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github95647y@Aitkotw I was going to search "how to talk to girls" but google suggested that before I completed it..
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github95647y@Aitkotw haha. PDF seems a good hand guide to start with. Didn't considered it. Thanks for mentioning it.
I might now get some good material to start with. đđ -
i recomend you this book on how to deal with humans
https://goo.gl/bvNQm6
How to Win Friends and Influence People: Dale Carnegie ...
and you may find a hobby which isn't computer related?
google for small talk topics.
for example: family, books, movies, vacation, favourite meal. -
rfc716828077yWell, do what you'd do with every other human being - do some small-talk, show that you're interested in the person you're having the conversation with e.g. ask questions, listen, if you answer, don't just give a simple "Yes/No" ...
Be yourself and don't panic.
Observe how you talk with other people/friends on topics apart from coding can also help if you don't know what to talk about. -
github95647y@heyheni thanks for the link.
Indo have hobbies apart from coding like playing music, recently cooking. Not considering sleeping as a hobby since it's an individual activity and prevents the involvement of another person. -
Just internalise the truth that they are human just like you and they also fart and poop as well
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M in the same boat as u r my friend... m shy haha đ đ and it’s not even just girls... even random people I can’t talk to...
But then... the only thing I can talk about is tech, science, kinda philosophy... m pretty sure people wud rather kill me than talk about that đđđđ -
@theNox thats easy, but that might be because they are no possible mating mate for me.
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github95647y@nin0x03 thanks for Ur advice. Will try to follow it.
@theNox with boys, I talk general day to day stuffs. I am little scared if I talk to girls about those things. Will they just start assuming that I am hitting on them, though I was just having a common talk. -
@heyheni although I really, REALLY like that book I wouldn't recommend it for this case, Carnegie explains how to be a good conversationalist like when u wanna make People switch products and they are satisfied with the one they have don't start to argue but tell them their product is awesome aswel, and then start talking about your product that way they don't get in defensive mode. (Story about the white truck). Like I said I enjoy the book and probably have read it 50 times or so.
The only thing that helps you when talking to girls: practice.. just focus on learning instead of impressing girls and understand that even experienced "womanizers" (I apologize for the term) get rejected.. don't take it personal and move on to the next one and remember just do it for learning, not for the reward. The reward will come in time. Hope this helps a bit -
theNox94777y@Codex404 @github but for me it is sometimes a problem to talk to boys and rather not a problem to talk to girls đ
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rfc716828077y@No-one My bedroom has a door. It should be common knowledge how to operate a door handle or so I thought. ;)
(No offense taken. But seriously, please don't ask women even jokingly such questions if you rarely know them for it will definitively weird/creep some out.) -
github95647y@theNox Ur avatar depicts a girl. So, assuming that you are a girl, it is obvious for u to be more comfortable with the girls.
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github95647y@harrizsb hahaha.. đđ
By pdf, it means a guide book(in pdf format) on how to talk to anyone.. -
harrizsb7317y@github it supposed to be .pdf not just pdf, it makes people confuse. Google nowadays
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mngr9417yMy only discussion arguments are 3d printing and software things.
At my job, with my family and with my friends. I AM FUCKING ANGRY WITH ME FOR THAT.
When it's time to talk with new people I have no problem in keeping the discussion, making jokes, or questions...
But I have just a small set of arguments, once they are gone... Silence. And they are stupid things: work, school, film? I never go to the cinema. Games? Not a thing to talk with girls. Food? Wow, a genious!
What did you do last days? Seems the best option, fml. -
github95647y@mngr well. You explained my state in details. Same here. My bag of dialogue gets exhausted soon and after that, only work or study stuffs come out.
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mngr9417y@github I am trying to change myself.
I noticed that the big problem is not having arguments. Is the way you think, nerdy people do it in a particular way... Still can't tell exactly: something like trying to split a sentence in its elements, and building using elements and some rules of logic. (Based on speeches with friends)
I aim to make a "normal thinking virtual machine" running on my native code. Really hard to share :/ -
bioDan61697yHere are some starting topics i enjoy to talk about instead of talking about specific topics:
Start with your dreams and inspirations, like places you want to visit or things you want to do. Ask about her point of view.
Fish for topics you think she might find intersting while you talk about experiences from last week, yesterday, and/or today.
Ask if she ever experienced similar things, also what she's been up to lately.
If you still get no input from the user (her), she's probably not intersted.
Otherwise its safe to assume you'll have plenty of new topics to explore with her. -
mngr9417y@bioDan dreams: put the world upside down, making lot of jobs not necessary, and giving every one the possibility to have his own little generic industry in his house!! :D
What do I do in my days: stacking anger.
Seems I have to find a way to become a more interesting person! (Actually trying to) -
I used to be shy with people regardless of gender but I took steps to fix that and now I'm good.
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bioDan61697y@mngr your first paragraph has enough ideas to write a trilogy. Keep pursuing them dreams, and try to be more yourself rather than more interesting.
Try to practice acrive listening too. Gotta be a good listener to find true friendship. -
github95647y@bioDan thanks for a long described answer. Generally, current status, I do always fall in the last section of your comment category. But, yup will try to be better. đ
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github95647y@marcus5914 I am not good when it comes to groups. When 1 on 1, I feel better. May be I am suffering from inferiority complex.
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I realized it that the only time I talk confidently with a girl is when I am solving some technical problem or helping her understand some computer theory.
Pre and Post - this phase, I can hardly find any topic to talk and later they are also done talking to me.
Should I consider to search on how to talk to girls??
Google already suggests that even in incognito mode.
Is there someone else with me in the same boat?
rant
no code == no talk
talk something apart from code
reality
introvert only applicable with girl