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lbfalvy
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What's with people displaying their pronouns in SM but failing to put their family name in all caps? I'm glad you're so progressive, but as a person with an Indian name in London, have you considered enabling English people in talking to you first?

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    Had several indians calling me by my last name in calls. Did not bother to correct them. 🤷‍♂️
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    But how do you then know how the name should be capitalised? Changing the capitalisation of a name (or a title of e.g. a book) can be as deceptive as changing the letters altogether.
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    @electrineer @iiii @rutee07 It's a tradition as old as the telegraph to write your preferred name wrt. strangers in all caps in your signature. For example the signature

    Best wishes,
    FARAGO Andras, Mr.

    would indicate that unless you're personally friends with Mr. Farago you're expected to refer to them as such. With the introduction of pronouns, this would be modified to

    FARAGO Andras, Mr. (he/him)

    which indicates
    1. How you should be included in lists, postal addresses and on name cards
    2. How you should be addressed by name
    3. How you should be referred to in 3rd person

    In reallity, the prefix (Mr.) is often omitted for simplicity and because forced directness is popular, but unless you and your audience are both named under the traditions of the same country you should still indicate which name you want to use.
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    @lbfalvy it's not a custom in my country to refer to people by family names at all. The only occasion I remember is teachers addressing students, otherwise the full first name with paternitive is used to address someone who you are not close with. Of course, paternitives are omited in international communication.
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    @lbfalvy but how do you then know if it's Farago, faRago, FarAgo, fArago, or FaRago etc. That changes the whole name.

    @iiii why the heck would teachers use last name. Anyone working with kids should know them enough to use first name.
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    @electrineer that's how it is 🤷‍♂️ the only place I've heard anyone using last names are teachers in schools and universities.

    Though it's more common for newcomer students. After seeing each other for years the formalities tend to weaken. Especially in university.

    I also exclude occasions in groups where people do not get called by first names because of numerous name collisions (once I was at a game table with 3 Alexanders), so they are mostly called by last names or nicknames instead (commonly derived from last names as well)
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