Ok guys. I have a very important question to ask you.
I need your help. How do you explain to your girlfriend/boyfriend that you are a developer so you need to spend a lot of time on your computer? My new girlfriend does not want to understand.
Thanks guys.

strange.. are you sure she doesn't understand? or does she not WANT to understand?

That sounds like a red flag. Save yourself bro!

Haha yeah she not want..

But I spend about 16h/day on it. Maybe it's my fault...

@Alice not all the time but often! My ex girlfriend never had a problem with that

Teach her how to program :)

@Alice I did not think about that. :P I'm bad about relationships

@Hizen why do u spend 16h/day ???

@rangler I'm in love with React :/

@Hizen so you aren't working, its just a hobby?

@Hizen as alice said, you are in a relationship with her to be with her. If you're spending all your free time programming, you are the one in fault imo

@rangler my hobby is my work. I work with React, Vue etc. But I choose to not separate my personal and professional life. But u r right it's hard to be in a relationship with my situation. With a little thought I think she's finally right.
I gonna try to spend less time on my computer but it's will be hard. Resolution for 2018 ;)

My girlfriend lives 50 miles away, so not a big issue for me. But 16 hours is a bit much, if you spend 8 hours asleep then you're literally spending all your waking hours on a device... Try to disconnect a little, good for your health, regardless of your relationship.

You should be able to work without your girl dictating how you spend your time. Long term you need to have part of your life for yourself. That said; when not understanding you spend 16 hours a day on a computer I'd say she and @Alice are completely right she signed up for a relation with you not a programmer working zoo.

@hjk101 "a programmer working zoo" hahaha You killed me bro X)

devRanters don't have GIRLFRIENDS!!!

Some of us do have girlfriends. I am not working from home, so most of my programming is done at work where my girlfriend is not. But I had to work on keeping a healthy work-life-balance for her sake and mine.

@electronix Stop lying to yourself

@JonnyCodewalker Don't blame me for speaking the truth, it had to be said!

Say it is work and/or important for you.
If she does not respect that or she does not give a shit or does not eant to let go, you have to start thinking on what you are willing to let go or not.

@busuu hmm ok