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wowotek
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People of devRant, I need your help. I REALLY NEED YOU GUYS. please hear me out.

I have a girlfriend, who also a developer. i met her everyday, and interact with her everyday either directly or via online. i am so commited to her that i always push beyond my capabilities to reach Our target in the future (may god hear my pray).

i am currently busy for doing a big project with strict deadline. and now this project is on phase of finalisation of the scheming, and now i only have 2/3rd left for developing it. and other small project that i'm doing.

Every day i spent my time just for her, and allocate the working time on weekends. I knew that She must be know how busy a person is especially a developer like both of us which have a strict deadline. but now she post something on her time line like shown in the picture below.

please, we all know this. chatting, talking and giving attention everytime is not always mean i care, and not chatting, talking, and of attention doesn't mean i don't care. Trust me, I do care for you VERY VEEERY much. am i pushing my self just for you doesn't mean anything ?

Please People of devRant. i need your help. i am currently at the bottomline of depression, even vacation does not help. for any woman developers out there, can you point out something for me that i am doing it Wrong?

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  • 19
    Maybe its a compliment because she knows you make time for her.

    But just talk to her, if you can't talk to your girl about stuff like this. It will just build up and ruin your relationship in the end.
  • 9
    What @MisterArie said. Just talk to her, dude
  • 5
    Just because you have a strict deadline doesn't mean you have to lock everyone out.

    I don't see how one even would be productive all day long. Just because I slam 25% overtime doesn't mean my productivity increases by 25%

    To me this sounds like a problem that can be solved with a schedule.
  • 1
    @MisterArie i've talk to her everytime and every single problem i had. is there anything specific that i need to talk to?
  • 1
    @BigBoo exactly like i was thinking, but thats not worked out. well, i can be productive fulltime. i share my story of my self in the previous rant.
  • 2
    @dontPanic i currently in the opposite of your username. Panic, Very.
  • 5
    Just listen to the words of Wisdom.
    The less you care about the girl, the bigger crush she'll have for you.
    I know you'll ignore this advice now but you'll remember it with enough experience in life.
    And God forbid. NEVER EVER listen to woman's relantionship advice.
  • 2
    @wowotek So. You are doing a strict deadline for lulz and complaining about it ruining your relationship?

    Because your previous rant was only about how you are not challenged enough. And this rant seems to be like you are too challenged because it's tearing your life apart.

    What am I missing because this doesn't make any sense to me.
  • 2
    @arazzz i need help for myself. not for my relationship. i do agree for you. i always treat relationship advice like writing a pascal program. You write it and forget the implementation
  • 1
    @wowotek that you are scared she thinks you are not giving her enough attention.
  • 1
    @BigBoo that story talking about this entire semester. and this is current me like started just 45 minutes ago. like, ya know, when the relationship is tearing apart and you have energy no more. and yes after this problem, i don't even think about challanges anymore and leave everything behind. i want my girl back
  • 0
    @MisterArie i've tried. but it always comback to the devils circle. debugging where am i wrong.
  • 0
    anyway, thankyou for everyone for helping me out. you guys helped me eased of my pain. Thank You very much
  • 3
    @wowotek Your logic hurts my brain.

    She left you because you did something else for 45 minutes?

    If she left you because you didn't pay attention to her, I'm sorry. But she's probably passed the point where she's grown tired of you. I don't think you just ignored her for 45 minutes. And the deadline seem to be self imposed. So I don't know what else to say than that you have to suit your self.

    Live and learn as they say. If you don't tend to your relationships you leave them to rot. It sucks. And that's why it's important to not do that.
  • 0
    @BigBoo dude, sorry. maybe im bad explaining in english. i mean this problem started about 45 minutes ago when i realized she post something like that. and she's not leaving me (i hope not), she just angry with me, because of i don't give her enough attention. and she said that : "don't ever talk to me, if there is nothing important. i am busy, bye." while i know her daily life, and i know she is not busy at anything at all.
  • 1
    @wowotek Yeah. But if she posted that 45 minutes ago the problem didn't start 45 minutes ago.

    She's probably growing tired of you. Maybe to the point where it's already too late. Either that or she's a drama lama. But I dont make assumptions like that. So there is probably something missing. Talk to her about it.
  • 3
    OP, stop assuming things and ask her directly if everything is ok. Communication is the key
  • 2
    WTF, why would a girl demand attention when I'm at work?! I've never done that. When I'm at work, my time belongs to my company because it is buying the time for real money.

    Anything below an emergency does not warrant disturbing me at work. Emergency in turn is something that involves emergency rooms in hospitals or coffins.

    Otherwise, arazzz has nailed it.
  • 1
    in the end it may be just a fucking random pic without any context to the relationship. maybe she has a colleague that this applies to. maybe it's a compliment for you. maybe she wants to say "i'm busy but i always find time for you guys aka my friends and family" maybe it's just a random quote she likes and wanted to share i do that often too.

    just calm the fuck down or you'll burn out
  • 0
    Dude, take some time out for your self, burn out is never good for you or those around you who get the worst of you because you are tired. Then ask her about it, it probably doesn't mean anything, Just coincidence.
  • 2
    @cervantes01 and if it does mean something, then it's psycho game shit that needs to be shut down once and for all, or it will get worse.
  • 2
    @Fast-Nop true enough many a bad woman has destroyed a good man and vice versa.
  • 2
    talking about me ?
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