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How where you able to get over a breakup? 😭

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  • 9
    Booze
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    @Froot I have never taken alcohol 😭
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    Youtube.com
    Alpha male strategies
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    Time, Booze and more Time.
    And trust me, when you think your over it, the first time.
    You aren't, you've still a long way to go.
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    Crying. Talking. Time with friends. Time alone. Time.
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    @SukMikeHok I disagree on that, all I‘ve seen so far from those sorts of videos and people is that „get buff and fuck everything that moves“-type of mindset. I agree with @metamourge and @ihatecomputers
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    @possum I'm with you on that, healing should come first instead of just suppressing the pain.

    When that's done tho, OP: feel free to get buff and plow babes for all the right reasons if you still feel like doing that.
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    Get laid all you can.
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    Time and not focusing on it
  • 9
    Chocolate
    Rum
    Time

    Also all three.
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    Don't think on it too much. Do think on it, cry, have some ice cream, try to remember that it wasn't all good.

    And then stop doing that. You can't do just that. Play some video games, invest heavily in a project you enjoy, hang out with friends!

    But don't hang out with friends too much. It's easy to not want to be alone with your thoughts. But they don't go away until you confront them. Learn to be happy when you're alone. Get a massage or just wander the mall, get some cinnabon. Anything. But try not to be alone all the time. That's how depression fosters.

    I know, it seems like endless contradictions. But it gets better, it takes some time, but you'll be fine.
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    Find something to take your mind off of it. It’s a temporary release but it’s worth it and like most people have said, time is the biggest healer. So reading a book, playing video games, programming something you enjoy, etc. Reading is great because it puts your mind in a different place (I recommend fantasy as my personal favorite).
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    I stopped getting into relationships altogether so this wouldn't be a problem anymore. The first and last relationship I had, I just let it finish up all its "fuel" while still in the relationship. When we broke up, I started fucking another person the next day.
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    Video games helped too.
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    Crying, travelling
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    Start practicing leet code problems
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    Not at all!
    Perhaps that's because I never experienced an actual breakup rather than just a sudden flatline in contact...
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    Work and hobbies. All-in
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    lol, so many people are suggesting to cry. Here's my story. I'm going through this phase too. I usually prevent myself from crying, "I gotta be strong" you know. But a day before yesterday, I went to bed and within minutes I had tears all over the pillow. I just couldn't stop myself at that time and it felt good afterward. I don't have those close friends either whom I could talk to about this. This is my first time, I've being introspecting. I have learned a lot of lessons from this. Love made me blind, I had become vulnerable, lost my own life, was so dependent on her, her voice used to heal my wounds, a mere thought of used to make me smile. Life's tough now. How this happened is a long story, but it happened and it happened for good. I do not have any hard feelings for her. It just that I'm finding the "lost me". I'm learning to play Bamboo Flute. Getting out some time for myself. I'm learning maths. Doing things which I love. Yeah. The future is good.
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    Fuck her. Not literally.
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    Cry
    when your parents die
    or when your dog die
    and you are alone in Challenger Deep
    or half way to Mars
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    Fucked her best mate
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    ...... life ain't that short to get sad on this kind of things, I mean if it's really long relationship like 4-5year+ then I can agree that things might get critical as we are used to them but it's same, you will learn eventually living w/o them.

    Maybe even you will laugh on this after few years? xD
    Cheers!
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    Time as they say is a great healer.

    Probably because we forget things..

    But also I think because it is like going through withdrawal.

    Thus anything that takes your mind off thinking about it, ideally something mildly constructive..

    Avoid things like drink, which can cause you to do stupid things you regret later. (That includes food..)

    Spending times with friends can help, though they may say "I told you so.", in which case, try to listen to them in advance next time. :-)
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    When my relationship broke, I cried for a week and then, I promised myself that I will treat myself right. I didn't play any sports ever but I brought a basketball and started to learn. A month after that I brought a guitar with my savings and started to learn music. The times I used to spend with her before I started to spend with myself. Whenever I felt lonely or felt like crying, I grabbed a book and read until I felt asleep. I made new friends, spent time with my family. Anything I loved to do, needed or wanted to do, I did it. You have to decide yourself, how much will you love yourself. :) I learned.
    3years have passed and I am happy. And I am not angry with her nor have any regrets. It was because of that I am here now. And I am happy.
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    @zombieleet what? How old are you?
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    Play games
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    I don't know.
    I am 16.
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    @KartSriv Doesn't say much.
    I'm 17.
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    @zombieleet dafuuq. How does one make it to 23 without trying alcohol? I'm not making fun, I'm genuinely intrigued.
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    @Froot Religion or self-righteousness.
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    @Froot

    Poverty !
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    @Nanos never have I ever seen poverty stop alcoholism. Usually there's an inverse relation 😀
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    @Froot

    If you are too poor, you can't afford to buy it..
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    @Nanos

    Same with being overweight, if you can afford to do that, you ain't really poor.
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    @telephantasm Religion 😂 and fear of getting drunk
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    I traded for a newer and better model. Also, alcohol.
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    Strip clubs and ecstasy...

    For those special cases, invite their best mate along as @bashleigh suggested 😈
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    @Nanos make your own maybe? Piece of bread, some fruit and a little sugar is all you need.

    Well that and something to strain it with. I do recommend building a still if you can get away with it. A t-shirt or coffee filter will generally work though.
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    Hm. Cooking... And then my friends usually "kidnap" me... Mostly because my cooking becomes increasingly violent and disturbing. Still tasty.

    The last time I broke a pan... After "violating" (Not my choice of words) a schnitzel. The welded join was torn...

    Oh. And when you put a chair outside the flat with 3-5 kg of Fresh baked Cookies, the neighbors get weird btw.

    (I cannot handle emotional stress very good, I'm more a rational Person... Breakups are very stressful)
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    @M1sf3t

    Have you seen the price of bread here !

    Just over a year ago, it would take me all day working to afford a loaf of bread.

    Now it only takes me 2 hours.
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    @Nanos maybe to someone who thinks as responsibly as that, in which case there’s a good chance they aren’t poor. However, I’d say the snoring of homeless people spend most of their money on booz or drugs and a lot of people remain poor because they spend all their extra money on booz or drugs. So being poor definitely has no influence on it lol. I’m sure if you looked at some statistics you’d see that the lower the economic class, the higher the drug and alcohol abuse goes. In no way am I saying this applies to every homeless or poor person though. There are plenty who have had bad luck, mental illnesses, bad childhood, etc
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    https://money.cnn.com/2015/05/...

    > Rich men drink more than anyone else,

    > study finds
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    @MrCush

    > a lot of people remain poor because they

    > spend all their extra money on booz or drugs.

    FX [ Nods in agreement. ]
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    Homelessness is interesting.

    There appears several mayor reasons why folk end up like that:

    They like the lifestyle.

    Bad luck.

    Poor money management skills.

    Oppressed group.

    Once homeless, some folk can lose all hope.

    After all, you have hit rock bottom, it isn't easy to climb back up, more so if there is no one to help you at all.

    Some then, instead of using any spare money they get to improve their situation, see a hopeless one and spend it on anything to give themselves pleasure.

    Or to forget..

    I read an interesting study some time ago that showed giving homeless people a home, really helped them.

    Who could have figured that out. :-)

    Next study, giving water to thirsty people results..
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    @kescherRant Before I joined dR, I was dumb and playful but then I saw @Rutee07.............................
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    @KartSriv You lost your virginity. It's all good.
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    @M1sf3t I changed my mind. Fuck her mum
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    Play some shooting game to release your anger
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