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@dllsethr I’ve been through hell at $work and treated like shit for years, and it only ever gets worse. I’m fucking done.
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@Root well they won't treat you better if you stick around
this is a fact of life. metaphysics. I can vouch for it repeatedly. not just jobs but varies friend groups when I was growing up (I was a social butterfly), various shitty adults (my friend was poor and we would hang with adults to get food), etc
best thing to do with ungrateful people is to leave. and then they basically always annoyingly come back and tell you you were right all along and suddenly treat you the way you wanted to be treated and way better -- but the kicker is that it's all fake because they're incapable of such genuine emotions and they're only pretending. are they even human? my brain questions that -
@Root
It is okay to quit.
I did it on a shitty place long time ago. Best decision mental health wise that I ever made.
Since the day I created here an account I only see you in quite a personal hell.
I hope its gets better for you somehow. -
@zoridan Thanks; I really appreciate the sentiment. I’m just hoping I can like something else up first.
Finding another employer hasn’t been going well, though with my abysmal mental health I’ve barely been able to force myself to apply anywhere.
I managed to get … most of this nightmare above working (though the numbers are all wrong; yet another mystery to solve) thanks to the catharsis. -
@Root
Do you have any savigns? (you don't need to answer this at all) Could you just drop the job in like "fuck you all and good riddance"?
I know there are bills to pay always, but there is a moment when you need to choose you over, well, hell itself. It is okay to quit.
In my case telling them "This is my 15 days notice" just did a lot. and from there I was able to focus again and breathe.
Setting boundaries helps too: now work on weekends and like hell I am gonna do extra hours, they don't pay enough for us to suffer their shortcomings.
I will assume that you work in america so absence due to mental health is not an option?
I give up.
I have to make a bunch of disparate things work together, in an otherwise easy-sounding ask, and they’re all broken. Every one of them is broken. Even links between them are broken. Devs hardcoding incorrect values; devs pushing broken code, broken dependencies, broken configs. The orchestration is broken. The containers are broken. The NATS/gRPC flow is broken. Nothing works out of the box; many of the pieces require config and env hacking to run, and when they do run, the data formats don’t match between services (nor do e.g. account IDs). I can’t do it anymore. I was so burned out before this ticket that I couldn’t look at anything work related without feeling physical pain. And now this.
I’ve spent weeks just getting things to run and talk, and being ignored when I ask for help. There have been walls every step of the way, and I’m still not done. I can’t do this anymore.
rant
root can’t.