If you respect yourself, don't use dating apps.

LMFTFY:

* don't tell anyone you use dating apps

Then how does one find a girlfriend?

Note: I'm allergic for the outside world

@Codex404 not sure if that's sarcasm.

You will have a 0.0001% chance of finding a girlfriend on an online dating app.

You're better off asking women directly in real life whenever you have time.

@netikras what's bad about it?

I've made some experience and I didn't like it.

It lowers your confidence, changes your view on women (you'll begin to think that every woman is hoe which is not true) and wastes your time. It's not worth it.

@-ANGRY-CLIENT- Depends on your age :) After certain point in life >95% of attractive women are already taken. Attractivenes depends on your and her age. So if you have waited too long in your twenties you'll have a harder time finding an attractive lady to spend your life with. Then you have 2 choices:

- give lady Luck a chance (could take years, could take your whole life, could never happen)
- exhaust every possible resource, like dating apps, night clubs, etc.

there's also a 3rd choice -- find a young student in her early twenties -- this approach IMO has the best probability of successful match, but there are longer-term and long-term risks.

What I'm trying to say is that you might find yourself in a point in your life where you do not have a luxury of choice you had a decade ago. As years pass you have less and less approaches available. Dating apps are pretty much universal.

If you have this hoes-attitude-problem, you still have time :) How much tho?

@-ANGRY-CLIENT- It's simple maths. Women have best chances to conceive a healthy child until they are 30-something. Having a baby right away after you meet someone is not smth people usually are very excited about, so that means you two would rather spend a few years together before starting a fam. Now we are in the late 20s. Usually people want a few kids. Each will be born at least 2 years apart, so if you decide on 2 kids -- it's finding a partner in mid-20s now. 3rd child could be a risk (after 35 or so) - we have a saying "3rd brother John", meaning that 3rd kid is often conceived in the risky period and could have development issues.

So to put it plain simple: don't waste your time if you do not like using dating apps.

@netikras guess that I'm in the age where girls are not mature enough on dating apps.

@-ANGRY-CLIENT- That's very likely :) carpe diem! And enjoy the [default] way of finding your mate while you can!

@netikras thanks! You, too, mate!

@-ANGRY-CLIENT- I'm happily married, but thanks :D

@netikras You sound like 35 is a definitive deadline because after that you will get 100% propability of complications.

@Gregozor2121 It's not a deadline by any means. It just gets more difficult later on.

I'm basing this on friends' XP :)

@-ANGRY-CLIENT- sounds like a totally you problem and nothing at all to do with other people using them.

It lowered YOUR confidence

It changed YOUR views on women

Let's not blame a service for personal issues

Don’t let anyone else define what respecting yourself means.

@-ANGRY-CLIENT- well these apps are more for people looking for a quick fuck, not really about finding your soulmate albeit i wouldn't necessarily say that has not happened.

@-ANGRY-CLIENT- You make quite a lot of bold claims based on anecdotal evidence, my good sir.

Met my wife on tinder :) been together almost 6yrs total and just got married. I've never gotten along with a girl like I do with her.

So I guess I disagree

Dating apps are for sex.

@AleCx04 it depends on what you use. Some are not for a quick fuck since you will be banned for it

Let's make a better one!
Tinder is really too manipulative, plus shallow since you are mostly judging people by photos.
What do you folks think of a speed dating kinda app where you get 2 or 5 mins to talk with someone randomly based on your interests and after the chat both parties are asked if they like each other and if both say yes then it shows them each other's profile.
It can offer up some deep quick questions so during the speed chat so that people don't waste time on pleasantries.

@theCodis that's similar to the one I'm using :) it's Dutch.

You don't see each others photos until 5 minutes of actual chatting (like a ten seconds idle timer)

Hey @Codex404 , can you share the link to the app ?

@torpkev not sure why you're acting up like that. Most men in my age feel that way. Google it and you will find it.
It might be a generation thing.

@-ANGRY-CLIENT- I'm 40 and I don't.

@torpkev case confirmed. It is a generation thing. I'm a millenial.

@-ANGRY-CLIENT- still sounds like a you problem then. Make an effort and don't blame an app for how you behave.

If an app changes your view on women so you expect them to be hoes or whatever you said, then try a little introspection.

@torpkev how can you be so ignorant?

You are way too much fixed on the apps. Let your mind get away from the app talk and be open with your mind, man.

It seems like either you missed my point or I didn't deliver my point properly. My point was about the whole dating world. Apps, communication with the matches, hopes that lead to nothing, but time consumption etc.

Depending on the app, I have nothing to completely something against the app.
If it is tinder and alike, I have something against it.

There's the concept of boosting your own profile to get more potential results. The app plays a very big factor in getting you your matches.

It restricts you by grabbing the potential matches away from you and offering you a so called Boost. Which as an consequence makes you break your self-esteem until you finally buy the gold/premium etc. version of the app.

@torpkev, trust me I did a lot of introspection.
I began to think that all women are basic hoes. That (introspection) is why I said that not all women are hoes. There are male hoes, too. Read my first comments.

@-ANGRY-CLIENT- blah blah.. blaming an app for your shortcomings.. kinda pathetic tbh. You have a lot of growing up to do.

Go ahead and mute me, I'm not interested in listening to you whine any more.

@torpkev what I'm saying right now is the conclusion. Yeah, it is all from my experience, but others share the same experience as me, too. In fact a lot of people in my age.

Man, you have Google. As a dev, sys admin or whatever you are, you should know how to use it.

Use Google. Use Quora. Use reddit. Use [...]

@torpkev I'm not interested in having a discussion with you either. Leave my post.

@Nanos I 100% agree with you

@Nanos The article says:

>>> The University of Missouri has claimed that a male asking a female out on a date could be sexual harassment – if she is smaller than him

I dare say if that is true then most men asking out a woman will commit sexual harassment, given that women are, on average, smaller than men, i.e. the chance that she is shorter than him is quite high.

I'm married (15th anniversary coming up soon) but if I was dating, I'd have a hard time finding a woman taller than me (I'm just under 2m / 6½ft).