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Root
7y

Here's a follow-up to my New Year's resolutions rant six months ago:

( https://devrant.com/rants/1117379/... )

I've completed (or made significant strides in) 5 of my 7 resolutions:

1) Rid and keep my like free of toxic people.  This includes parents.

I have had a serious conversation with everyone who made my life worse and whom I wanted to keep around, outlining my issues with them and my expectations should they want to remain in my life.  I happily cut out everyone who refused to change their behavior, including my parents.  My life is quieter now, and much nicer.

3) Take care of myself for a change!

I've started this, but with work, a monster, etc. it's been almost prohibitively difficult.  Minimal lasting progress despite considerable effort.  I will make more time for it and make it happen. (I was down 12 pounds at one point! Though this isn't just about weight.)

4) Stop putting up with things I don't have to.

If I don't like something optional, snip snip!
I no longer wait patiently (fuming) for slow-moving people.  If something prevents me from being productive or going about my day, I no longer let it.  Carpe diem; calcitrare culus! I have been much more productive and energetic because of this.

5) Actually enjoy things I enjoy.

Okay, this one is very difficult.  Whenever I'm not working, I feel like I'm wasting my time.  However, I have made a conceited effort every day to take time off and do something that sounds fun.  Sometimes that's more work, but usually it's music, a game, a book, exercise, or bed.   I'm still working on actually enjoying my time away from work, however, but I'm making progress!

7) Finish de-googling my life.

I no longer use a gmail account (except a work-provided account), nor do I use any of their services unless absolutely necessary (and I do so through TOR).  My phone still has Google Play Services; however, I'm working on finding a replacement that I can @Root.  (Suggestions welcome!)

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The two resolutions I haven't yet addressed:

2) Find a well-paying job that isn't also toxic.

My job has gotten less toxic of late, with the boss actually listening and everyone writing up feature requests (with co-sponsors) instead of just dumping them in my lap.  I perform an effort analysis on them, and everyone discusses them as a team to determine which actually deserve development time.  This is tens of times better than before.  I also no longer have to be at the office.  In fact, I haven't been there in months -- and don't even remember the alarm codes haha.  I may also be getting another developer, though I suspect this is actually a lie.

6) Finally buy a harp. I've wanted one since I was 3 ffs.

I haven't done any research yet on which harp(s) I should buy.  Also, I have no idea where I would keep it, so I may defer this until we move, or just get a tiny one (lap-sized and cute!) to practice on. Probably both!

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It's been six moths, and I'm happy with my progress. 😄

Comments
  • 5
    Awesome! It’s always exciting to hear the result of hard work and a willingness to change. Keep at it, I’m cheering you on!
  • 4
    You are awesome Root! 🌷
    I'm glad to read you are in a positive and productive path forward, more power to you!
  • 4
    I think you have pretty much covered everything with these. I think they apply to all of us. Thanks for sharing @root and great to here you have made significant changes. I shall mark this as a favourite. 👍🏼
  • 2
    Congratulations @Root,
    Clapping 👏 for you.

    I don't have any new year resolutions,
    Now I'm thinking I should have few for remaining half year 🤔
  • 3
    I respect people who follow up on their goals.
  • 3
    Wow, well defined resolution and good progress on them! Kudos!

    This actually gives me motivation on at least try to fix things in my life!
  • 2
    Could your progress with resolution 2 be a result of your progress with the others?
  • 0
    Thank you for sharing this, I'm keeping it as a cheatsheet to stay sane :)
  • 2
    apkpure acts as alternative google play store downloader (both the app and the website). obviously it only works for free apps, and i'm not sure if it works without play services.

    otherwise, f-droid and uptodown are your friends!
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