nice work, so

https://meta.stackexchange.com/ques...

It's just another shit show in 🤡 🌎

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I like that people have posted sane and well expressed answers as disagreements to the CoC. If only they get heard.

I came across the WeAllJS(https://wealljs.org/code-of-conduct...) when I stumbled on to a dev.to post about maintaining and nurturing communities. I found myself agreeing to some of the points in the CoC and the rationale behind them. Then I saw the examples. Annoying wtfs. Sadly, it looks like everyone's starting to follow suite.

Why do people have to take everything personally?

The moment I see crap like that on an applicant resume (like “Prefered pronoun”), this resume goes into trash. No need to read to understand that this person has around 0 IQ

Don't those people who came up with this bs have any better thing to do?!

Such piece of shits makes up ridiculous rules which makes it even more difficult to help users or participate in the community.

@NoToJavaScript The idea that someone should have complete control over how other people refer to them (or that their preferences should always matter - if there's a difference) was invented by people who don't care how reality works, and has infested a lot of people who should know better.

@powerfulparadox I see what you mean, but your statement isn't quite accurate/correct, nearly everyone exerts some level control over how they want to be referred as.

I'm a dude and if someone called me a "she" I would naturally take that as an insult.
Some older people expect to be referred as in a more formal manner by younger people.

The universally agreed opposition to this CoC is that it's over regulatory and vulnerable to abuse.

@FrodoSwaggins well, not every company on earth is pro fascism, so it depends. but for example, if you plan on working in one of the big, then yeah, erase history

@JustThat I think you mean that the list hard to remember are the genders, the pronoun list is still small.

Whether being not cis-gendered (or as my fave comedian puts it, being normal) earns you or not the "deservingness" of an opposite pronoun to your biologically based one is a complex discussion, and I know shit about shit to have a good stance.

I settle on calling people whatever the fuck they want to be called based on practicality and my perceived lack of harm in doing so.

The problem with these CoC is that they're usually led by thin skinned and pitchfork-ready idiots with no sense of humor, ready to sterilize every possible hint of offensiveness, usually prohibiting mere thought.

@JustThat wtf...? I thought those were foreign lang pronouns... I stand corrected...
I can't even can't even...

@jesustricks You missed the word "completely" in my original statement.

Obviously one's preference has some weight, and any individual is likely to be the best source of information about how to refer to themselves. That said, getting mad about someone working from basic observation is akin to acknowledging that you are rebelling against reality. (There are, of course, differing opinions on how much reality should matter, as well as what reality actually is. Most of the bad ones lose immediately when reality smacks them upside the head, though.)