Sometimes I hate it to be a "computer-guy". There is this one beautiful girl, I see her everyday in the train, but I just can't talk to her. I hate myself for not just saying " Hi" or whatever. I'd love to "just say something", but it doesn't work! Why the fuck am I thinking this much?!

Any tips? From dev to dev? Please?!

Does she listen to music or read a book (define entry point: same_interests)

Just break out of the loop of thinking
Count to 5 take a deep breath and Just Do it :)

Upgrade yourself to the latest version to get the features you desire... Simple!

@helloworld I don't approve.
This guy here is trying to make contact, and you're basically giving instructions in how to be a dick.
Besides, IF this worked I'm pretty sure this is not the kind of girl one of the "nice guys" would get along with.

@forkbomber it's a joke, obviously, no need to get all sanctimonious.

Just say hi. She will say hi. You will be proud. Let me know what happens.

forget it. code hard, get paid much, do cocaine, f**k b****es. one random girl is not worth the headache

I think we both listen to the same kind of music (we're both black clothed with dyed hair). But thanks guys :D I like the loop thing xD. I'll think of this when I see her next time, when I'm smiling everything gets easier. Better than just counting to 3 :). Thanks.

And this is actually no joke. Would be a quite bad one?!

Thank you for your responses except this rude one.

Thanks! We already smile at each other and keep looking in our eyes through the window reflection :D. That's why I think that I just have to say "Hi". We even walk at the same speed on the street... Sometimes next to each other... BUT I JUST CANT OPEN MY MOUTH. She must think that I'm a total douchebag or whatever lol.

And concerning beautiful girl... I think a black clothed girl with turquoise/pink dyed hair isn't beautiful for everyone... But for me, she is. I already love her voice, when she says "thank you" after I open the door for her... There is just this damn barrier which locks me from the talk(); function... I feel horrible.

@Paragrimm hey, ignore the negative people here ok?
If you already look at each other, chances are she's just as shy as you are, all you need to do is make contact.

@edisonn you're overdoing it.
Also: "stay away from good looking girls" is the worst advice ever.
But please, feel free to leave them for the rest of us ;)

@forkbomber thanks :).

If(me.near("beautiful girl")
{
me.say("hi");
}
else
{
me.approach("beautiful girl");
me.say("hi");
}

I need something like this. Hardcoded into my brain. No exceptions. Maybe try and catch...

@Paragrimm I'm sorry to have to tell you this, you have a syntax error on the first line of your application :-(

Don't over think it. Just do it.

@ThomasRedstone damn. This bracket... :(. It must be a sign.

Yea I have to "just do it" I'll try to think of this loop thing next time :D. This is funny and distracts my brwin hopefully so I can finally say something.

Thanks for your help! Very great community! So much love here :).

If she's smiling at you and looking at you through the window then she's probably thinking the same thing. Just say Hi, you'll have a fun story together later about how nervous you both were.

I know how that feels. I have this beautiful girl at work. She can't keep her eyes off of me and I am very attracted to her.

So, tuesday I dropped her a message on our company's chat app. After waiting for like 15 minutes for her to respond she responded immediately with ' lets meet friday?' So I did.

That was today and it really sucked. Of course I did not expect that as she.can't take here eyes off of me but probably that doesn't mean a fucking thing.

What a bummer.

So, my advice: think about what you want to say and when. Create a plan. And just execute it. Do it! You won't die if she rejects you. Then you know if she's the one or not. If you don"t try and you die tomorrow, you will regret for not trying.

@CodeMasterAlex thanks for your advice! Yea I'd totally regret it. The problem is that I know this, but my brain doesn't get it xD. I'll do it Tuesday. Monday we've a "celebration day" or something like that, I don't know the english term lol. It's a day off, because germany united dozens of years ago lol.

@Paragrimm I laughed when you explaned it in code.

@Paragrimm good luck then!

@Paragrimm I got almost the same problem, except for I know how to approach someone but not who to approach. They are all so beautiful. Can't choose. :/

@Paragrimm I know a good approach, buy two cups of coffee. Say to her: "Magst du kaffee?". Tell her the barista made the wrong cup for you so you could give it away to someone else (for free). If she doesn't like coffee talk about something else. If she does talk about coffee or the news or smth. It will be easy from there.

@Paragrimm If she likes coffee you can grab her number for another coffee in another place.

I just want to keep following this good luck mate! Godspeed through the weekend!

Something weird I did to make my brain "get it" that might help you:
After some coding when I felt like some fresh air I went out to a public place with a lot of girls. Then just try to start talking to some of them. It was f*ing terrifying and awkward in the beginning. I even had days where I walked around for an hour without talking to anyone, making me feel terrible. But after some weeks it started to get more natural, the conversations were actually pretty nice. I still got a lot of rejections but I learned that that's a good thing because you teach your monkey brain that nothing bad happened to you, you're still alive. At some point I started to get phone #s and I even asked a random hot girl on the street for a drink and we had a date on the spot. Because of all that I got massively confident around girls and I now have an awesome girlfriend.
If you have the balls to try this, your brain will come up with tons of excuses not to do it, don't listen to it, you will be rewarded ;)

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Thanks guys :D, yea I have to trick my monkey brain. And yea a bit training might be nice.

The coffee thing is awesome aswell, I don't like coffee but I could buy 2 of something else... Like a hot chocolate or something like that.

I'll keep you guys updated. I hope that I see her again on Tuesday :).
The day, when I talk to her will be a day full of happiness and joy. My monkey brain should realize this lol. Even if she doesn't like me, I'm growing, because I'll overcome my 'fear'. So please dear monkey brain... Stfu and let me talk please haha.

She's gone. She's not in the train anymore. I feel bad. :-(

@Paragrimm just remember what you wanted to do next time you see her, she could be back, and if she doesn't this will happen again with someone else.
If you think you have only one chance, try to take it.

@Paragrimm that's though. Maybe next time?

Thanks for your kind words. I'm moving to the city I'm driving to with the train and she propably does to school there and works at another place/city. Aaand I think the school she attends there is near my new appartment. So chances are that we see us again

Told ya...