One of my ex-girlfriends (who apparently still cares about me after several years 🤔) sent me this chain letter kind of thing wishing me 12 months without sickness, 52 weeks without stress, 365 days of luck, 8760 hours without fights, 525600 minutes of peace, and 31536000 seconds of happiness.

But that's not what I want mate! All I want is a year of <50ms ping!! 😝

I still kind of like her though, especially given that she's still thinking about me.. maybe I should have trying to go out with her again as one of my objectives for 2019?

Buddy, this sort of email does not mean one cares about you. If I had to sent smth like that I'd send it to people who I know but don't give a damn about.

Dude there's a reason ex is in that word even if you don't remember it

@netikras well I would argue that I wouldn't send that sort of chain letters to anyone that I don't completely hate to the point where I would want to spam them with dribble, haha. But then, I'm not exactly the kind of person that does a quick and dirty repost, and don't like getting them either, because of their spammy nature. But I haven't seen her for too long to know whether she might be one of those people who posts BuzzFeed nametest shit on her timeline and usually responds to chain letters by reposting it to others 🤔

Daaayuumm boooii da great @Condor talking about his love story! You still have a human side are you 😂 jk bro.

With That being said, Wheels are rotating, sometimes we are in the top and feel arrogant, and sometime other we are in the bottom and useless.

Maybe now she is in the bottom for the first time. There is no problem giving a second chance. As long she learnt what shes done in the past.

Sometimes ago someone told me not to believe anything from anyone especially about love, i think it's @Floydian , But :

"This is free suggestion, take it or leave it" - Ranchoddas Shamaldas Chancad from 3 Idiots.

@PerfectAsshole the thing is, I vividly remember the reason and without getting into too much detail, it was really immaturity on my part. Something happened which made me break up with her, but in hindsight is was for a reason that current me finds rather childish. At the time I really was a disrespectful little brat. Maybe I still am ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ but at least I've grown more mature by now.

Why would you think that a chain mail is 'caring'?

Never date ex's.

In Spanish(Mexican Spanish) we have a saying that goes: "No lo haga compa"

Short, yes. But full of wisdom.

Don't do it.

Ive had like 20ish ms ping in Overwatch but they seemd to have changed their servers now im at double that. It still very good but frustrating at that 1% of the time it matters.

It was a broadcast message she sent to everyone on her contacts list. 🤣

@JFK422 Very true. My previous version before edit actually was that I'd be happy with just 100ms, but then I tested the connection to my mailers (which double as VPN servers, please don't judge), and it turns out to be only 60-ish ms. So I guess that the 400ms of my DNS lookups over the VPN are mainly many iterations of back and forth chatter between Belgium (where I live) and Italy (where my internet servers are). I've found it to be mostly related to distance really (both physically and network-wise). For example, I can ping and query my DNS server at the address within my home network with microsecond latency, and even the Cloudflare DNS with 10-ish ms latency, probably because they've got a CDN somewhere in Belgium or nearby. But ping (and transfer speeds too actually) to other countries go down (quality-wise, so transfer speed goes down and ping goes up) as they get farther apart. Really weird in a way, especially in the transfer speed department, but an argument in defense of CDN's I guess? We sure do need more of those, at least one or two behind every PoP.

@NoMad cut your ear and mail it to her.. what 😂 that's one way to say "you just wouldn't listen"! Gotta take note of that for later, haha!

On the subject of new people though, I've tried to get close to people in my town but couldn't quite do it. It's not as much the dating part as it is the "breaking the ice" part that is difficult for me. And I mean, I might've been looking in the wrong places, local cafe's for example seem to attract mainly builders etc. Not exactly the kind of people that I'd want to get affiliated with... But where else should I look? Where would I feasibly get to know girls?

I've been thinking of subscribing to a nearby swimming pool's club membership program but couldn't quite justify it as "how many girls would I get to know trough such a thing anyway? And would they even match my interests of computer science?". Dating someone from a time when I - through a way that I can't repeat, because of reasons that I wouldn't want to become public - inevitably had to be around them and naturally grew close to them, seems so much easier than getting to know someone completely new would be...

It's a trap. Tell your dick to relax and masterbute 2 times before making a decision.

@NoMad Yeah, I've given Tinder another go just recently. Previously I didn't have much luck with it, but I guess that perseverance is key... Another try, another time during which it might just go well. Having developed social relationships primarily on the internet for a couple of years (for better or worse) did cause me to realize that at the end, nobody cares though.. so as far as skin thickening goes, I guess I'll manage? My personal introvert personality mostly applies in the real world.

As for developing my own (better) dating app, Android development so far has been a big no for me so far to be honest :') I really can't quite get around why iOS development would require Xcode (on Mac nonetheless) and Android development would require Android Studio (which can be worked around but seriously, should my desire of using vim take that much effort to develop in this or that language?)

/edit: typo as usual

@NoMad thanks for the suggestions!

I'm currently in a state during which I doubt whether I'm worth the change of others or whether I'm even worth their attention at all.

The thing on Tinder that's very different for guys is getting a match to begin with. On social media platforms it's just the same, girls tend to get hit on more often. Likes on posts and pictures I feel I've caught on with, but the social differences still prevail. But those are worthless during the scouring of Tinder or social interactions in general.

Hopefully this time will be different. Maybe the issue is that I'm aiming too high. But I can't quite come to terms with matching with someone who I don't find attractive either. If anything, I guess it's a matter of tuning?

@NoMad being one of those weird computer nerds I guess? At least that's the general impression that I've got from local peers so far. Which also happens to be one of the primary reasons why I don't like them all that much either. Most of the people I met in real life don't really seem to have an identity of their own, and just go with the "normal stuff" that their peers go with. Which goes completely against my own values of wanting to customize, deviate and create my own identity, undisturbed by social pressure. Perhaps those properties are just inherently incompatible?

@error503 thanks for the pro tip. Now I will consider fapping first before proposing a girl.

It's like remembering the good old star wars movies and deciding to watch one of the new ones

I know the feel, it's a bliss