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I'm having quite a hard time.

For my studies, I'm doing some research minor atm. And it's basically a 10 hour a week job for me atm. I have literally nothing else to do. No I do not do side projects, I do not aim to be a developer in the future.

This is causing me to sleep about 12hrs each night until it's impossible for me to fall asleep again. I just do not see any point in getting up unless I actually have something planned (meeting bf/friend). It's gotten to the point where I've actually cancelled plans because they didn't give me enough motivation to get up.

Since this is my last year in college, I am also stressing out about what to do next year because I cannot think of anything I enjoy doing.

I am worried abiut my health at this point. Any tips?

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  • 7
    I find it difficult to give tips, as someone who always has too little time and sleeps 5h max. Too many hobbies, side projects, languages and skills to learn.

    But I know motivation has to come from within.

    Subscribe to the right YouTube channels, follow some online courses, read and watch things you can learn from.

    And write down your ideas.
  • 5
    @marthulu be careful, sleeping to much and thinking everything isn't fun are signs of depression.

    Force yourself to get up after 8-9 hours of sleep.
    Go do stuff you always wanted to do but always put off for some reason.

    Find the joy in everything you do
  • 8
    I'd recommend to do some sport in your spare time. It's the best way to clear the mind and it truly makes one happy.
    I startet regularly climbing in a hall and go out for short rides with my bike.
  • 4
    You really have to force yourself to do stuff, cos no-one else is. Explore some hobbies, go to some classes, learn a foreign language, do lots of different shit to figure out what actually gives you a buzz. Set yourself little goals. Get a routine in as far as getting up at a set time. Think about your future, what you want to achieve and start doing things to get you on that path. Get out if the house, interact with people. Believe in yourself.
  • 3
    If you're feeling that you won't enjoy a particular subject or hobby, it would be best to approach it with a "There's no harm in trying" type of attitude. Who knows, it might end up being exactly what you were searching for.
  • 4
    Could you get a part time job, or do some voluntary work? I'm sure there are loads of places that would be grateful for your.help, even if its just for a couple of hours around your studies. Either that or sport / gym as @PonySlaystation suggests.
  • 4
    do sports
  • 7
    Can I just say, I fucking love this community!
  • 4
    I think everyone has this "list" in their head, a list of things they want to do.

    Maybe it's writing a novel, because some plot keeps unfolding in tiny little pieces in your head. Maybe you've vaguely remember a game you wanted to try out. Maybe you've thought about adding a shelf in the kitchen, or growing a tomato plant, or painting a mural.

    There are two problems with this stack.

    The stack is small, and the stack overflows. Some days you have a thousand ideas, and you forget almost all of them within a day. Then when you need it as a resource, it's shallow and runs out fast.

    The other problem is that when you feel a little down, nothing on your list seems worthwhile.

    1. Can be countered by writing your lists down. Lots of them. If you use your smartphone for one thing, let it be lists. Google Keep, Evernote, Laverna, Turtl...

    2. Is not easy to solve. Order your lists by personal priority, and force yourself to pick one from the top 5 to spend a few hours on every day.
  • 2
    I will suggest try freelancing based upon your existing skills. Will give you some extra side cash too.
  • 5
    thank you all <3, i really want to improve
  • 6
    @marthulu i got into GPU programming recently. That is seriously some fun stuff (workes for me if I need some kind of productive destraction). Or try something else entirely (learn how to knit socks, that could come in handy at some point of your life 😃). Please don't fall into that deep hole of depression. It is sooo hard to climb out of there again.
  • 4
    That's interesting... I'm feeling basically the same - and I'm also in my last year of university.

    I actually have the *long term* motivation to work on my thesis (which I just started) - but I still fail to get up, take the train and get shit done. I don't know what it is, really.

    Part of it certainly has to do with me reading the edge of burn out two years ago. Since that time I appear to have no endurance or discipline anymore.

    However once I actually start working on something, I have no problem to keep going. Something just keeps me from beginning.

    For me it is crucial to work as long as possible at university rather than at home. That helps a lot. If I get up late, I go home late - that's currently my only way to get things done.
    (Of course that's not always viable).

    Working with others (even on different things) helps a lot as well. Maybe you can meet with other students to work together - each on their own tasks l, but in the same room - to create obligation.
  • 1
    @bittersweet I think for some people the problem is they have no list.

    For me I have no list of what I want to do. I just keep going through the motions hoping I find something I want to do.
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