women like driven men on something. Can be work. I was never busy looking for a partner - I just met them

@Nanos I fly until Amsterdam disappears

@Nanos I was scrolling trough Facebook with a friend and I saw the most beautiful creature ever with her on the picture. She added the beautiful creature, then i had time left so I contacted. It was in ukraine

@Nanos 2 seats means more pedals right? It probably benefits

I had luck in live, had three times a relationship with my no1. Now having the depressed thought that chance on a 4th is minimal

@Nanos don't get it, it's fun like a tandem but less dangerous

@Nanos previous partner introduced me to kids. Now I want one. They're more interesting than AI. Looking for: partner with 5yr old kid

@Nanos Omg, that's better about meeting somewhere instead of 'date'. That league thing is terrible

@Nanos how long was your last relationship ago?

@Nanos depends on the kid. Hopefully he fights back but i know the winner always did it. Ill have a serious talk with their parents eventually and gaslighting them like "Are you sure everything is OK at home with your child behaving like that?". Did i pass?

@Nanos how did the ten minute relationship exactly end? She walked away?

@Nanos if he has that many bullies I have to give him the nicest pokemon cards everyone wants. If he is the bully, ill hit him less

@Nanos that's why I look for a partner with a 5yr old kid. Running away is what the father of my stepkid did. So sad, such a good kid. Miss him a lot since break up. He asked me to write soms for him to make. Loves math

@Nanos I don't think that all bullies have problems, some are just like that

@Nanos that ex was not easy to live with. I'm interested in the list!

@Nanos you don't have a boring life. Wtf