WTF is wrong with people nowadays?! The only things girls on Tinder want to talk about are memes(?!), food and drugs... what the actual fucking fuck?!!

Hold on. You asked what is wrong with people and then used Tinder as evidence.

See the flaw?

Don't go on Tinder. Problem solved.

I bet most of the "drugs" they are talking about are just some weed. If they had tried the really mind-blasting stuff, they wouldn't talk about that on Tinder because nobody would understand anyway.

@platypus Yea but... how am I supposed to find girls that are looking for a relationship outside of online dating? (or girls in general... or tbh any new people regardless of gender in general)

@Fast-Nop around here if people talk about drugs they usually mean the strong stuff like ectasy or methamphetamine, they don't consider weed to be a drug even if it's illegal

Tinder surely isn't the only dating app.

And clubbing (dance---not seals)? Salsa lessons? Bars? Hentai conventions (just learned that one)?

Just...not...Tinder. It's like giving up on society before you even start.

@D3add3d mh IC, so more the normal electronic music party stuff.

But using Tinder for dating works if you are among the top 10% of guys (either tall and well trained or just rich) and are looking for a quick bang. Otherwise, there's nothing in for you.

@platypus dunno what you mean by bars but if you go to a pub where I live you will find that noone there is sitting there all by himself/herself, always a group of at least three people

clubbing? Weeeell... you can go to a "club" but again... go there alone and you will get drugged so much that you won't remember at least a whole week or you will never be seen alive again...

Salsa whatever and conventions - 1. no money; 2. no interest

I spend most of the time at home working or doing whatever, I see no point in going outside(1. it's really fucking hot; 2. there is basically nothing to do outside if you don't have some goal of where you are going; 3. I would never stop a person that I don't know and even if I did I would never start chatting with them)

Apparently Facebook is starting a dating app soon... Might be worth checking out if you are willing to sell your soul

@Fast-Nop @platypus well... no-one uses any other dating app where I live... You make a profile on one of the other apps, you find like 5 people and that's it

@platypus Salsa lessons.. OMG how deep must a man sink before trying that move?

yeah, seriously, wtf is there to talk about regarding memes? and why would you talk about drugs instead of actually doing them?

talking about food CAN be fun, though

No dude, don't look for relationship on tinder, actually.. Don't look for relationship at all! Its a mistake!

If you happen to find someone that is relationship material than its a bonus but if it is your goal you will end up in a relationship with someone not worth it because you will end up lowering your standards in the long run.

Keep your standards high and your expectations low ;)

People are usually more confused about relationships than they should, it saddens me. It's just about willing to care and showing affection.

@platypus probably adviced you to go salsa because that is a simple way to show that you are willing to do different things, a.k.a willing. Just trying won't hurt, you may even like it. Even better, you would get out of your comfort zone. You might meet an amazing friend as well. Didn't like it ? Nobody is keeping you there with a loaded gun, you can always leave.

Else, i suppose you look for a person who does almost exact same things as you do, since you are not willing to change your lifestyle the tiniest bit. That person definitely exists, but he/she will bore the hell out of you.

If none of you is willing to keep the relationship intact, you will break up pretty fast and peacefully. You will bore out of him/her anyways.

@illegaldisease oh trust me I am willing to change for someone but I won't just run out and sign up for some dancing lessons as I don't have time to waste time :D I'm either working; fixing something for my family or driving around the town aimlessly with an instructor to get my driving license... Although I was going to arts school(playing drums) and there was one girl who had the same name as me but in feminine gender ofc :D I am Samuel and she is Samuela (oooh the confusion when someone just said Sam and neither of us knew who that person was talking to), she was quite fun to play in a band with as she would just make up parts of a song because she forgot to learn that song but she was too young for me :/ (I would not say going to the arts school was waste of time because I wanted to learn to play drums but from the "get to know some girls" point of view it would he a huge waste of time)

@illegaldisease oh yea and I am not looking for a girl that does the exact same things as me, I just need to have something in common with a person so I have something to talk about. I would love to find a girl who is energetic, positive, does not care what others think, wears normal clothes(meaning what's comfortable for her and not what will make her look "super sexy"), does not wear make up(for some reason it just grosses me out when girls wear make up) and (not that important) has short hair or dreadlocks; and preferably green eyes -- so basically I described my best friend... but that's a long story

@hell don't worry, happened to me already once.... *sigh* 2 years wasted but I learned my lesson and I am very careful now

@D3add3d I get the main idea. Been there, so i won't tire out you and myself writing about the stuff you already know, so i will get straight to the point.

The girl you are looking for definitely doesn't use a dating app, she probably thinks only losers would use it. Dancing lessons was just an example, it could be anything.

The question is, would a girl with these attributes gun for you ? Why would she ? Why you but not a social butterfly ? Why you but not a strict man ?

If you really are a perfect fit, that girl will eventually find you, whether you like it or not. If not, be like that. Girls as you described are usually tired of being disappointed, so you have to earn their love first, by committing with everything you got.

Basically, i say go all in or go home. Girls like these don't play games aymore. They want your genuine, caring and honest ass.

Sounds like I need to relocate..

@dufferz why? :D

maybe ur being catfished

@rutee07 you wanted the opposite of blond with blue eyes?

So, red eyes and dark blue hair?

@D3add3d food drugs and memes basically are my persona, I want to die lol

@rutee07 that's pretty high standards

@rutee07 follow up question: if your skin was inside out, would everything attached to your skin be inside out?

@rutee07 I wasn't, but I am now!