- had an interview going well
- existential crisis kicks in
- fear of being found out to be a fraud and phoney kicks in

This is why I can't have nice things! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Is it still imposter syndrome if I genuinely believe I'm not good enough?

Nobody is good enough

It's only imposter syndrome if you can clearly tell me why you ain't good enough!

........

Yep, that's what I thought, now go land that job!

@NoMad If they thought you were not a good fit, they wouldn't have asked you for an interview.

To have confidence in your abilities is one thing, but it's incredibly important for you do have confidence in yourself.

I used to suffer from similar anxiety. It was so bad I broke down DURING the interview.

One day I woke up with this phrase stuck in my head, commit or die.

Either commit to the success of your goals. Don't just achieve them, own them, or die trying.

You want that job? Fucking attack it!

@sariel that’s one kick ass post! It sucks we can only vote once

@C0D4 the list is long. Top 3 reasons: I don't have enough experience, I don't have enough knowledge of the tools used in the industry (mostly AWS, google services, etc), and I am not a genius. 😛

@sariel that is inspirational, however a past bad job causing trauma kinda ruin that. I want to commit, but last time I did I got stuck in a loop of bad management and legacy systems. 😬

I'm gonna let things flow naturally. I'll do my almost best, but whatever wil be, will be.

@NoMad That is exactly what Impostor Syndrome is.

(Reply to 1st comment)

Also, you need to chill. You fucking rock and you know it!

@NoMad free tier.

Spend some time on the weekends and get some practise.

It's not like your doing anything during the lockdown anyway....

Also, apply anyway. Nothing beats on the job training... or as we call it, being thrown in the deep end and learning to swim.

@NoMad I think you are looking at it from the wrong perspective. Personally I love getting into projects with technology I haven't used before because there is so much to learn.
Also "good enough" != know every technology and never make mistakes. "Good enough" means willing to learn (especially from mistakes). At least in my definition.
If you would know the ins and outs of every technology beforehand the job wouldn't be halve as exciting ;)

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@NoMad If you ask yourself whether you're not competent enough for the job, remember that a mumbling dude has the launch codes for the biggest nuclear weapons arsenal. 😄

I become super confident in myself when realized that I don't know absolutely nothing. Google is my only skill, and maybe that I know how things work in general. Maybe the genius people exists who can hold in memory every design pattern and just pop out every sorting algorithm from memory, but fortunately I am not one of them. And I don't care. Before I hated myself for being jack of all trades, but I find out that these memory masterminds doesn't have a piece of creativity and most of them freeze on the first non conventional problem. @ojt-rant

My favourite way to combat impostor syndrome is by deliberately invoking conman syndrome: I don't have the knowledge or experience yet but I'm going to learn it by doing and that'll show... *checks notes* me!

@PonySlaystation better that then the guy who suggested injecting hand sanitizer to fight against covid

be confident in yourself it's incredibly important for you

@sariel

*Doom soundtrack in the background*

@sariel love this.
I’ve been trying to believe in myself and if I ever can’t then I’ll put my faith in others. And by others I specifically mean the people who I perceive as “better” who are telling me that I can.
Cos they’re never wrong right? So if they say I can they must be right and I just don’t know it yet.

Seems to be having a positive effect for me. Been doing this for a couple of years now and haven’t felt half the anxiety.

@NoMad sldony fucking say it. Don’t mention you have imposters….

I've got shot down for being a sexist pig when saying this before, but sod it - I've interviewed more people than I can count, and there's a *real* gender divide with this stuff.

It's almost never a problem with the guys. They often go too far the other way tbh, claiming they're an expert in language `x` or environment `y` when they've got a weeks combined experience. We see through it easily, every time. Start probing and it all comes apart.

Women I've interviewed though - so many seem more keen to emphasise weaknesses rather than strengths as soon as they start talking - "Well I have done AWS for years, but I'm not with the times, I haven't got lambda experience yet." Then after 5 seconds of probing it's often clear they know more than me.

Point being - you don't need to think about this stuff. Experienced interviewers will see straight through it. Just present the best, honest version you can of yourself, then let the interviewer figure the rest out. That's their job, not yours.

@AlmondSauce I can't agree or disagree with this one. Might be a culture thing in your location.

I go out of my way to hire women though, because they don't get their dicks tied in a knot when someone disagrees with them.

Women consistently deliver well thought out software, and are generally easier to work with once the "male protective" walls come down.

Working with young men is usually the worst for me because they just want to prove their self-worth instead of doing their jobs.

@black-kite In what way does that show that Biden is a good president?
I think we can all agree that Mr. T wasn't great or unifying. Biden is completely incoherent and stated many times that he's not fully in charge. 😄

@PonySlaystation not to get political here, but the minimum improvement is that the new one isn't flamboyantly immoral.

@NoMad Not sure if you've seen Mr. B's blatantly racist outbursts 😄

@PonySlaystation you’re right it doesn’t prove anything about Joe. I just thought it was funny you would mention him in relation to the nuclear arsenal when his predecessor was the one who was the most likely to act irrationally and would have been capable of pressing the nuke button on a whim. At least it was the impression he gave 😅

@black-kite Mr. T. only reached a peace deal between Isreal and the UAE (no Nobel Peace Price though) and most recently a deal with the Taliban for a safe retreat out of Afghanistan, which Biden willingly broke. 😄
Again, I'm not at all a fan of Trump, but you have to admit, judging by his actions, not his words, that he wasn't as out of touch and mumbling as Mr. B.
Remember when left politicians in 2020 said they would under no circumstances take Trumps vaccine?
Guess what, now as Joe took over, they are ultra pro vaccine, while it's the very same vaccine that was in development under T.
Look, I just fucking despise US media of all political orientations. The bias is really obvious and will devide the US population further and further...

@PonySlaystation He's a politician so of course he fits the crowd. Yet he's still less annoying than his predecessor.

@NoMad I agree that Trump was annoying, but honestly, I find Biden's speeches unbearable. Without a teleprompter he objectively gets lost in his words and he speaks really slowly and in an unclear voice...
This guy is too old and objectively unfit for presidency. Sadly the Democrats' better candidates were thrown under the bus.

@PonySlaystation yeah I kinda agree. I'm still team Bernie.
But I think this one is literally like most other leaders around the globe. The expectations are low.

my approach was to not really care of the outcome, not really prepare for the meetings. I acted naturally and I got good honest results. hopr that heps :)