67

This happened when I was on third semester of the career at university. I had my first boyfriend, the "Python" guy. He has that nickname because he used Python as his main programming language and nobody on the classroom used it.

In a few words, he was a... horrible human being. He talked down to me almost all the time, saying to me that my country was sh*t (he is from United States, and for a reason he never wanted to told me, he cannot go back to his country), that my university was sh*t and he said "you're will be lucky if you rot programming in a chair".

As you might wondering, yes, unfortunately it was a toxic relationship. Once he said he wanted to kill the teacher because he though that he hacked his laptop D:

He claimed that he was going to teach me python and security stuff, bla bla bla, but nothing. I learned python by my own.

I almost lost my faith in dev future because I though that the only ones that could have a real future in programming where people without ethics and only if they have a friend or a relative on a company.

The saddest part was that I dated him because I love smart boys, but he was just an idiot that, furthermore, wanted to change me (he pressured me to have tattoos, dye my hair and have sex, things that, of course, I didn't do).

I found courage to break up with him. I waited until the semester ends (in order not to lose my programming final projects) and, the day after the last day of class, I broke up with him.

I recovered my faith on programming when, next semester, one of the teachers invited me to give a python programming workshop :D and I gave two python workshops, and two of mobile development.

Now I'm working as a junior .NET developer. Thank God I broke up with him before the relationship became even worse. "Python" wanted to marry me after a year! O_O

Comments
  • 5
    Good for you!
  • 3
    friggin narcissistic assholes
  • 6
    You broke up with him after the final year project. I love that. thumbs up
  • 2
    FX [ Feels the courage. ]
  • 3
    "The 'Python' guy".
  • 11
    I'm ashamed I use the same programming language as him.
  • 3
    Good on you - sounds like you're now doing great! 😊

    Also, "can't go back to the US because of an undisclosed reason that I don't want to talk about" sounds dodgy as anything....
  • 1
  • 3
    I'm so fucking happy to read your story, esp. waiting to break up with him until it suited you, and not breaking up with him because he did something so creepy that your resolve to follow your own plan got shot down,
  • 1
    It's the language that made him so toxic
Your Job Suck?
Get a Better Job
Add Comment