My partner says I'm too much of dry logic and lacking in emotions. The way I want to find logic in everything and ignore illogical spontaneous emotions... Isn't helping me in here.
Just wanted to vent out and ask whether this is the curse of the nature of work... with tech I am in (I fantasise it to be that) or is it just My individual problem?

Maybe you have autism spectrum (Asperger Syndrom) and you don‘t know it yet?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/...

You have the wrong partner.

So people I know suspect I am on spectrum. I tend to not always follow social cues. The question is: If I don't understand social cues or if I knowingly ignore social cues, what does each of those things mean?

Real men aren't "emotionally available", they don't think that "apricot" is a colour instead of something edible, and they don't use jQuery.

@Fast-Nop 100++

@rutee07 *chuckles*

Hm, I'm usually considered insane.

I can be very logical, unempathic and unsocial. Mostly when I'm bored or simply don't want to interact with some persons but I'm forced to.... (Fuckwads.... Lot's of them).

But when a person is honest and respectful and/or I like the person, I can become the complete opposite.

I just don't like being nice because people expect to get their arses kissed. I like being nice when people are honest and friendly.

@rutee07 I have been told I am 'over analysing' everything onto a logical flow and not going with the 'feelings' that I have.
And yeah funny when they get to do their illogical unfair stuff so bravely because they get overwhelmed with emotions which is 'real' and my logic feels so 'made up'.
It's like they want me to express something only to blame me for that afterwards. It's a fucking trap.

@RikaroDev It's what I call being dishonest.

When you don't understand a thought process., say it.

When you have no fucking clue, say it.

Instead, they're blaming. Because it's easier instead of communicating. Narf. Fuckwads. Fuuuuckwads.

*hugs*

@rutee07 for that I'm definitely the wrong person.

If flirting does not consist of being hit with an traffic sign it's very likely I won't notice it.

@RikaroDev Even better, if you fall for such BS, you failed the strength test. Just go and see which kind of men don't struggle with female demand - it's certainly not the softies.

@rutee07 hm... But as I miss the flirting it usually ends in sex and not talking because I'm not good at flirting. And I definitely don't wanna talk during sex.

I'm an INTJ.
I have emotions, but I find them useless and irrelevant, and therefore ignore them.

My girlfriend is an INTP and she's the same way. It's nice, and honestly refreshing.

I find emotional people tiring, illogical, and often distracted by emotions to the point they're useless.

@Fast-Nop
This is both true, and in at least one those cases, not ideal. 😋

@Root Ah the last sentence is what I feel. Good for you and your partner. Hope I find someone like that... Just realized that my current relationship is gonna get fucked up sooner or later. Sigh

Maybe your partner has a bug.