I don't really understand the thing about ALIMONY. I mean, if a couple gets divorced, how come only men have to pay & women can demand as much as they want?

It makes sense when you think about it.

To begin: It's not always women that get it, but most of the time they do. That can be for example if they keep the children or some other reason for a financial strain like No job, or less paying job and so on.

The main point of alimony is financial support. There's usually one ex-spouse who is better off (owns house, has a stable job and so on, you can see how men would often find themselves in this position, we're more materialistic anyway). But even if you leave the house to your ex-wife, she might not be able to pay for it alone (until now you paid as a couple for example) so you would be asked to help with the sudden financial strain on grounds that you can (if you can)

The whole point is to try and balance the situation for both individuals after a divorce, so you both have time to stand back on your feet. The more secure is told to help the less secure (in case of kids longterm)

Really it may look unfair if you look at it like "why should I give my money to someone I no longer love"

But it makes perfect since if you're in the position "suddenly I have to cover all my financial needs alone with a single income"

It's a big hit on both of your wallets and It's only fair to ease-up the separation slowly, so It's not a shock.

Though alimony to an extent assumes two-sided agreement. For example if your spouse was cheating on you, the court would take into consideration and wouldn't force you to pay anything (or significantly less), since chances are they already have a new partner, and even if not, It's kinda their own fault at that point...

The system isn't perfect, but it's far from outright unfair

it's an example of a weaponized law which there are many in the world. this is an antiquated weaponized law.

ugh fuuuuuuuuu for posting this again.

anyway, like most of the shit in this country that is exploitable which to me has been proven to be just about everything because of filthy people, this law used to be designed to support a woman who had a potentially deadbeat husband.

women didn't work, this kept the man from cleanly abandoning them and leaving them with nothing, its one of few, including child support which allows the woman to buy as much alcohol or drugs or cloths as she likes because there is no oversight.

its one of those things that the present generation with all its filthy disgusting complaints overlooks because its a cause of misery that is just too much fun for garbage women in short.

the reality is it should be directed at whoever is most screwed by a divorce, instead of the working spouse who happens to be female.

@Hazarth your take on it sounds like someone who is phishing for someone else to tell them they are full of shit, which you are.

'on a single income' the man has to live on a single income after they split up as well !!!

you people bitch and whine about equality and castration to enforce equality but when it comes down to it all 'progressives' want is the historical victim class to be prolonged out of context while covering up how corrupt and evil they themselves are, perfect cover 'oh my heart bleeds for that poor woman making 40k a year, the guy is making the same amount, but lets give her more of his money'

or 'hey lets give this rapist woman the kids, which she'll sell, and 800/month in child support, which she'll drink, and then tell the poor kid that they're out of luck because their dad left them'

but hey support your local crackwhore parasite :)

today I watched this video ( https://youtube.com/shorts/... ) where the wife asked for 900K per month! I mean, who earns 900K in a month?

@AvatarOfKaine

Ok
A) Im not a progressive, I don't care about equality

B) as someone who paid rent both alone and in a couple, I know the difference it makes

C) your view of the support system is a perfectly constructed strawman to exactly fit your narrative. Are you an American? The rest of the world doesn't struggle with the romanticised version of alimony that you're trying to paint here.

D) since you immediately moved to attacking me as a person and then proceeded to group me into a group I don't even belong to just to make your point seem more credible, I have to assume there wont be a reasonable conversation with you on this topic.

Instead of flaming each other on this rant, lets simply agree that its a law that originated from a rational and noble intention, but it's far behind the times and aged badly.

Be it crack-whores or gold-diggers, of any gender, benefiting from it, the fault is always of the government and law institutions for the way it's implemented and enforced.

Cheers!

@KennyTheBard amen, I skipped all other flamer comments straight to yours :P hehehe

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